The bride price is not accepted, but it is not necessary to send it, but it must be accepted, and then the woman's parents decide whether to accept it. Although most of them don't accept it, some of them do, especially when the parents know that the man can't get these bride price and borrow a lot of money to get a high dowry. This situation usually irritates the woman and is accepted. There is also Jinjiang, which does not accept bride price, but most of other kinds of gold are accepted and must be accepted. There are some things we call "Pan Dan" on the wedding day. Ordinary people range from 20 thousand to hundreds of thousands, and there are big bags and small bags (two red envelopes in vanilla). Generally, big bags are not accepted, and small bags are generally accepted, although brother-in-law's red envelope is also required. However, these messy things add up to a lot. Ordinary families want hundreds of thousands, the poor want 50 thousand to 60 thousand, and the slightly richer want hundreds of thousands. Although the dowry will definitely be given, the amount is not necessarily. Some people give hundreds of millions, others don't. Generally, they will give 1.5 times or more bride price, usually between 300,000 and 500,000. Those rich towns usually give it.
After all, it depends on your own strength. Even if Jinjiang is really a large dowry, how many men want to marry Jinjiang girls? How to stand out if you are not good enough? You're good enough. Do you still care about the dowry?
I am a foreigner, my home is in Jinjiang, and my wife is from Jinjiang. Marriage in southeast coastal cities is generally open. When I got married, I asked about the bride price out of courtesy, but my mother-in-law refused. I didn't ask much. I bought all the gifts for my wife and gave her the rest. Dowry means that the wife has a house of 3 million yuan, the mother-in-law gave it to100000, and the two brothers-in-law gave it to 50000 each. I didn't ask too many questions. The house is still my wife's name. She asked me to add it. I don't see any trouble. Later, I bought a house in Jinjiang, about 6.5438+0.5 million. As far as I know, some of my wife's classmates have been married for over 100 million yuan, while others have little difficulty. My family is almost average. The key is that happiness in life is the mother-in-law's wish, and everything else is very light. The heavy dowry of Minnan girls is entirely due to the love of parents for their daughters and brothers for their sisters. No other meaning. However, most daughters in southern Fujian are capable and virtuous. In addition, since you are married, don't care about your parents' property, and don't argue with your brother in the future. This is called mutual love and respect.
It seems that the man paid for the woman's furniture, TV, sofa, air conditioner and washing machine. Some poor families only pay 60 thousand yuan.
The woman is responsible for the rest, including the car and the deposit for the bride (more cheating, some insurance).
Generally speaking, the woman is losing money.
After marriage, the bride's deposit usually meets two situations:
1, the man's family is greedy and will force the bride to take out the money for various reasons, such as not having enough money to buy a new house, because it is not necessary to buy a house to marry a wife in the south. Or business needs.
2. The bride managed to die of old age alone, and the groom was afraid to ask.
If the marriage between men and women in a country does not follow the laws of the country, then the marital status of people in this country is colorful, with strong local marriage color, different rules, different lively ways and different manners for men and women. Since ancient times, it has been said that one mile away from home, each has its own customs. In our past, having a daughter was a loss-making commodity, and having a child was a commodity. Ten men are not as good as one woman, and it is better to have a daughter. When you grow up and get married, you must make a dowry, and you must have no less gold and silver jewelry, otherwise your daughter will have no position in her husband's family. Not only is the daughter's marriage like this, but when the daughter gives birth to a child, grandma also has to spend money to be a grandmother. How many children does the daughter have, and grandma has to spend money to have children. The daughter wants to eat and drink the meal that her mother married for a month. We also have a saying here: A daughter needs at least one cotton-padded coat when she is old. There used to be a preference for boys here, but now there is no such phenomenon. On the contrary, we are happy to have children, and the children are uncomfortable. Now our daughter is not worried about not getting married, and she is afraid of not getting married, because her daughter listens to work and saves money to go home without spending money. Boys spend money when they are disobedient outside, and go home like a young master. When I grow up, I have no money to find a wife, forcing my parents to borrow money everywhere. My parents are old, with a lot of debts, and their old age is too miserable.
Our bride price here is 300,000 yuan, 200,000 yuan, at least150,000 yuan. Some women's homes are accompanied by big prices, some don't post or lose money, and some don't give any gifts, which is a woman. Because her family is too poor, there are three daughters-in-law in my village who get married without spending money, that is, get married with a license.
Indian women don't give money to their husbands when they get married, they all give money by themselves. The marriages of the four daughters-in-law I mentioned are similar to those in India, but they are all wives who work outside the home. It is impossible to marry a daughter-in-law locally now.
Let me tell you something. I am a stone lion. We were people 90 years ago, girls from ordinary families, and most of them started working as soon as they graduated from junior high school and high school. When they got married, many of them had deposits of 200,000 to 300,000 yuan. These are all her own dowries. If the family is not particularly poor, parents will buy some dowry for their daughters. The man's parents pay a dowry, a plate of burdens and candy rice oil money (candy rice oil money is not hundreds of thousands, usually tens of thousands, distributed to the woman's relatives). Both the parents of the man and the woman need to pay, and the money is usually paid by the daughter of the newly married family. This is the marriage form of most ordinary families in Jinjiang Shishi. Of course, wonderful parents abound, all for their own money, trying to get their children to search for each other for themselves. This is the least desirable.
Nonsense, except Jinjiang, there are several places where Lao Tzu really married a woman with more money, and most places are where men pay more bride price. Anyway, I'm from Anhai, Jinjiang, and here it is (へ).
Dowry depends on your understanding. For example, should your brother and sister share their parents' property? When you pay the amount, your parents will give you a property in the form of a dowry to support your family and career.
The bride price is also very important in form, except that the woman's family does not accept it, but it should also be returned to the man's family, which is generally given to young people, indicating that both parents are supporting the newlyweds to start their own businesses.
Parents have to start their own business by raising their children until they get married. At this time, the responsibility of raising children as parents has been completed, and I will wait for you to repay their kindness in the future. This is not a transaction, this is conscience and morality, and this is cultural inheritance.
In case of divorce in the future, the dowry property also belongs to the woman.
I come from Jinjiang.