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My friend A Ying is getting married. It's a good thing for the newlyweds to get married, but they are in trouble after their parents call.
Yingying felt that her marriage was like a negotiating table and a battlefield in business between me and my enemy, and neither side would give in.
The thing is, A Ying's parents asked A Ying's boyfriend David's family for a gift of 654.38+, saying that their family would accompany A Ying with a car of the same value, and the wedding banquet would be AA, and they would also receive a gift. Choose an auspicious day and marry your daughter in style.
A Ying's parents feel that their family has done their best and are smiling and waiting for David's parents' consent.
However, the David family did not live up to ingrid's parents' wishes.
David's parents suggested that A Ying should bear half of David's mortgage and car loan in the future.
Then, A Ying's parents think that David's car and house are David's pre-marital property. Why do you want your daughter to pay back half the loan? To share half of them, A Ying's name must be added to the real estate license.
The man decisively disagreed and then entered the dispute stage between the two sides.
David's parents said: If A Ying doesn't accept half of the loan after marriage, all the expenses of the family will be paid by A Ying.
The negotiations broke up in discord, and the old people on both sides refused to give way to each other. A Ying also quarreled with her boyfriend.
In this way, no one gave in to anyone first, no one greeted anyone first, and everything was silent.
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Two weeks later, David lost his temper and called Yingying himself, saying that the family could make concessions. It means that the mortgage and car loan are still borne by the Dawei family, but there is no wedding banquet and no bride price.
The two families had dinner together and got married within a month of their honeymoon.
Ying went back and told her parents what David thought, and their parents flew into a rage.
"What is this? Our daughter must be good-looking, have a degree and can't get married. How can this family think only of themselves and not others? Don't say that such a family is married, if you can't even make friends in life. This marriage is not married, break up. "
Wake up the dreamer in one word.
After listening to her parents' words, Yingying remembered the little things that she and David fell in love with each other, and she couldn't help feeling sad.
During their love, David used this as an excuse to live a hard and frugal life. I didn't take Aying to have a decent meal, only a bowl of mala Tang 10 yuan.
Even if you give a red envelope on holidays, it never exceeds 100 yuan.
Moreover, when A Ying complained, David just said: Keep the money for future life, and also said that they are haggling over marriage for future life.
Yingying suddenly realized that David has never been "generous" to himself, and even now, he is still haggling over marriage.
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Unmarried girl, don't think that if you give in to the bride price, the man will thank you for a lifetime.
Two people live together for a long time. Marriage is only once, and no one wants to get married several times in his life.
When you are not married, the man picks up an inexperienced little girl like this. After marriage, nothing will do. Once something happens and causes a dispute, they will say that you are worthless and a bargain.
Many little girls will naively think that love is very powerful. As long as there is love, everything can be solved.
Yes, the power of love is great. Love can resolve contradictions, cover up all faults, and is the basis for solving all problems.
However, we can hardly guarantee that our love will be as perfect as ever. If once love has passed the stage of passion and faded, then what awaits you is the trivia of life.
With the symphony of pots and pans, it is difficult to guarantee that you and your mother-in-law, you and your sister-in-law, including you and your lover, will not start to argue. In the event of a dispute, if someone climbs a tree and is pulled down from the ladder, he will have to endure all kinds of abusive attacks from his husband's family.
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I once knew a man who was very selfish.
Because of his good skin, he began to cheat in choosing a girlfriend. His mate selection criteria are to find a free nanny, birth tools and money-making machines.
This man, a typical love rat, has many routines and tricks, so he was really discovered later. He is a rich woman with a relatively rich family.
Originally, the parents of rich girls looked down on men, but the baby daughter agreed to this marriage unless he didn't get married or even got pregnant before marriage.
Man's nature cannot be changed, and even a rich girl can't stop his bad heart.
The man married a rich girl, who brought all her daily necessities, a car and a house.
After a year or two of marriage, the man's mind is still a little stiff. However, after the woman gave birth to two children, it was still the same sentence. He thought that the woman would never divorce him and started his "ladder".
The man returned to the image of love rat before marriage, and began to drink and gamble outside, using his wife's money to find a woman. Finally, rich girls go to Lacrimosa every night, which is very painful.
In the end, the woman finally confessed her current situation to her parents, who were furious. With the help of their parents, the two divorced quickly and smoothly.
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Happy marriages are all the same, but unhappy marriages have their own merits. There are too many divorces. From these unfortunate marriages, it is not difficult for us to find that the more critical or bad attitude the man is when he gets married, the more difficult it is to be happy after marriage.
When a woman talks about marriage, the more she pursues perfection, the less she is respected by her husband's family after marriage.
Although it is vulgar to talk about money in front of love, everyone is vulgar and this society is vulgar.
Many young girls, if you think it is too tacky to talk about money in front of love, then after you get married, you will find that what you once thought was tacky is actually far more important than you think.
Marriage is not aestheticism, but realism. Although women are not all golden branches and jade leaves, they should also know how to maintain their dignity, not to lower themselves, and not to wronged themselves to seek perfection in a marriage.
When you are unmarried, your parents have devoted all their love to you, so when you get married, don't lower your bottom line because of love and make yourself cheap. You should know that if the bottom line is lowered when talking about marriage, it is not a question of bride price or money, but a question of your dignity in front of your husband's family in the future, which will affect your life.
The more you make yourself look cheap, the less they take you seriously. Even if you want nothing in your relationship, they will think you want too much.
A good marriage should be to find someone who really loves you. He won't bargain with you when he talks about marriage, and he won't let you take care of the baby alone after marriage. He will work hard with you to take on family responsibilities.