I have a friend who is like this. His parents have only one son all their lives, and he is adopted. When he was looking for a date, he told his girlfriend that my parents were not biological. You can be unkind to me after marriage, but you can't be unkind to my parents. My parents have the grace to raise me. Because of this sentence, the girl married him and became his wife.
My friend used to have a good job, but because his adoptive father was sick and paralyzed in bed and he had no other brothers and sisters, he quit his job and opened a small shop at home, which was much more convenient to serve his father. I never thought that in the second year, my foster mother was paralyzed in bed, and there were two patients in one bed. He is the only adopted son who can eat and drink Lazar.
My friend has a good relationship with his neighbors. No matter who has big or small issues, he always helps others before and after running. If someone else's family has a wedding, he even goes to help them early. The small shop he opened provided a lot of convenience to his neighbors. For example, if a neighbor has a wedding or funeral, and he wants to drink, he will take it at the wholesale price, which gives convenience and benefits to the neighbor, and the neighbor is very grateful to him. He said that a distant relative is not as good as a close neighbor, and money is not the only thing in his eyes.
In this way, when his adoptive parents died, although he was a single-family family with almost no family, many people came to his house to help. Neighbors said that he is usually so enthusiastic about helping others, and when it is his turn to have something, everyone should naturally go all out to help him.
Everyone who lives in the countryside knows that this kind of thing is mutual. Whether it is between relatives, families or neighbors, if you help others, others will help you. Whether you are single or not, you should come instead of molesting. Actually, everything is the same.
My family is a single-family house with no family.
When I was a father, I moved here from other places.
Since the agricultural co-operation, my family has met with weddings and funerals, so let the production team know that everyone helps like a family.
After the reform and opening up, there were no production teams, but there were villagers' committees. If there are weddings and funerals, tell the village Committee, and the village Committee will inform all the villagers to help or congratulate them. This is the superiority of rural socialism in China!
It seems that you have never lived in the countryside. Rural people are very United and simple. In one of their villages, they are like a family. You help me, I help you, and if you don't collect money, you won't talk about the return. You have to carry everything together and eat meat together.
In rural areas, pigs are killed in the middle of the twelfth lunar month, which is the best day of the year. Busy for a whole year, scrimping and saving, checking. Maybe I haven't eaten fresh meat for a year. To celebrate New Year's Eve, I'm going to kill pigs.
Usually everyone is busy with farm work and doesn't care about food. When they kill Nian pig, they will invite people from the village, and almost every household will ask them to kill an Nian pig, and they may eat dozens of pounds of meat that day. Very lively, as if it were a banquet.
Rural people have no routine in doing things. In their hometown where they have lived for generations, customs and manners are traditional. Everyone knows what to do and what not to do when encountering anything. Everyone seems to have a score in mind. Everything is the same, as long as you meet, you will put down what you are doing and help others deal with the urgent matter.
Because in rural areas, it can't be one day, at least three days, and some may be longer. They will drop what they are doing and help with the white things. There was no need to invite them, but they came after hearing the news.
Years of life, imperceptibly, they will default to a manager, and then something goes wrong, the manager will also be present, he will be responsible for deploying all the people in the village and making proper arrangements. Regardless of the old people and children, they will listen to the manager's arrangement and do things in an orderly way.
There is simplicity in the countryside and rules in the city. As long as people live long, they will naturally have feelings. If there is anything around them, someone will always lend a helping hand.
Q: What about single-family families in rural areas?
In rural areas, many people in the clan do white things, with great momentum and great excitement. If the funeral is not an outsider, hundreds of people in the clan can hold up the facade. If the dead old man is old, the whole street will be white and full of mourning. It's very decent for this family to do white things with many adults. In fact, there are many white things for adults, mainly filial sons, which are handy. Filial sons are preserved in Peng Ling and all scenes, so the main filial sons can make room for entertainment and ceremonies.
But there are not so many people in the village, and there are many people who help. Even Peng Ling or all the scenes are very deserted because of the lack of filial sons. There are one or two dutiful sons inside and outside. The guests come to cry, kowtow, offer mourning clothes, thank the table in the rice shed, see off the dutiful son, and the manager is busy with the dutiful son. As soon as the white matter is over, the dutiful son is exhausted.
In rural areas, if single-family families want to have some fun, they must break the filial piety as much as possible. Breaking filial piety means giving white trousers, white hats and white shoes to all relatives, no matter far or near, so that there will be more filial sons, and the relatives of the younger generation can set up tents as filial sons, kowtow with tears, and make room for the main filial son to do other entertainment.
In order to make the white matter very lively, please invite troupes or concerts or experienced people to do Dojo, run across the bridge, walk on stilts and dance with lions, and invite western bronze drums and foreign countries to make the white matter very decent. First of all, you have to be rich and willing to spend money.
If you worshipped more brothers in the league when you were young, worship his 36 friends or 108 friends. At this time, the brothers of the White League are all daughters-in-law of the League, and they are all dutiful sons, no less than many adults.
In rural areas, if you want to do white things alone, you can do it according to the above, and it is definitely possible. As long as you have money, you are willing to spend money.
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In rural areas, there are generally many households, wealthy families and a large population. Most of the villagers have the same surname, all of whom are ancestors. However, some rural families are not rich, or families are declining, and the family population is getting smaller and smaller. Of course, some of them are immigrants, and rural people are commonly called "outsiders". Of course, with a large population at home, it is natural to help organize weddings and funerals, which makes people busy; Families with a small population, or single-family families, are relatively deserted when doing white things. So, what should we do with single-family houses in rural areas? Rural Guanzhong, as a folk observer in the field of "agriculture, countryside and farmers", introduces rural customs in combination with local rural reality;
In rural areas, extended families have similar blood ties, so white people certainly need help; However, when people with few families encounter white things, they all take the initiative to invite their neighbors with many families to help. Rural people live in a village, but don't look up. It is a habit for everyone to help each other. In addition, if you meet something white, it means separation forever. As long as you are on good terms, you will help cook. Even families with average relationships or entanglements with each other untie their hearts because of white things and give them a helping hand. This tradition has been circulating in the countryside and is endless.
We pay attention to reciprocity everywhere, especially in the countryside. People in small families or single-family families will actively help their neighbors no matter what happens to them, even if they don't ask for help, thus forming a good rural atmosphere of "being good neighbors" and "being partners with neighbors". In the words of rural people, helping others' homes is equal to helping yourself. In this way, other people will come uninvited when they encounter white things or other difficulties, so that small families don't have to worry. So people with small families need more help and build more roads for themselves.
With the development of social economy, rural people are getting richer and richer. Most young people in rural areas go out to work or engage in other non-agricultural industries, and the rural population is getting smaller and smaller. Whether it is a family with a large number of family accounts or a single-family family, the elderly are basically left at home. When it comes to weddings and funerals, no matter whose family is large or small, no matter what you use or want, you have to pay for help. In this way, from the simple villagers who volunteered to help in the past, they developed into people who paid for it. Therefore, no matter who is a big family or a single family in the countryside, all kinds of things cost the same, not to mention a large number of people.
In short, as long as we go to rural areas to do things for nothing, the pure mutual assistance as in the past has become less and less, and it has been transformed into material transactions or paid employment, because the economic concept of rural people has been deeply rooted. So now in rural areas, there is no problem of worrying about the family size, or that there is no one to help single-family families. With the development of society and the change of rural people's concept, some original traditions in rural areas have been deeply imprinted in the hearts of rural people.
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In rural areas, single-family families do white things? In the countryside, there is always such a custom. There are often more guests in white affairs than in red weddings, because there is no need to ask those old relatives at home to do red affairs. What are old relatives? For example, your grandmother's family or relatives of those predecessors can come uninvited, but nothing is the same. The first thing to do is to invite the relatives of the older generation, so as not to forget one's roots and there will be more guests. If there are no relatives at home.
There are single-family houses in rural areas, but they are rare. As for business, it depends on your personality.
In the countryside, small families are easy-going and people in the village get along well. In the past, if you fight, the dominance of a single family is doomed to suffer. No matter how good the relationship is, it is also a habit handed down from the countryside. The three fists are far and near. Another is that it is very obvious when it comes to red and white incidents. In rural areas, there are many people and there are great advantages. But then again, if you are strong enough, rich and powerful, you can run amok in the countryside even if you live alone. There is a foreigner in the neighboring village whose surname is Cheng. In order to attach himself to Chen Wangmen, he changed his surname to Chen. However, he was lucky enough to become a village official, and the nobody succeeded. According to the old people, there was no one in the village who didn't hate him during the Cultural Revolution. Later, after dismounting, the consequences can be imagined. No one in the village thinks highly of him, and it is common to be beaten and scolded. The children also accompanied him and suffered a lot. Another family, whose hometown is Henan, came to Hebei for more than 90 years and worked hard to make money in the village. In the village, no matter who has anything, he takes the initiative to help, and no one in the village praises him. The whole family moved to the village. Now the land acquisition subsidies in the village are shared equally by his whole family, and everyone gets them from top to bottom. Otherwise, can a foreigner gain a foothold in the village?
So don't be too crazy, you can't compete for money if you have money, and some people can't compete for others. Whether it's a big family or a single family, you can get along well and say anything as long as you are honest with others.
In the countryside, a single family is going to invite him to someone else's house. In our village, whether it is a white matter or a happy event, he always comes to the door to look for it, because his family has no relatives and he has to ask people in his own village for help. That's what single families do.