I remember hearing a saying: a real man with a strong character can be fearless of life and death and challenges to his wife and children. Even if the abyss is just around the corner, you can keep your face straight.
This sentence is correct in most cases. I believe many men can do it unless the husband and wife disagree and lose the courage to fight!
Marriage itself is a mountain, and it is unrealistic without pressure. As long as the husband and wife are United, both men and women can bear all the pressure. If husband and wife disagree, it will only drag each other's back.
For some people, mediocrity in this life is not terrible. The terrible thing is to choose the wrong lover! The terrible thing is not only that you don't work hard, but that you take it for granted.
Let me tell you a marriage case, which I have studied. Some of the logic is really thought-provoking.
Some "neets" can be called parents' creditors in their previous lives! I have no ability, and I blame my parents for not being rich.
Not terrible. What's terrible is that there are still some neets who could have lived alone all their lives, but they just married a foot-dragger and accidentally ruined the rest of their lives!
Let's talk about a couple who are eager to get old.
Because there are some things I can't say, I won't say this case, just the logic of this marriage case.
Xiaoyun, 25, and Xiao Qiang, 27, are husband and wife. They have no job and depend on their parents to eat and drink. They got married and had a child.
According to Xiaoyun, because her mother-in-law didn't buy herself a mobile phone, she was very wronged. At that time, Apple's mobile phone was very cheap, and her mother-in-law only needed to add 2,000 yuan to get a new mobile phone. But my mother-in-law loves money very much, so she saved flowers and missed the cheapest opportunity.
Xiaoyun complained to her husband Xiao Qiang because her mother-in-law didn't give her money to buy a mobile phone. She dropped Xiao Qiang's game headset and made Xiao Qiang ask his parents for money.
Xiao Qiang was very embarrassed. He advised Xiaoyun that it was not easy for us to get married. The bride price for buying a house and buying a car spent all my parents' life savings and owed hundreds of thousands. Be considerate of my parents and buy you a good one in the future.
Xiaoyun is very sad. She cried and made noise and gave Xiao Qiang an ultimatum.
Xiao Yun told Xiao Qiang: A man must love his wife, but you can't! If you don't want money, I'll divorce you. How did you promise me? If you forget, well, I won't live with you either. I will find a good one after the divorce. Find anyone better than you!
Xiao Qiang struggled, and finally he gritted his teeth and agreed to Xiao Yun's request. On the same day, I went to my parents' house, asked them for money and bought Xiaoyun a mobile phone.
Parents don't agree, parents let Xiao Qiang live a good life. Life is not easy. Don't spend so much money. It's time for you to get a job. You all have children. You can't always depend on us. In the future, you must rely on yourself. ...
Xiao Qiang felt that his parents didn't give him face, and he obviously looked down on himself. He complained that his father was incompetent, which made his life difficult.
Father told him to leave here. He quarreled with his father and was scolded by his father.
When his father quarreled, Xiaoyun joined in, crying and making trouble. She said that she married the wrong family and wanted a divorce. Xiao Qiang's mother let go several times and almost got the money. But my father is determined to earn money by himself.
Xiao Qiang and Xiaoyun quarreled for no reason, and finally their parents didn't give them money. The husband and wife were helpless and left angrily.
Second, the unfilial son was "taught" by his wife.
Xiao Yun was very angry when he got home that day.
She sarcastically said to Xiao Qiang: You called their parents for so many years, and I gave you a break at the critical moment. You are useless, just wait to be single, I can't live with you. You don't even love your wife. What's the use of you?
Xiao Qiang asked her, what else can you do? My parents really didn't have the money, so they bought us a house and a car, but they didn't let us repay the loan. That's good.
Xiaoyun scolded him: you waste, don't you understand what your parents mean? They say that if you don't work, you won't be given money if you throw it away, and you will be expected to support the elderly in the future! You are so stupid. You are so stupid. I am not stupid. I feel that your parents still have a lot of money, but they deliberately don't want to give it to you, and they will leave it to your three sisters in the future. Wait till you become a beggar!
Hearing this, Xiao Qiang thought Xiao Yun was right. Parents did say that they didn't expect him to support the elderly. Does this mean that they expect three sisters to support the elderly? On second thought, are parents going to leave all their money to their sister in the future?
Xiao Qiang is very entangled, more think more angry. Growing up, my father never gave himself a good face.
Xiaoyun gave Xiao Qiang an idea: Let's talk about it later. I don't need a mobile phone for the time being. But at present, we are almost at a loss. Let's go to your parents' house to find some money to spend.
The next morning, my father went to the market to sell vegetables, and the couple came to their parents' house. Xiaoyun specially came to chat with her mother-in-law, who coaxed her children.
Xiao Qiang took the opportunity to go to the back room and dug out 3000 yuan under the mat beside his father's bed. He stuffed it into his pocket and found a reason to leave his parents' house.
This 3000 yuan is the money that parents are going to give their children "full moon wine", so Xiao Qiang "avoided talking about it".
Back home, Xiao Yun asked Xiao Qiang about his harvest.
Xiao Qiang took out 1500 and gave it to Xiaoyun. Other 1500 he dare not say, keep it for himself. That night, Xiao Qiang "accidentally" spent money on a certain game and bought some equipment.
Xiaoyun is not idle, and 1500 can't buy a mobile phone. She bought a fur coat and a pair of famous slippers from 200 yuan.
The couple spend money with resentment, and they spend money like water. It takes only one day for 3,000 yuan to be less than 100.
A few days later, parents wanted to give their children a full moon wine and found that the money was gone. You don't have to think about it. Xiao Qiang liked "Shun" things when he was very young, and his parents locked him in.
The father blamed Xiao Qiang for not being filial to his son. He didn't let you suffer a little from childhood, bought you a car, bought you a house, got married, and now he is heavily in debt. We'll raise your children, we'll buy you milk powder, but you just don't work and are still stealing!
Three, a mistake, a lifelong regret.
Although Xiao Qiang is half-mixed, he is a little afraid of his father. Seeing my father is really impatient. If you don't admit it, you have to admit it.
Xiao Qiang had tears in her eyes: I took it, but I have spent it. Instead of giving it to others, it is better to spend a little on yourself! It's useless for you to scold me again, or you can scold me to death and see who you can't move to support you and regret it! My second uncle still owes you 8 thousand, more than ten years Come back quickly, it won't affect your wedding reception.
Father was very angry and went home to drink, while Xiaoyun called Aunt Xiao Qiang for money. My second aunt sent 8000 yuan that day and left without saying anything. Because Xiaoyun wants money, the family is very unhappy.
At the full moon banquet, Xiao Qiang's second aunt didn't come and went out to do chores. Only his second uncle came. Xiao Qiang's father drank too much and scolded Xiao Qiang on the wine table.
Xiao Qiang felt ashamed of being scolded. Xiaoyun stepped forward and cried in front of relatives and friends. I can't live this life. I want a divorce. Your family are all misers and poor people. I married your family blindly!
Xiaoyun kept going, even her family couldn't stand it, and left without eating. Xiao Qiang doesn't know where he got the courage. He lifted a table and turned a chair. The father and son seem to be enemies. If Xiao Qiang hadn't been taken away by his neighbor, he might have done it.
Xiao Qiang was very unhappy that night. Xiaoyun kept scolding him: If your family is not so poor, can I suffer this injustice in front of everyone? I don't want to live with you, get divorced early!
Xiao Qiang became angry from embarrassment and went to ask his father for money that night. He wants to separate from his father and make a clean division so that he will stay out of it in the future.
When he came to his parents' door, Xiao Qiang knocked for a while, but his parents didn't open the door for him. Xiao Qiang had to turn around and saw a couple on the road. ...
In Xiao Qiang's story: At night, I don't think they look like good people, so I want to borrow some money from them. I am willing to write an IOU. Not only did they not borrow it, but the man also wanted to fight with me. I was angry, so I had a fight with him. I couldn't beat it, so I kept running, and then I went to the factory, and I was relieved to see that man stopped chasing. It's always my fault. I didn't touch the man's finger. I don't know how he got hurt. Not so serious ...
This time, the mistake is a lifelong regret, and Xiao Qiang's sale of the house is not enough to compensate. One of the three sisters helped him return 30 thousand yuan to others.
Fourth, sometimes you can't blame yourself for a bad life.
Xiao Qiang was caught before dawn, and Xiao Yun didn't want to live with him. Xiaoyun sobbed and said that he was wronged to marry him, but he was unable to say or do anything. If I had known his behavior, I wouldn't have got married. There is no future living with such a man. ...
In Xiaoyun's story, there is a very realistic saying: it is human nature to be too poor and love the rich. His family is poor, of course I want to divorce him. No one can say that I am realistic. His family is reluctant to buy me a mobile phone, and I still have a hard time with him! If he is only alive, I am willing to live with him, no matter how bitter and poor he is. I can't stand his selfishness. I don't want to bear the bad things he did. I had to leave his house.
I won't say much about this marriage case. I can't say anything more. That's probably the way it is.
As the saying goes, debt is on the head, but Xiao Qiang's disaster was finally ended by his parents. Xiao Qiang's mother went to her three daughters' home and cried and begged them to help her worthless son. Xiao Qiang's sister couldn't help it. A person has paid more than 30,000 yuan, which is exactly 65,438+10,000 yuan. ...
This matter is not over yet. According to my colleague's sister, Xiao Qiang will live in it for at least 10 years.
Xiao Qiang's mother once cried and said: The old man and I have always wanted to marry a daughter-in-law for our son, and we will complete the task in this life, but he will not live up to expectations. If I had known this, I might as well let him be a bachelor for life. ...
This is probably the feeling of hating iron and not turning into steel. Children fail to live up to expectations, and the most sad people are parents. I didn't let him suffer since he was a child. I spoiled him. I can't take it anymore.
They all say they are poor inheritors of the wind. If they continue to be miserable, they will end up really miserable.
There is an important logic in this case: if Xiao Qiang didn't marry Xiaoyun or married a woman who knows how to live, maybe he is a different fate. To say the least, even being single may be better than now.
Of course, it's not that one family doesn't enter one household. How can a really good woman marry such an old man?
Xiaoyun married him because he has a house and a car, and now Xiaoyun is fighting for a divorce. Yes, Xiao Yun has no responsibility. She said she was relieved and could look again.
This case is very emotional. Even if a man can't marry a woman in Wang Fu, he can't marry Xiao Yun.
Colleagues' evaluation of this case is: parents will spoil you, society will not spoil you, and there is no harm in spoiling you. This evaluation is very pertinent. For some people, being single is better than getting married.