Once upon a time, Japanese actress Kanazawa held a special wedding for herself.

There was no groom in this special wedding, so Sha Cang chose to marry herself, put on a soft wedding dress and a wedding ring carefully selected by herself, and vowed to love herself forever and make herself happy regardless of health, illness, poverty and wealth.

It is said that this is a new concept of marriage that has gradually become popular in Japan in recent years: self-marriage

Netizens have different opinions about the unique marriage form of "self-marriage", including many voices of opposition and ridicule.

Some people say that women who choose "self-marriage" are a group of lunatics, and they are afraid that they will be laughed at if they can't get married, so they make such strange behavior. Since I have chosen this road, I am afraid I can only be doomed to die alone.

But more people, especially women, expressed understanding, including even envious people.

A wedding website in Japan analyzes the causes of this new thing and summarizes the reasons why women choose "self-marriage".

1, marriageable age can't find a suitable marriage partner.

At present, more and more girls will send out such feelings. Why is it so difficult to find a suitable marriage partner?

Although the girls are confused, in essence, this is not a bad thing. Because this just means that women's horizons have become broader, more mature and excellent because of the improvement of education and more and more job opportunities.

When they choose a spouse, they will also ask men with better conditions in all aspects to match them.

They cherish this kind of life and are cautious, and they are never willing to make do with it casually. If they can't find a man with the same views and interests, they are willing to go on like this.

Although it seems more difficult to find a partner, fortunately, women have the right to choose independently, and it is not a blessing to hold the initiative in their own hands whether to marry or not, compared with the cruel fate of women being dominated for thousands of years.

I am more and more disappointed in my feelings.

As a vested interest in the marriage system, a considerable number of men are not satisfied.

When it comes to women's emotional harm, there are countless books. Mambo men, bloodsucking men, cheating love rat, emotional zombies, formal marriage homosexuality and so on emerge in endlessly.

When the girl was seriously ill in hospital, her boyfriend not only failed to give support and comfort, but left without saying goodbye;

When a girl is immersed in the sweetness of love, she finds that her boyfriend secretly cheated her best friend;

When talking about marriage, the man told his fiancee seriously that he would be filial to his mother in the future, because it was not easy for her to give birth to him and raise him.

After giving birth to children, men go out to sing every night, ignoring your postpartum depression, which is simply torture;

Children go to school and can't see their fathers for several days. If you are widowed, you should always be on your guard against your husband, lest he suddenly cheat the body and accuse you of your education.

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How can a woman not become more and more disappointed with love and men if she has personally experienced or witnessed the suffering of people around her?

I want to bid farewell to the past and affirm myself now.

So women began to learn to stay away from love and reflect on whether they can live happily alone. The answer is yes.

Women can now maintain their living standards by their own efforts, but they don't have to worry about being downgraded by marriage and having children.

We devote ourselves to our work, and we can do something that makes us happy in our spare time. We can travel to any corner of the world and see all kinds of customs. We can stay at home, read books, play cat games and watch love beans.

We find that there are many things a person can do. We are no longer afraid of eating, watching movies, going to the hospital and traveling alone.

Walking alone does not delay us from enjoying the beauty of this road. We no longer need that relationship that is always full of negative energy, and we are no longer willing to spend ourselves on meaningless people or things.

So we can bid farewell to ourselves in the past and become more respectful and cherish ourselves from now on.

People's life is not a last resort, but a careful choice we have the courage to make because we are no longer afraid of loneliness and loneliness.

4. Just dream of wearing a wedding dress once.

When women no longer spend time and energy to find someone to marry, they strengthen their belief in being alone, so they have the idea of holding a ceremony to commemorate their growth.

Although I don't have to marry a man, I still hope to wear the wedding dress I dreamed of since I was a child. We may not be brides, but we can still be our own princesses.

Our beauty and brilliance may not bring love, but it will definitely make us more confident and have more reason to be kind to ourselves. Happiness should never be defined by others, but should be a real heartfelt feeling.

Weddings should be so dreamy and romantic. Even if you don't find the right person to walk into the marriage hall hand in hand, it doesn't mean that women should give up this dream.

To love yourself, we must strive to realize our wishes, give ourselves the most beautiful wedding, and live up to the years and youth.

Therefore, it seems that the four reasons why women choose "self-marriage" are actually a complete mental journey for women to "self-marriage".

Because of the difficulty in finding love, I was hurt again and again, and I chose to hide in the corner to heal myself, but I found the true meaning of life in the process of healing gradually: love myself first.

So women were encouraged by new beliefs, gradually moved away from the fear of loneliness, became confident and calm, and then decided to reward themselves with the best gift, a solemn and dreamy wedding.

Perhaps this kind of wedding is just a form and has not been recognized by the state and society. But existence is reasonable, and it is an inevitable product of social development that women choose to marry themselves.

Thanks to the rapid development of science and technology and productivity, women gradually have the same knowledge and ability as men, and can live independently without relying on men.

However, men are not aware of this change or unwilling to admit it, and still stick to the original mode of getting along, which also leads to the disagreement between the two at this stage, making a considerable number of women think that in this world, only they know themselves best and only they can make themselves happy.

In any case, we should thank women for having the right to decide their own lives.

It seems that men should update their old ideas as soon as possible, stop taking women's emotional contributions for granted, grow up quickly, take on men's responsibilities and help women regain their confidence in marriage and love. In the final analysis, a win-win situation is the best outcome.