Although it is a happy thing to get married at home, there will inevitably be some unpleasant times in the preparation process. At this time, it is the key to keep a calm mind and solve the problem beautifully. The publicist of our own wedding is ourselves! Therefore, you must know the following guidelines for everyone.
1 Advise parents to be both soft and hard.
Newcomers and parents often stumble in marriage preparation because of their different ages, growing backgrounds and thinking habits. At this time, don't be impulsive. It is much more effective to state the facts and reasons to both parents in a gentle way than to say "I must" at every turn.
Newcomer recommendation: prepare more examples.
In fact, it's really hard to explain your thoughts to parents who don't usually touch fashion. My approach is to carefully explain to them the vivid examples collected on the magazine website, "I want this effect" and "it doesn't cost too much money". With the facts, it is easier to convince them.
Don't catch everything.
Unless you are a publicist who has planned many successful events, don't take all the wedding preparations on yourself. To learn to be a successful coordinator, not a competent performer, few people in the world can have the best actor and the best director at the same time.
Newcomer recommendation: reasonable allocation of funds.
Many friends told me that after the wedding, it was discovered that wedding planning really needed more thought and expense, and the effect was absolutely obvious. So when I got married, I chose a well-known wedding company and took full responsibility, which also made me feel a lot easier.
Have the consciousness of entering a new life.
Marriage is a brand-new stage of life. Newcomers must have an understanding of the future two-in-one or even six-in-one life. While enjoying happiness, we should also have responsible courage and responsibility. With such awareness, thinking can be fully mature.
Newcomer recommendation: Be sure to have a wedding.
As a senior who successfully held a wedding, what I want to say to you is that you must hold a wedding. This is the first important thing you two have done together. If you encounter difficulties, solve them together, and share happiness, you will certainly gain rich wedding feelings.
Step 4 focus on good news
Modern people's marriage message is actually a formalism that abandons the form. After confirming the official date of the wedding, you can "spread" the news to your relatives and friends. Call friends two months before the wedding, send invitations half a month before the wedding, and make final confirmation one week before the wedding.
Newcomer recommendation: Never learn idol drama.
Never send invitations one month before the wedding, as in idol dramas. It is melodramatic, which has no practical effect. I sent an invitation to my friends through QQ and MSN. Call relatives first, and then half a month ago, I sent out the wedding start time, map and other designed invitations, which was both practical and polite.
5 partners choose skillfully
In wedding preparation, you need three kinds of talents most. First, a patient close friend is always ready for your requirements and difficulties; One is an able person with many ways, smart brains and new ideas; There is also a close friend who can help you analyze problems from an objective perspective and throw cold water on you.
Newcomer recommendation: get ready early
Shortly after the official wedding date was confirmed, I began to look for suitable team members among my friends and invited everyone to get together and discuss. On the one hand, we can brainstorm, on the other hand, we can get everyone into the state as soon as possible, especially those sisters who are about to get married, and their enthusiasm is 100%.
Communication is the way to solve difficulties.
Before marriage, it is not uncommon for couples to quarrel, have a cold war or even break up because of preparation problems. After our diagnosis, the most critical point is the lack of necessary and effective communication between the two sides. Solving the communication problem in wedding preparation is the premise of solving the communication after marriage.
Newcomer recommendation: relax moderately.
I am very active in preparing for the wedding, even a little anxious; But the groom is a tone that has nothing to do with himself, which brings many contradictions and quarrels. In fact, if you think about it carefully, it is also the result of lack of patience and confidence in each other. Sincere communication is the solution.
7 Don't be afraid of anxiety before marriage.
According to our survey, about 80% brides will have anxiety before marriage. But please rest assured that this is normal, because most people have anxiety before important events happen. The key is to find out the crux and come up with countermeasures.
Newcomer recommendation: learn to adapt
In fact, when we are at school, before exams, at work and during important tasks, we are all anxious. So when preparing to get married, I often use my previous successful experience to encourage myself, and I will definitely finish it. After a long time, my anxiety will be reduced a lot.
Foreign customs should be respected.
If one of the newlyweds is a foreigner and the wedding is decided to be held in Shanghai, we should pay attention to integrating some other people's habits, otherwise other parents and relatives who come to the wedding will feel neglected and may have a bad influence on their married life.
Newcomer recommendation: pay attention to details.
My husband is a foreigner, so we pay special attention to the choice of wedding dishes and add some spicy dishes from his hometown. Accommodation is also arranged in advance. If you lose this courtesy, you will get along with each other in the future.
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Don't fight alone
Marriage is a family matter, don't take all the tasks on yourself and fight alone. Listen to your elders and friends, or your wedding will be a one-man show. Besides, inviting everyone to participate in the preparation can save a lot of hard work and make greater progress.
The human body will feel the fun and happiness.
Make some trade-offs appropriately
It is best to arrange all the contents in the wedding preparation in order of priority in your mind, concentrate on the main aspects when necessary, and abandon the secondary links appropriately. If you are greedy for perfection, there is a good chance that the wedding will be held, but you will get sick. It is really short of success, and it is not worth the loss. There are also some projects, such as honeymoon, buying a diamond ring, which can be done later.
Arrange daily work
The collision between wedding preparation and work is a problem encountered by many brides and a source of some contradictions. I suggest that you should think about the wedding topic after you finish your work anyway, so that you can have a good mood and physical strength in a relaxed state and improve your efficiency. Don't burn at both ends like a candle.