In fact, this society also has high requirements for men:
Wedding gifts, houses, cars ... everywhere, I really can't afford to get married. Nowadays, girls can't ride bicycles to pick them up as before.
Those with good self-quality will go more smoothly in the future and struggle less for a few years just because they are unhappy from their families, have good resources and give full play to their intelligence.
But I hope everything is based on love, because it won't be too unfair to myself and won't let others down.
Why do young men and women in Suzhou live in their mother-in-law's house after marriage? This is not a generalization, let alone an absolute generalization.
The young couple who are married in Suzhou now are very happy. I'm from Suzhou, and I know the life of young couples in Suzhou now.
They have houses bought by their parents (especially in rural areas, parents also build houses for them alone).
Moreover, the parents of both men and women have prepared well-equipped separate rooms for them. The young couple usually have their own car, and they are free to live anywhere they like. I am so happy.
Take-out food when you live in your own house, and ready-made food when you live in your in-laws' house.
I don't know how to buy food and cook, and now young people don't know what's wrong with them. It's really puzzling.
I wish the two families were one. My cousin's house is a combination of two houses. My husband is from Shandong. I didn't know him at first, and I felt like a son-in-law. . He thinks this model is very good now. Two families are merged into one family, 1+ 1 is greater than 2. . The man's family has a younger brother who hasn't married yet. They want a bride price and a room. Now they have all come to Suzhou. We are all introducing girlfriends to that brother. Two and one model, too. . Four old people with a child. The young couple went to work with peace of mind. . They bought three houses in a community. The ability of a family is limited. The strength of two people can bear. There is no bride price or anything. Although the house location is average. But I can live. . That brother is happy now, too He wants to get married and buy a house. . My aunt has already said that. Will also help a little. . They're all family. The son-in-law's brother is also a half son. .
Can't say that, it looks a bit ambiguous! Here's the thing!
Suzhou has the custom of "two families combined into one"! To put it bluntly, both parties can live after marriage, and the real family is! There is no such thing as a door-to-door son-in-law! Of course, there are still some things to discuss before marriage!
Like property, bride price, buying a house, buying a car, and whose surname the child is, it will be clear! Of course, most of them are from similar families, and there is no question of who will suffer. For children, it is generally agreed that the first one follows the man, and the second one follows the woman like this!
Although it is a new era, we are more enlightened! However, the situation of "son-in-law" still makes it difficult for the man to accept it. He always feels that he has no status and no face when he comes to the door! This practice in Suzhou is very good, which directly avoids this embarrassing situation!
After marriage, couples usually live together for a period of time, for example, a month! Especially during the Chinese New Year, we always discuss who to go to first and then who to go to, and then change the order the next year! This is a bowl of water, and everyone is taken care of! It has played a great role in avoiding family conflicts!
In addition, Suzhou is a local tyrant with outstanding people and excellent geographical location! I have a friend from Suzhou. I personally measured that there are really many local tyrants! And many of them are daughters! Hey hey! Married, how can I live without going to the local tyrant's house? I'm used to living, so let's live there!
Personally, I think this is a good phenomenon:
1. The people are kind and rich: Suzhou, as a charming city with rapid economic development, the people live and work in peace and contentment, and are rich and peaceful. Before the opening of the second child, as an only child, the family was obviously small and not lively. After the daughter gets married, the family needs to be lively and has no worries about the economy, so it will set an example for many families;
2. Dedication: The woman's parents treat their daughter and son-in-law with tolerance, enthusiasm, dedication and optimism, and at the same time take care of the son-in-law as their own son. The son-in-law feels relaxed and comfortable in his parents' home, and at the same time gains the warmth and happiness of the family;
Second, good self-cultivation: Because of living in a rich city, handsome men and beautiful women born in the 1980s and 1990s absorbed sufficient nutrients and received a good education. They may all be literate, cultured, cultured and praised by their elders, so they are welcomed by their parents-in-law!
This ethos in Suzhou is worth promoting!
My husband and I are both from Suzhou, and my husband loves her mother-in-law to visit her son-in-law. The more she looks at her son-in-law, the more she likes my parents. My husband also likes to talk to my father about work and some things he meets. On the contrary, I can't integrate into his family, so he often goes home with me to live in Suzhou. More should be two families and one family, especially now they are all only children.
As far as Suzhou natives are concerned, the situation of young men and women is particularly serious, and women (families) are generally strong. It is endless trouble to change the tradition that children take their father's surname for thousands of years and give birth to two children with two surnames. ..... all anger!
I come from Changshu, Suzhou. My husband and I are both only children, so-called two families merge into one. We have been married for seventeen years, and the time my husband went to live may add up to half a year, and he has been living in my house. My mother-in-law used to live in my house with her husband when she was at work. Later, my mother-in-law stopped working, and we got used to life and didn't want to move around. Another reason is that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not as good as that between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
Maybe the woman's house is more convenient!
Women in developed areas have more say.
Only children can pass incense.
The situation of long-term settlement in the woman's house is roughly like this-
The situation of that woman is better.
Honey, be strong.
This person's condition is average.
Outsiders in Suzhou have no houses.
Or the in-laws with houses are not in Suzhou.
The two families merged, and as a result, the two families merged into the woman's house.
Role exchange between men and women
Grandparents have also become grandparents.
There is also a man who voluntarily adopts a son, and does not dispute his surname.
Children have their parents' tapes, and their own lives are taken care of, so that they can be at leisure!