In fact, for unmarried women, the protection of marriage life is a more important one, so they pay more attention to all aspects of men's conditions. In their view, the second-married men are more stable than the older men, both emotionally and in life.
For the second-married men, having a marriage experience is a serious injury for women to choose a spouse, but it is not the only measure. For older men, women often have higher requirements for them when choosing a spouse. If women can't meet their requirements, they would rather be alone than be content with themselves rashly.
So, who do women prefer to choose between second-married men and older men?
The following three older single women, to be honest, are very realistic.
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Ms. Dai: Choose a second married man.
Ms. Dai is 32 years old and unmarried. She works in a company with a monthly salary of about 7,000 yuan.
I had a boyfriend before and talked for more than three years, but my boyfriend was a playboy and was not good to her, so I broke up. Then, Ms. Dai stopped looking for a boyfriend and has been single until now.
In her thirties, her parents urged her to get married every day, so she had to find someone to introduce her to see if there was a suitable man.
Ms. Dai's criteria for choosing a spouse are very clear, giving priority to men of her age. It is best to get married for the first time and have a house without financial pressure. If it is really inappropriate, Ms. Dai said that she is willing to relax the conditions. The second child can get married, but it can't be over 35 years old. It requires a house, a car, no debt and a deposit.
Besides, Ms. Dai said, forget about the older men. They are generally older, have no economic conditions and have no personality. They would rather marry a second-time married man than find these odd leftover men.
I asked her why she said that.
Ms. Dai said that elderly men have two common problems.
First, they are psychologically unhealthy, refuse to accept the reality, and often cannot see themselves clearly. They are bent on finding young girls, but they have no advantages and conditions and are not competitive. This is a joke.
Second, the body may have many problems. The body of an older man cannot be compared with that of a younger man. If there is any problem, it will take them a lifetime to marry them.
On the whole, Ms. Dai thinks that there is really no suitable first-married man, so she would rather accept a better second-married man than find an older one.
In her view, the older leftover men not only have no economic foundation, but also have a problem, which is eccentric and difficult to get along with, let alone get married.
So Ms. Dai's opinion is very clear. She can accept high-quality second-married men, but she can never accept older men.
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Ms. Zheng: Choose a second married man.
Ms. Zheng is 35 years old, unmarried and engaged in sales. Her average monthly salary is around 1 ten thousand.
Her requirement for men is that they must have an economic foundation. She said that if the monthly salary of men is lower than her, she would never consider it, at least the monthly salary should be around 20 thousand.
The reason why Ms. Zheng pays attention to economic conditions is because she has good conditions, a house and a car, and her salary is not low, which belongs to the living standard of petty bourgeoisie. Therefore, no matter whether it is a second-married man or an older man, if the economic conditions can't meet her requirements, she will never get married reluctantly.
Ms. Zheng had two boyfriends before, one broke up because of poor economic conditions, the other was ok, but her character was not enough, so she resolutely gave up. Later, she dated many older men. She said that these leftover men are really not so good, none of them are good.
Many leftover men are not qualified, and women are required to have children and earn money to support their families. They also think this tastes terrible. My ability is average, but it is really unreliable to ask women to be strong in all aspects.
Also, many older men have experienced many feelings themselves, and women are also required to have never experienced feelings. They are really speechless. They flirt with women everywhere, but they ask women not to have been in love when dating, but their bodies are afraid of being filthy for a long time.
Therefore, Ms. Zheng believes that it is better to marry an older man than to find such a high-quality second-married man.
In Ms. Zheng's eyes, although some married men have had marriage experience, their economic foundation and personality are often good.
As long as men are really kind to her, they can care for each other, understand each other and tolerate each other in their later marriage life. In fact, there is not much concern in life.
But those old men are different. With them, you can't live a good life, because they are not so good themselves and can't give a stable life.
Therefore, Ms. Zheng's opinion is also very clear. Between the second married man and the older man, she must give priority to the second married man.
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Ms. Qin: Anything is acceptable.
Ms. Qin is 33 years old and unmarried. She works as a planner in a foreign company with a monthly salary of about 8,000 yuan.
When talking with Ms. Qin about second-married men and older men, she had some different views with Ms. Dai and Ms. Zheng. In her opinion, both second-married men and older men are acceptable.
She said that men mainly look at character and responsibility, whether they are second-married men who have had marriage experience or older men left over from various reasons, as long as they are good, they can be considered.
But Ms. Qin still has her own conditions, that is, men can't even have basic economic conditions, not to mention how much deposits they have, at least they can't have debts. In addition, there must be a new wedding room, not to mention the bride price. This can be discussed, but you must have a house.
Of course, Ms. Qin also said that if a man is really good and can really love her, and the external conditions are difficult to meet at the moment, she is willing to be with him. It is more practical for marriage for two people to work together to create a happy life.
But the premise is that men have the responsibility and ability, she can bear hardships, and men need to be more self-motivated and work hard for a happy life in the future.
Ms Qin still remembers her ex-boyfriend. After a year together, she found that he was not motivated at all, so she broke up. In her opinion, a man can achieve little, but he can't lose his ambition. Otherwise, which woman is willing to suffer with him?
Later, whether it was free love or blind date, Ms. Qin paid special attention to men's character, ability and responsibility. No matter what kind of man, if she can't meet these requirements, she won't marry herself.
Therefore, based on Ms. Qin's opinion, she thinks that it is acceptable for men with second marriage and older age, but the character and quality of men must pass the test.
Conclusion:
I have to say that these three ladies are more honest. On the issue of mate selection, most people tend to marry more men, and they are not very optimistic about older men.
If they really don't have a suitable married man, they would rather marry a second married man than be satisfied with an older man.
In any case, combining the views of three women, we can know that single women pay more attention to mate selection, which many older men do not have.
A man's character and sense of responsibility are very important. Men must be self-motivated, capable, hardworking and enterprising. A man's economic conditions should have a foundation to ensure a woman's sense of security after marriage. Men can't be philandering, single-minded about feelings and loyal to marriage. Men are healthy and have a good personality, but they should not be mentally unhealthy and have a bad temper. According to the opinions of the three ladies, these are five main points.
Finally, I hope both men and women can find their other half as soon as possible and live happily.