No matter how close a friend is, he can't forget three words: a sense of distance.

This sense of distance means that everyone is eager to get respect from others, so when getting along with others, we must pay attention to our own discretion and basic etiquette.

Because in life, when we are familiar with a person, we tend to be too relaxed. If we don't care about this sense of distance, some people will start to speak freely.

One of my classmates broke up with his best friend, because one day her best friend said that she was black and ugly, not suitable for dancing, and she was also an ugly duckling when she jumped.

Although she was joking, she felt that the relationship between the two people was good enough, so she didn't consider her feelings, but let her temper talk casually.

This classmate said that she knew that her best friend was telling the truth, so she always felt a little inferior, but she didn't show it. The quick talk of her best friend cut a wound that was difficult to heal.

The more you are in front of familiar people, the more fragile your heart is, the more you need affirmation, so the more you need to consider when you speak.

This is true in words, and it is no exception in action.

Remember one sentence: a friend speaks politely to you in the hope that you can be polite to him, instead of making you feel that everything is taken for granted and really don't treat yourself as an outsider.

People who have a bad sense of distance will lose friendship sooner or later.

02

Zhou said that after attending my buddy's wedding, I went home and hacked people.

Of course, he is not the only one who did this, but also two other buddies in his dormitory. Everyone chose one method: no more contact.

He said he didn't intend to take back the gift money he had given away, lest he get angry when he remembered it. It's really not worth it.

The man who got married this time was a buddy of his from college. The four people had a good relationship. After graduation, they are far apart and have little contact. At that time, they agreed to go wherever they got married.

Just a few people said in the group that they also proposed to get together this time and talk about their life in the past few years after graduation.

Zhou Wei felt that he hadn't been so happy for a long time, because when he thought of his college roommate, he thought of his youth and a group of idiots in those years.

Since graduation, everyone has their own things to do. After they are not around, they smile less and less, and there are more and more anxious things in their hearts. Time is really a troublesome thing.

Because my buddy got married, this long-lonely group also became active. Zhou said that he was going to drive by himself, and another roommate also said that he was driving by himself, just taking another roommate on the road.

After seeing them all driving, his married buddy said in the group, "That's good. If you drive, you can still help. "

The rest of the people quickly said, between brothers, if there is anything, just say, if you can help, you must help, and then say it over there, then you're welcome.

It was a pleasant and relaxed atmosphere when they never met. Where can they think of? Later, when we met, we broke up so badly.

03

After all, it was his buddy's series of practices at the wedding that made them feel disrespected.

In life, we all have this feeling:

If someone asks you for help, be polite and thank you again and again, of course you will be busy and help, and people will be happier; And the other party asks you for help in a commanding tone. The same thing, the feeling in my heart is naturally very different.

Attitude can determine mood to help this matter.

And his buddy's attitude almost chilled all three of them.

Because he promised to help, he set off the day before, and in order to help more the next day, he drove to the wedding site the next morning.

No one picked them up when they first arrived. After greeting him, my buddy went to do his own thing. By the way, I assigned him a task to answer it for him, because many relatives are from their hometown.

He went with his buddy's father because he didn't know anyone, and then two other roommates arrived, and they joined the pick-up team.

In the process, his buddy's father's attitude made him a little unhappy. Even if he didn't say a word of thanks, he would still use that imperative tone as if he had paid the money, but at this time he didn't take it to heart and still talked and laughed.

We finally met and didn't have a chance to greet each other. They didn't eat after finishing their work, and they were sent away by their buddies' shouts, because there were too many people to leave after eating, and many people had to go to the station to go home by car that day.

Naturally, they missed lunch, and no one invited them to dinner. It was their father who asked them to help move things, which were a little heavy and they couldn't move them by themselves.

It's hard to say no. Three people went on working hungry, and then asked them to give them away, because there were many people leaving at night.

At this time, all three people were unhappy, and the other two said they would go back. At this time, the groom couldn't find them, so he called them and asked them where to stay at night.

He froze. Didn't you arrange this? The groom said they didn't have enough rooms, so they didn't have a place to live. If they don't mind, they can go to the internet cafe for one night first.

But not now, because there are still people who haven't finished delivering it, so I want them to find a place to live after delivering it.

Having said that, the three of them will no longer hesitate and prepare to go back.

He said: "It's really a pit to drive 900 kilometers to attend my buddy's wedding and come back hungry all night after a busy day." Later, I was accused of not helping in the group. Finally, some guests took a taxi and gave a lot of fare money.

04

It is really terrible to have no sense of distance and not treat yourself as a friend of outsiders.

Because when a person has this idea, he will not learn to put himself in his own shoes, just think from his own standpoint, and all the requirements are for the maximization of his own interests, which is easy to ignore the interests of his friends.

The three of them were supposed to be guests at the wedding. They spent a long time there, giving gifts and bringing blessings. They should be treated equally with other guests.

Even because the relationship is better, we should be more polite, instead of taking advantage of the relationship to make full use of the value of others, taking it for granted.

Between friends, mutual understanding and respect can last long.

I have a best friend. She said that when her sister got married, all her college roommates came. Her sister arranged a place for them early, and even insisted on reimbursing their fares. The people who drove here also reimbursed their gas bills, and repeatedly said, "You have worked hard."

Because in her sister's view, it is the most rare thing to come all the way to send her blessings. Since others regard her as a true friend, she can't treat her friends badly.

So her sister is very popular, and everyone likes to make friends with warm people, because it won't make people feel chilling.

Remember that your sense of distance will make your friendship last forever.