You don't say goodbye cruelly, but you want to stay together until you have to part, but the more you want to minimize the pain of breaking up, the more likely it is to cause more harm. This happened to my best friend once, when she was with her boyfriend for three years.
But for such a long time, my best friend has been struggling. She has long been lovelorn, but she dare not say goodbye. When I asked her why she didn't say anything, my best friend gave me this sentence: "I hope he won't be sad, so I have been holding back from breaking up." As a result, she became more and more miserable, and her boyfriend kept asking her why she was becoming more and more indifferent to herself.
Finally, I saw my best friend in such pain that I couldn't help but persuade her to break up. My best friend still didn't part until her boyfriend asked her. As a result, both of them were very uncomfortable. My best friend always feels guilty for hurting him. Boyfriend thinks his girlfriend is playing with her feelings because she doesn't want to break up for so long.
In the end, both sides lost, and my girlfriend cried and said that I didn't expect this. The ex-husband hates his best friend. The more frank the breakup, the sooner the better. It's easy to cheat when you endure being with someone you don't love.
I once heard a story. The hero of the story is my high school classmate Fangfang. Fangfang has a boyfriend from another school. I heard that he is tall and handsome, but we have never seen him. In order to be worthy of him, Fangfang tried to lose weight and become beautiful.
But I didn't expect that later, the boy deleted Fangfang's contact information for no reason, leaving only one sentence: "I'm sorry." Fangfang was sad for a long time before she recovered. Later, I learned that Fangfang's boyfriend was embarrassed to say goodbye because he had another girlfriend, so he simply played the role of disappearing.
When someone asked the boy why he did this, he said, "Fangfang is a very kind girl. I couldn't bear to tell her the truth, so I kept it from her. " Is it really because you can't bear it? I don't think so. If the boy told Fangfang from the beginning that he didn't love, break up, maybe Fangfang wouldn't be sad for so long.
If you don't love, you can't leave, saying that you are afraid of getting hurt; I cheated, but I put up with it. Finally, I was afraid that my real girlfriend would be too sad and evaded all responsibilities. What those who have loved you want to see more than you are soft-hearted is that you make up your mind to say to them, "I don't love you anymore, let's break up."
Believe me, it's much better than you don't want to,