A psychologist once listed the characteristics of his ideal partner, and then looked for a suitable partner in a city with a population of one million according to these listed characteristics. Using the calculation method of mathematical probability, he finally figured out that in this huge city, there may be only 6,000 people who meet his requirements, and it is unknown whether these people can stay with him in the end. Therefore, if we completely follow the thinking of finding the best goods, it is actually difficult to find a suitable partner.
What is our intimate relationship? It is that we know each other's secrets and have a deeper understanding of each other's past experiences. By asking and answering questions, we get to know each other better, and the content of self-exposure is increasing. When we are willing to expose ourselves, it is actually a sign of trusting each other. Therefore, the development of intimate relationship needs us to know each other better. Only by knowing each other's past experience can we have a correct understanding of our partner's behavior and be more willing to accept and tolerate each other.
Many times, we will fall into the entanglement of whether to start a relationship, and this entanglement will often make us miss the original opportunity, and love will never wait. Many times, when the other party takes many steps, if you can bravely step forward, the story may happen.
If there is a universal formula for love, it may be initiative+attraction, but whether two people can finally get together depends on whether they are sincere. May we all keep a sincere heart and accept each other's world ~