Premarital
After young Miao men and women fell in love, their parents chose an auspicious day for them to get married. However, at some time before marriage, men and women can meet, commonly known as not meeting before marriage. The day before the wedding, the man showed the wedding supplies to the woman. In these wedding ceremonies, there is a big and thick glutinous rice Baba, made of 25 to 30 pounds of glutinous rice flour. As big as a dustpan, it means that the bride and groom are round and well-fed after marriage.
Pick up the bride for the wedding.
On this wedding day, both men and women entertain relatives, friends and villagers at home. Accompanied by several groomsmen, the groom went to get married with gifts. There should be an experienced middle-aged man among the wedding guests. When the wedding guests arrive at the woman's village, the woman will stretch out a bamboo pole to block the way and sing with the wedding guests. After each song, the brides will give gifts to these women, and they will take back the bamboo poles to make way. Walk like this, sing a song, repeat it several times, and you will arrive at the bride's house. In the meantime, it is necessary to prevent the groom from letting the woman take it away. If taken away, they will hide the groom so that the married person can I can't pick up the bride on time. At the bride's house, the girls will tease him around the groom and the guests will laugh. What's more, some girls even vilify the groom S, and people will burst into laughter when watching the groom's chaos.
wedding
After the bride gets married and comes home, she will hold a meeting ceremony. The bride and groom will toast their elders and guests and accept their congratulations. Before eating, the bride and groom should feed their parents the first bowl of rice. In the meantime, girls from the groom's family can cover the groom with a big bamboo basket when they see the bride, so that the groom can't move. Watching the groom struggling in the laundry list, people laughed, adding infinite fun to the wedding.
In some places where Miao people live in compact communities, there is also an ancient custom of robbing relatives, called Lamicai. On the basis of free love between young men and women, the two sides agreed on the time and place to rob relatives. At that time, the man will find some good friends to take the bride home. It is said that if this form of marriage robbery is carried out, the woman will be justified if the husband and wife disagree or the man likes new things and old things in the future. After the bride was robbed of her husband's family, the wedding was held according to the rules of the Miao family. At the same time, male history will give gifts to female history, explain the situation and apologize, and the woman's family will reprimand and yell at her. Then, she will accept the gift. In some areas, there will be fun fights: when a girl learns that a man is going to rob her, she will deliberately hide and invite several female companions in the same village to wait with brooms and bamboo poles. When the man who robbed the bride arrived at the scheduled place, he didn't see the bride. Confused, suddenly, the ambush came out, and countless brooms and bamboo poles fell on the heads and bodies of relatives. Boys suddenly realize, but according to custom, they must resist. They used brooms and bamboo poles to find the bride. When they found the sight of the bride, they joined hands to make new efforts to prevent girls from chasing and robbing the bride back to the man's house.
According to the custom, the bride can catch the bride and don't leave this is our home. When the bride arrives at the man's house, it means that she has become a member of the man's house and can't just go back to her family. In Malipo and other places, the girl was taken to her husband's house, symbolically covered with a paper umbrella, and then used.
Crying marriage
Generally, brides start crying three or seven days before the wedding, and some start crying and singing half a month, a month or even three months ago. However, at first, all this happened intermittently. Cry if you want. When relatives and neighbors come to give gifts, everyone will cry and thank them. The next day, at Xi's wedding, she got into a sedan chair, and her crying marriage reached a climax. During this period, crying and singing must be carried out according to traditional etiquette, and crying is not allowed. Whoever can stop crying will be laughed at and even discriminated against by others. Generally speaking, the contents of crying songs mainly include crying parents, crying brothers and sisters, crying uncles, crying companions, crying matchmakers, crying hair, crying ancestors, crying sedan chairs and so on. Traditionally, lyrics have been handed down from generation to generation by brides and weeping sisters. The main content is to thank parents and elders for their kindness and the care of brothers and sisters; Crying about the sadness of the happy life that is about to die in girlhood and the confusion and anxiety before the arrival of a new life. There are also many dissatisfaction with marriage, the hatred and helplessness of the matchmaker to life, and so on.