Ask the media to propose. Commonly known as "there is no cloud in the sky, no rain in the ground, no marriage on the ground", the most exquisite "parents' life, matchmaker's words." "* * * after the founding of the people's Republic of China, there is still the custom of matchmaking, but marriage autonomy and free love dominate; After the 1980s, there were marriage agencies in towns, newspapers and magazines, and online advertisements for marriage advertisements.
Astrology. That is to say, the date and time of birth of both men and women should be set to heavenly stems and earthly branches * * * as the horoscope, and the fortune teller will calculate whether there is a phenomenon of "Zodiac Chongke". There are "anti-marriage songs" circulating in Yuexi and other places: "A white horse is not afraid of the golden bull, once a sheep meets a mouse, a snake sees a tiger like a knife, a golden rooster sees a dog's tears, monkeys and pigs are in different circles, and dragons and jade rabbits never end." * * * After the founding of the People's Republic of China, most people didn't believe this.
Blind date has projects such as meeting people and family members. , divided into men and women, women and men, they check and communicate to enhance understanding.
Exceed Geng. Also known as biography, biography, determination, etc. , that is, exchange wedding Geng posts. The names of the posts are red and green notes, mandarin duck letters, commitment letters, small books and so on. They are all wedding invitations with names, birthdays and parents' names. The man wrote the word "Gongqiu" in the post, and the woman replied the word "Jingyun". This custom has gone out of fashion since the founding of People's Republic of China (PRC).
Under the dowry. Also known as bride price and engagement, that is, the man gives the bride price to the woman. According to the family situation, gifts are rich and thin. Generally speaking, it is important to have an even number of chicken, fish, cakes and sugar. The giver is covered with red cloth, lined with mascots such as cypress, red dates, longan and peanuts, and affixed with the bright red word "hi". After being hired, the man will also give his wife a "holiday gift" every year during the Dragon Boat Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival and Spring Festival. This custom is still popular in rural areas. However, due to different regions, the life and death of giving a bride price to a chicken are different. In April 2002, a couple of young people in jieshou city got married. The groom's family sent two wedding cars to pick up the bride. There is a live chicken hanging on the gift box carried with the car. The bride burst into tears when she heard the news. According to the woman's wedding custom, it is a local funeral custom to send cooked chicken on the wedding day. The bride and groom are more than a hundred miles apart, but the marriage customs are quite different. When they get married, the bride returns to her family after going to church. The groom angrily sued the city court and was granted a divorce. It serves to show that marriage customs are no small matter.
Choose a wedding date. Also known as newspapers, lucky books, too big books, etc. Appoint the wedding date in advance, and ask the fortune teller to choose an auspicious day and write it on red paper. The man will prepare gifts and let the matchmaker accompany him to the woman's house.
Farewell ceremony. In the old custom, the man prepared gifts and sent them to the woman's house one day (or two days) before the wedding to pay homage to his ancestors.
As the saying goes, "the upper class marries rich women, the average person marries rich women, and the lower class marries rich women." General dowry includes clothes, boxes, jars, gold and silver ornaments, etc. And farmland, houses, mountains, cattle and sheep and other gifts. Nowadays, household appliances, houses and other items have been given away.
A sad marriage. On the wedding day, please ask a woman who has a "longevity" to "open her face" for her daughter, that is, to dress up the bride with white hair removal. Before getting on the sedan chair, relatives, friends, wives and good sisters from the same village all came to marry the bride in tears, calling her "crying more and more".
Weddings and sex. When you get married, you must decorate your new house, decorate it with lanterns and decorations, light red candles in the hall, put wedding couplets on the concierge, and pay attention to making the bed and sewing the quilt. Most of the brides are sedan chairs, and the ones who get married are unicycles, donkeys and carriages. After the 1980s, tractors, trucks and buses were used in rural areas, and cars were used in cities and towns to celebrate the wedding. Scholars in Tongcheng pay attention to putting couplets on the sedan chair door and singing. The man makes the first couplet and the woman makes the second couplet, carrying boys and girls to marry the bride, which is called "warm sedan chair". When the bride gets off the sedan chair, the man spreads the floor with two cloth bags and moves them in turn, so that the bride can step on the cloth bags, which is called "bag passing". Bridesmaids and others are singing loudly: "Pass it on from generation to generation, beaming;" Pass on the second generation, full of children and grandchildren; Pass on three generations, rich and glorious; Four generations, four generations under one roof; After five generations, five children must take the exam ... "And so on, for good luck.
Visit the bride and enter the bridal chamber. Some traditional sacrificial ceremonies are held in nave at home, while others are held in ancestral halls of clans. Generally speaking, it is a worship of heaven and earth, two worship of ancestors, three worship of in-laws, and finally the couple worship each other From the sedan chair to the wedding, the bride covered her face with a red silk veil. After entering the bridal chamber, the groom lifted the veil with a balance beam and the best man sang a jingle as a blessing. For example, "When the scales are provoked, the in-laws are happy" and "When the hijab is picked at the edge of the bed, you will be a champion all your life". Then all the relatives and friends engaged in the activity of "building a new house", claiming that "the new house has no size for three days", and they took a couple to play if there was any problem. In the middle of the night, the guests left, and the groom went to the kitchen to bring the dishes and drinks together and called "cheers". Food includes red dates, longan, lotus seeds and eggs, which means good luck. Several young people also took a dress stolen by the couple after they fell asleep as evidence and asked the host family for "happy fruit" to eat the next day. This is called "stealing a new house".
Three dynasties and honeymoon. On the second or third day of the wedding, the groom leads the bride to visit her in-laws and family before the wedding, which is the custom described by "Red candle stopped at the bridal chamber last night, and I will visit my aunt before the wedding". The Tang poem "Bride" is also called: "On the third day, cook instead of me and wash your hands to make bride soup. I decided that not my mother-in-law, but my husband's sister should have the taste of Fiat. Today's rural areas inherit the "cooking" project, which only requires the bride to symbolically add firewood to light a fire. Huimen in the Three Dynasties was called "provincial relatives" in ancient times, also known as "provincial relatives". Generally, I only go back to my mother's house for dinner, because the custom is "no room for one month after marriage", which is called honeymoon. At the full moon, I will officially go back to my parents' home or relatives' home for a walk and stay. After 1980s, urban youth began to travel for honeymoon, also known as "travel marriage". They chose scenic spots and traveled during their wedding holidays.