What is the meaning of marriage?

Some people think that marriage is the result of love, and marriage means that two people who love each other will grow old together, but we all know that if marriage only has love and no bread, then even the best love will be consumed by chores such as daily necessities.

Others think that marriage should be practical and proceed from reality. When choosing a marriage, you don't care about feelings, only care about whether you can have a good life after marriage.

But if you only look at reality and don't care about feelings, there will always be an abyss between husband and wife. The closest and farthest feelings will make women feel insecure, and men will become more and more mean.

Maybe each of us once had extraordinary dreams, but most of us are ordinary. They have neither the capital to reprimand Fang Qiu nor the ability to dominate the world. In the end, they can only compromise with reality and die in the ordinary.

The same is true of marriage. You can't meet a person who can make you despair, and you can't find a person who can provide you with a rich life.

The meaning of marriage is never pure. It needs love, but it's not just love. It needs to consider reality, but if it only considers reality, marriage will go to the edge.

Xiaodong and his wife met and fell in love in college and got married after graduation. At that time, many students envied them. One of them said, "seeing you get married, I believe in love again."

In fact, Xiaodong and his wife can step into marriage from friends in love, not just love.

The main reason why many campus couples break up is that they have to break up in the face of the pressure of reality after entering the society from the ivory tower that doesn't care about anything.

Family, work, income, bride price, house and car are all realities that need to be considered.

But Xiaodong doesn't need to consider these. His father worked hard for decades, from nothing to settling in a first-tier city. Although it is not much achievement, it is richer than most families.

Xiaodong's parents bought him a house while others were still worrying about how to solve the rent.

After graduation, Xiaodong chose to stay in the city where the university is located instead of helping his father, and found a comfortable and enjoyable job. He thinks this kind of life suits him very well.

Unlike Xiaodong, his wife's family is ordinary. She suffered a lot when she was a child and valued money more.

After marriage, Xiaodong's wife wanted her husband to go to her father-in-law more than once. Making money is on the one hand, and the most important thing is that after Xiaodong's younger brother "takes over" in the future, his in-laws' property has nothing to do with them.

But Xiaodong feels that life is not only about interests, but also about feelings and family ties. There is no need to intrigue over this matter, and in his eyes, the days are already very good. His parents bought the house and car in full. Although his income is not high, he is more comfortable than most people, so he refused his wife's request.

But Xiaodong's younger brother graduated recently and went directly to his father-in-law. Xiaodong's wife became nervous again and made such a request to Xiaodong: "Husband, ask your parents for a suite while your brother is not married."

Faced with his wife's request, Xiaodong felt that his wife was naked in measuring her feelings with interests. He doesn't know why he married such a realistic woman, and even thought about divorce.

It's hard for a man to understand why some people keep bargaining for a few cents in the vegetable market.

There are quite a few people who have similar experiences with Xiaodong. Brothers fight for property, and the mother-in-law encourages her son-in-law to ask her in-laws for money. This is nothing new.

I remember reading this sentence on the Internet before: "When a woman looks for a husband, she must not look for a boss, because the one who marries first suffers the most."

Faced with such a problem, most people's practice is to attack.

This is really wrong, but we might as well put ourselves in others' shoes. What would you do if the places were reversed?

When looking at a problem, even if it is obviously wrong, try to think about why the wrong person should do it.

If you had abalone, would you choose mushrooms?

Most people will not choose mushrooms, because mushrooms are very common ingredients in life, and most people who choose mushrooms are tired of eating abalone.

Xiaodong's childhood experience made him feel that money was not that important. He is never short of money, he has a choice, so he doesn't have to fight.

But Xiaodong's wife is different. Her childhood experience told her that if there was no dispute, there would be nothing.

In Xiaodong's eyes, his wife is a person who measures feelings with interests. In the eyes of Xiaodong's wife, he is a fool who eats mushrooms instead of abalone.

Strangers can only be divided into right and wrong, but husband and wife should be considerate and give each other the greatest tolerance on the basis of distinguishing right from wrong.

Xiaodong's wife is at fault for asking her parents-in-law for a house. What Xiaodong needs to do is to forgive her and satisfy both sides within a certain range, instead of denying her and trying to solve the problem through divorce.

There is a saying in "Master Zhuangzi": At the end of spring, it is better to forget each other when the fish are on land.

It is true that it can solve most difficulties to forget friends in Jianghu, but there should be two kinds of relationships in this world, one is parent-child relationship and the other is husband-wife relationship.

A woman's attitude towards marriage determines the happiness of a family.

Like Xiaodong's wife, she has never experienced the life of a rich man since she was a child, which is the so-called "poor support". After growing up, her poverty has always existed in her marriage, and even if she marries a rich man, it is hard to get rid of it.

She has never been satisfied with money, and she can't be satisfied now. Even if Xiaodong's parents give her another suite, I think she will think of something else. Her desire for money is bottomless.

"Girls need to eat enough", and they need food and clothing from childhood to adulthood. After all kinds of satisfaction, they can grow into adults healthily, and they will be satisfied with their future marriage.

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