I. Participation
First of all, the man needs to be prepared as follows:
1, Employment Payment: Different regions are different, so you need to consult the local elders. Listen to their opinions.
2. Gold ornaments (rings, bracelets, necklaces, etc. ), commonly known as "three golds" in some places is "hardware" (rings, gold necklaces, gold earrings, gold bracelets, gold anklets).
3. Engagement ring (a diamond ring)
Of course, there are other things that need to be prepared, according to your local customs.
The woman needs to make the following preparations:
1. Gift: Give a red envelope gift to the person who helps the woman with the man's gift. ?
2. Sweet tea.
3. Tangyuan, snacks.
4. Banquet for male guests.
7. Return the man's gift.
Participate in the process:
Generally speaking, engagement focuses on the woman's customs and habits, and marriage focuses on the man's customs and habits, but in modern times, both men and women reach consensus. The following are general customs, which can be increased or decreased according to actual needs or local customs.
1. On the day of engagement, the man will put the "dowry" in two, six or twelve red boxes. ?
2. The man's relatives and friends will drink the sweet tea and put the red envelope in the cup. ?
3. The bride-to-be goes out to collect tea cups (the process is the same as tea worship).
4. After tea, put on an engagement ring (or finger); Tie the gold ring and the copper ring together with a red line, indicating that the husband and wife are the same body or change to a diamond ring.
The woman prepared a high chair and a low chair.
6. The bride-to-be sits with her face facing the living room door, sitting outward and her feet on the low chair. ?
7. The groom-to-be stands on the right of the bride-to-be and faces the bride-to-be. ?
8. The bride-to-be holds out her right hand, and the groom-to-be holds the ring in her right hand.
Matters needing attention in banquet:
After the above engagement process, the bride's family, in-laws and relatives of the bride will hold a banquet, and the groom-to-be will visit the bride's relatives one by one and accept the meeting gifts prepared by relatives for the groom-to-be.
The next day, the bride-to-be, accompanied by her aunt or aunt, will meet the relatives and friends of the man, hold a banquet and receive gifts. At this time, the man should pay attention to preparing a red envelope for each of the woman's companions. )
Second, the marriage process.
1. The afternoon before the wedding, the man's family brought the housekeeper to see the woman to discuss the details of the wedding that day.
2. On the afternoon before the wedding, the bride's sister will wear window grilles to the groom's house to receive gifts.
On the wedding day, the wedding ceremony is also called "welcoming the bride" and "marrying the daughter-in-law", which is equal to "welcoming the bride" in the Six Rites. Usually the groom personally goes to the woman's house to marry the bride. The groom came to the woman's house early in the morning to get married, and the team had to walk around the city and couldn't go back.
After the bride puts on makeup, she should carry a small mirror with her to "avoid" the evil light. Wait for the wedding and eat the prepared cake at the same time.
After the wedding procession arrives, the woman's door is often closed and locked by the bride's sister or best friend. On the one hand, it shows the dignity of the woman's family, on the other hand, it deliberately plays tricks on the guests attending the wedding. Guests attending the wedding are afraid of being late and have to pay an "opening fee".
6. After entering the door, the woman gave a banquet. When entertaining the son-in-law, besides all kinds of food and drink, there are pancakes as the staple food. When a new son-in-law, he must "steal" a dozen cakes, a few pairs of chopsticks and some containers for wine, which is called "making a fortune" by the locals.
7. Mother-in-law holds tea for the groom and receives happy money.
8. Brother-in-law sends flowers to the bride and groom and collects money.
9. After the groom saw the bride, the difficulty came again ~ The bride's shoes were hidden by her family early, and the groom needed to find the shoes before moving on to the next step.
10, teasing the groom, the program is different.
1 1. After many tests, I can finally marry the bride! However, the first wife was not allowed to land, so the groom had to carry it all the way home!
12. While the groom passed many tests, his mother-in-law also had a job-smoking a car. With incense in her hand, the mother-in-law turned left three times around the car, turned right three times, then opened the door and pulled out the car. After the fumigation, the mother-in-law received the money.
13, the bride gets on the bus and the motorcade sets off. Wedding teams should carry red cloth or red handkerchiefs with them. In other people's wedding procession in Lu Yu, the two sides should exchange "needle and thread" or throw red handkerchiefs at each other, that is, the bride's needle and thread to eliminate disasters.
14. Accompanied by the bride's younger brother, together with dowry items, commonly known as "suitcase". When she arrives at her husband's house, she will open the suitcase, commonly known as "opening the suitcase", receive the suitcase red envelope and open the box red envelope.
15, arrived at the man's house, and the bride was carried to the bed by the groom. The bride sat on the red quilt prepared in advance, then drank brown sugar water and ate cake noodles before going to the ground.
16. Banquet the man's guests and propose a toast to the couple.
17. Before entering the bridal chamber, a woman with both parents and a living husband must be invited to arrange bedding for the bride and groom in the new house. And sprinkle a handful of five-color grains under the mattress for good luck and a bumper harvest. There are some red dates under the bed, which means that your son was born early. There are several peanuts under the pillow, which means that boys and girls have "flowers" and "health".
18, friends and relatives make trouble in the bridal chamber at night. The more people make trouble in the bridal chamber, the better, and the more people can show their dignity and glory. As the saying goes, "the bride is no big or small for three days." On this day, no matter men, women and children, they can enter the house to "see the new wife", the bride of Doby, regardless of whether she is a vegetarian or not. The intention is to turn a shy yellow flower girl into a generous wife.
19. Finally, there are people lurking in the window of the bridal chamber to eavesdrop on the private conversation of the bride and groom, commonly known as the "listening room".
20. On the third day of marriage, you usually need to go back to the door. Going back to the door means that the couple go back to their parents' home together. Remember to bring gifts and don't go back empty-handed. In addition, the woman also needs to hold a thank-you banquet on the same day and invite relatives and friends.