No swearing, no swearing

Swearing and swearing are the most likely to irritate people and make enemies. Didn't you hear them: "A sharp knife cuts easily, but bad words hurt people and hate them hard to get rid of. Therefore, when we talk to others, we should use gentle words and really care about others.

Don't be short, don't show off your strengths.

Disciples' Rules says, "People have shortcomings that cannot be revealed, and people have private affairs that cannot be said." Finding fault and exposing it will embarrass the other party. To err is human. Grasping the shortcomings and shortcomings of others and criticizing and complaining will make enemies and lose popularity.

When talking, indulging in boasting about your own strengths and advantages will not only help to achieve a good conversation atmosphere, but may also lead to resentment from the other party.

Harmony, harmony, well said.

Duplicity is the taboo of being a man, and duplicity is the taboo of talking.

The so-called duplicity means having a good heart and no good expression. "Knife mouth, tofu heart" refers to this kind of person. Talking with friends and relatives is more common, especially among family members. It is clearly for the good of the other party, but what you said is very ugly. Good words can avoid many misunderstandings and unhappiness, and make the other person feel like a spring breeze.

Be good at controlling emotions and avoiding trouble.

No matter to whom, no matter on what occasion, words with serious emotions, especially angry words, are difficult for the other party to accept, and even lead to various contradictions.

Disciple Rules says: "If you are patient with words, your anger will disappear. Therefore, we must control our dissatisfaction and avoid causing trouble. You might as well pour a glass of water and take a walk outdoors to express your emotions, calm yourself down and avoid the trouble of coining words.

If the other party is angry, we should also proceed from the overall situation of harmonious coexistence and comfort patiently in language.

Envoys treat each other with courtesy and equality.

That is to say, when your position is higher than the other party, your length of service is longer than the other party, or you are on your side, be careful not to oppress others forcibly. Instead, you should put yourself in the same position as the other party, talk to the other party in a negotiated tone and a gentle tone, and in words that are easy for the other party to accept. The following is a good example of "courtesy":

The general manager of a star hotel hurried into the lobby on a cold rainy day. When he found the floor so clean and spotless, he took the initiative to hold the cleaner's hand and kindly praised: "You are maintaining the facade of our hotel, and your work is first-class!" "The cleaner's whole body suddenly spread through the warm current. This heartless general manager who knows how to be polite to his subordinates is sure to bring out a first-class team in all departments.

Don't strive for victory, be modest.

People who are competitive in conversation and refuse to lose often turn the conversation into an argument, which then develops into wrangling, sophistry and even personal attacks. Being competitive is particularly prominent among young people. This is despicable, hurtful and kind.

As the saying goes, "the sky does not boast, and the earth does not boast." Usually pay attention to self-restraint and modesty, and show your modesty when you speak.

Take the initiative to review and treat each other sincerely.

If you find that you are at fault, you can actively and realistically review yourself and get the understanding of the other party, which is the actual performance of respecting the other party's personality. At the same time, it can also arouse each other's understanding and sympathy, and then carry out friendly cooperation.

Tell the truth when you speak, and tell the truth in order to get the understanding and help of the other party. Confucius said, "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you." No one likes to be deceived by lies or sweet words. So, be sure to change your mind and tell the truth. The best way is to connect people, treat each other with sincerity and respect each other.