Etiquette and human feelings
Call father father and mother mother. In the older generation, some people call dad big and mom empress.
Parents who call dad, dad and mother-in-law; Grandpa, grandma, grandpa's wife called dad; Call father's brothers uncles, uncles, second dads, third dads, fourth uncles, etc. And call his wife aunt, little nun, third mother, etc. Call dad's sister aunt, aunt; Call her husband, uncle and aunt.
Call mother's parents father, grandfather, mother-in-law and grandmother; Call mother's brother and his wife uncle and aunt; Call mother's sister and wife menstruation and aunt.
Human relations: since ancient times, Zhong Xiang has been simple in folk customs and valued righteousness over profit. Adversity and misfortune depend on each other when making friends. Some neighbors get along very well, and they are like a family every day, and they are closer than relatives. As the saying goes, "a distant relative is not as good as a close neighbor, and a close neighbor is not as good as the opposite." At the same time, there is a wind of respecting teachers and valuing morality. Gifts are exchanged between relatives and friends, and there are many names. On holidays, weddings, funerals, celebrations, imports and birthdays, gifts should be given to congratulate people, commonly known as "rushing people's feelings" or "giving people away", while the host family is called "doing things". In the past, cloth, sugar and fried dough sticks were usually used as gifts. Now, regardless of urban and rural areas, red envelopes are basically given.
If you attend the wedding, the guests should congratulate the parents of the couple. The usual greeting is "Congratulations to both of them!" The parents of the couple will also humbly smile and say, "Help them both!" "
When attending the old man's birthday, the general guests will bless the old birthday star and say, "Blessed are you two!" " "I wish them a long life!"
Etiquette and social interaction: Zhongxiang people have always been hospitable, shaking hands with guests and saying "distinguished guests". The guest went out and told him to "go away" and "come back to play". If you stay for dinner, there must be wine. There is a saying that "wine doesn't blame food", and it is called "wine has no food, and guests don't blame it; If you have food and no wine, stand up and leave ",which is intended to emphasize the importance of wine. It's not like we don't prepare vegetables and rice. Be sure to drink it before meals, not after meals, otherwise it will "offend people" (homophonic "on meals"). No matter how rich the dish is, the host will say, "Nothing, just seven!" " Food and wine must be strongly recommended, and guests had better "drink well and not get drunk". If the host can't drink well, please ask someone who can drink to persuade him to drink. Rice is also added by force, so as not to make the guests have enough to eat.
In the past, Zhongxiang people invited guests to hold banquets, and they were very particular about seats and seating arrangements. Generally speaking, the seat facing south is called the "upper edge". If the door of the house does not face south, take the door as the orientation sign, and take the one with the back against the cabinet and facing the door as the upper edge. The left and right are accompanying seats, and the opposite is the lower edge. The wood grain of the table seam should be left and right, not facing the upper edge. If more than two seats are arranged at the same time, the main hall is the chief and the host and guest are seated. The lobby is the second seat, where ordinary guests sit. The identity, qualifications and age of the accompanying guests should be equivalent to those of the guests. At the banquet, if someone doesn't drink, or finishes the wine first, before eating rice, he must say to the guests who are still drinking, "Take your time and I'll eat with them." The guests who finish their meal first should say to the other guests present, "Slow down, two girls, I left my weight behind!" " "The host will immediately give the finished guests cigarettes and tea. Today, these customs still exist in rural areas, but they are far less strict than in the old society. Cities pay less attention to round tables because they use them more.