Don't say how rich a family is, take ordinary people for example. What should be prepared at the wedding is basically not vague. After all, so many relatives and friends get together, and people with a little face and self-cultivation know that you can't be greedy and cheap at a wedding.
I think many people have a deep understanding of this matter. Messi once bought a pier glass of more than ten pieces on the Internet because he was greedy for cheap. As a result, when I received the courier, Macy was really dumbfounded. This is not a mirror. The whole mirror is not as big as my pillow.
After this experience, Messi also seriously reflected. Some things have to be spent, thinking about greed and cheap, often only "stealing chickens and not eating rice."
Tell me another funny thing. My mother bought a pot some time ago. On the day she bought it, she showed me how cheap it was, ten times cheaper than what I bought. And the result? Relatives came to the house to get some stewed chicken with pine mushrooms. My mother took the pot to stew, and the pot leaked directly.
Whether it's the mini mirror I bought or the inferior pot my mother bought, the impact of these petty advantages is actually relatively small. You know, some things, in parents, are no small matter. If you continue to covet small things and cheap things in big things, then the ending is often self-restraint.
A few days ago, Messi received a letter from a reader. She asked me, "Is it true that a mother-in-law wants to marry a wife without spending money?" After hearing what she said, I thought something must have happened to her, so I asked her, "What's the matter? Does the husband's family not give a bride price? "
She replied to me: "The bride price was given, but it was also discounted. When talking about the bride price, my mother also advised me not to argue, otherwise my husband's family would borrow money for the bride price, and it would not be our junior who came back after marriage. I listened to my mother's advice, and the 80 thousand bride price was only 38 thousand in the end, but I really didn't expect our family to be so reasonable, but their family was getting more and more pushy! "
Later, I talked with her for a long time, and she also told me the whole story. It can be said that Messi felt particularly angry after listening. I continued to ask her, "Do you know this? Doesn't he know how to stop it? "
Maybe I asked her this question, and she was silent for a while before saying, "I learned later that he knew, so we separated and it was over!" " "
After more than three years of love, I can feel her reluctance to part with this relationship from her mouth. However, it is because the mother-in-law is greedy for petty gain, clever at the wedding, and thinks she is smart, which completely ruins this relationship and the happiness of her son.
So, what happened on the wedding day? The reader said this:
The mother-in-law is basically responsible for the wedding, and mom and dad just made a few simple requests, such as: preparing to knock on the door; The wedding banquet need not be too good or too bad, six or seven hundred and one tables are enough; Drinks and cigarettes depend on how the husband's family arranges them. You can buy it yourself or match it in a hotel, as long as it's passable, and you don't need to buy too good one.
I'm not saying that such requirements are really low. After all, my classmate and I live in the same place, and her wedding banquet has more than 900 tables, not including drinks.
I thought my mother-in-law was sure to meet such low requirements. Did I ask her if there were any difficulties in these requirements before? If there is any difficulty, we can discuss it again. At that time, she swore to me that she would not lack anything and that her family would not treat me badly.
And the result? There was a bag knocking at the door on the wedding day, but my best friend told me that many of the bags she robbed were empty and there was no dime in them. Later, I also asked other people, and they also talked to me: "It's only two yuan to throw a bag. If not, then send less red envelopes. What is the situation of throwing empty bags? "
Needless to say, I was a little unhappy at that time because the bags were distributed to our relatives and friends. My mother-in-law didn't respect me and my family. But I held back at the time. I want to talk to my mother-in-law after the wedding.
But when I arrived at the hotel, my relatives came to chat with me. My father pulled me aside and asked me what the drink was on the table. I was too busy entertaining guests to notice the drinks on the table. As a result, when I looked carefully, there were many mineral water bottles on the table, some of which were still colored.
It turns out that those are not mineral water at all, but white wine and drinks brought by my mother-in-law Liquor is made outside, and drinks are brewed by my mother-in-law with various powders at home. After learning the truth, not only my father was angry, but I was also angry.
I went directly to my mother-in-law and asked her what she meant, but she proudly told me, "am I smart?" Anyway, they are all drinks, which are cheaper than once or twice! It took me a long time to repair this, but it made me very tired ... "
Before my mother-in-law finished speaking, I tore the veil in a rage. I gave her a bad temper: "haha, you are so smart!" Don't ruin me, I won't marry! "
Macy's Emotional Classroom: There must be a degree of greed and petty gain, and there must be occasions for cleverness.
On the wedding day, the mother-in-law was clever, and the girl angrily pulled off the veil: Don't spoil me, don't marry.
Rulers have their strengths, push your luck, and people's abilities are different, so people will say that everything should be done according to your abilities. But doing what you can does not mean being greedy and cheap, let alone treating others as fools and playing some tricks.
To tell the truth, anyone who meets such a mother-in-law on such a big event as marriage will not leave a good face. After all, the wedding is an attitude of the man's family. We can keep everything simple, but we can't deliberately destroy others.
For petty gain, Messi just said that everyone will have petty gain, but there is a limit to petty gain. You know, greed for petty gain is at most a loss for yourself, so spend money to buy a lesson; However, greed for big and cheap, greed for small and cheap, is often a kind of complacency, draw water with a sieve.
Besides being smart. In real life, some mothers-in-law always feel that they are particularly clever, especially when it comes to marrying a daughter-in-law. But you should also understand that women are not fools, and your cleverness is often cheated by cleverness.
Therefore, be honest and sincere, be greedy and cheap, and be clever on different occasions!