Marriage contains too much affection between men and women. Husband and wife are birds of a feather and love each other for life. They need to care and manage this relationship carefully.
The mutual affection between husband and wife is accumulated over time. If you don't inject too much love when you are young, you won't have too much "affection" when you are old.
In the world of marriage, love is an eternal preservative, which brings men and women closer to each other's hearts and makes this love develop and sublimate in the married life of daily necessities. This is the meaning of love between two people.
When love exists in marriage, women are willing to pay for men and keep their home and marriage.
But if a man doesn't know how to cherish and be grateful in marriage, and makes a woman drift from place to place in marriage and eat up the hardships of life, it will make a woman despair of marriage.
When the years go by and people need care and companionship, even if a chilling woman lives under the same roof, she can no longer feel the warmth from her heart.
A marriage story happened in a neighbor's house. When Lin Chun (pseudonym) and Zhang Hai (pseudonym) got married, their families were very poor. At that time, he still lived in the countryside. There was no decent wedding, he just set two tables at home. Even at the banquet, Lin Chun wore a red wedding dress that Zhang Hai borrowed from others.
After their marriage, Zhang Hai and Lin Chun lived in a simple house. Because of love, Lin Chuncai felt how hard life was. He is responsible for all the housework at home, and when he is busy with farming, he will roll up his sleeves and work in the fields.
With their efforts, the harvest is getting better every year, but Zhang Hai is used to living in poverty, so he is still used to frugality in his life. He also asked his wife to be frugal with him instead of spending a penny more.
He always said to his wife, "We must save our money to create better conditions for our children to go to college and live in foreign buildings in the future." At that time, Lin Chun also felt that her husband was writing the future for her and her children.
Zhang hai is poor in raising himself, reluctant to eat, reluctant to wear good clothes, and let his wife suffer with him. In order to save money, he didn't let his wife go shopping to buy clothes and shoes, or even let her buy snacks for herself.
Later, in order to earn more money, Zhang Hai went to other places alone.
At that time, his wife was pregnant, but she shouldered the whole family. She not only kept the family in good order, but also raised a group of chickens and ducks, and was reluctant to eat their eggs and sold them.
In less than two years, Zhang Hai's work outside is getting smoother and smoother, and his salary is getting longer and longer. He sends money to his wife on time every month. I thought the days of poverty were finally over.
However, Zhang Hai is still unwilling to spend money for himself and his wife. Every time Zhang Hai sends money home, he always says to his wife, "Buy some delicious food and fun for the children, and don't treat them badly. If you have extra money, just manage it and don't spend it indiscriminately. "
Gradually, Lin Chun found that her husband didn't care about her at all. Every time he calls, he only asks about the child and how his parents are, but he never cares about her.
In the face of her husband's neglect, Lin Chun became indifferent to her marriage. She remembered the bitterness and poverty she had eaten with him, and shed tears unconsciously.
When there is love, the wife doesn't mind suffering with men. However, if a man doesn't cherish and love her, his suffering and poverty will become a thorn in her heart.
Later, Zhang Hai became richer and richer. In order to give his son a better education, he bought a suite in the city. When his son grows up, Zhang Hai always gives him the best. When people reach middle age, their sons have grown up and made great achievements.
When his son got married, Zhang Hai paid a down payment for his son and bought a wedding room. Later, when his grandson was born, Zhang Hai happily bought a golden child lock for his grandson, saying that he could protect his safety.
He almost spent a lot of money on diapers, milk powder and toys that his grandson wanted to use.
Because his son is busy, his grandson has been taken care of by Lin Chun, and Zhang Hai always gives his grandson the best, whatever he wants, and he is never stingy.
My 50-year-old wife didn't buy herself a jewel. She went to a jewelry store and wanted to buy a bracelet. At first glance, it was more than 10 thousand, and she couldn't bear it. Finally, she spent 1000 yuan to buy herself a ring.
Who knows, at home, because of this ring, her husband accused her of spending money indiscriminately, and the two had a fierce quarrel. Finally, I was slapped by my husband. She said that she would never forget what her husband said when he hit her: "I earned every penny at home." What qualifications do you have to spend? "
That slap, not in the face, but in the heart. Although there is no divorce, she looks back on her life with bitterness and no happiness.
Time flies, and Zhang Hai has entered his later years. My son doesn't go home all the year round, and my grandson is old enough to study abroad. When Zhang Hai was old and ill, it was his wife who waited on him at the bedside.
However, when she was young, she was never rich or kind to her, and when she was old, her wife never gave her a tolerance.
Lin Chun only takes care of Zhang Hai's three meals a day, does not talk with him, does not relieve him of boredom, and does not feel any warmth at his wife's place. Zhang Hai couldn't help asking his wife why she was so cold to him.
The wife said, "My heart died when I was young. I have suffered so much with you and suffered so much poverty, but you still only think about your children and grandchildren and have never been kind to me. Now that you are old and sick, your good son and grandson are busy with their future, and I am still an old woman beside you. But you can't get my kindness. "
In his wife's indifference, Zhang Haicai regretted that he didn't have the money to be kind to her when he was young, and he won't be kind to her when he is old. Zhang Hai said regretfully that they were all planted by themselves.
Not long after, Zhang Hai, who was poor in raising himself and rich in raising his children and grandchildren, was not treated well in his later years and left with regret and loneliness.
Running a marriage requires the care of two people. It is the lack of "love" between men and women that makes marriage a skeleton.
The indifference between husband and wife is due to the lack of management and "empathy".
Zhang Hai in the story only knows how to support himself in poverty, and has never seen his wife's efforts in marriage, hardships in life and poverty. I have never been kind to her with gratitude.
When they were young, husband and wife separated. Zhang Hai only cares about children and parents, but never cares about his wife. Let the wife not feel her husband's love, but be chilling.
Zhang Hai has never run a husband-wife relationship and never thought about what his wife needs. Will be in life, never be kind. It is precisely because her husband didn't treat Zhang Hai well that her heartbroken wife didn't want to treat Zhang Hai well in her later years.
Couples seldom come when they are old. When young, men know how to be kind to their wives. When I get old, my wife will be kind to her husband, willing to take care of him and give him care and warmth.
Although children also need the love of their parents, in marriage, the relationship between husband and wife must be greater than that between parents and children, so that marriage can get warmth.
In marriage, love is not only sweet, it will fade away in the years, and sometimes it will gradually turn into family affection.
The feelings between husband and wife need to be cultivated in the dribs and drabs of life, and then they will breed infinite warmth in the rest of their lives.
When they were young, the young couple lived a loving life. In middle age, they will hug each other tightly, and in old age, they will warm each other.
Love blooms slowly in every bit of life and needs to be cultivated by men and women together. Only in this way can love leave thoughts in my heart and cherish my feelings in my later years.
Only when couples have love can they cultivate stronger marital feelings, know how to be kind to each other in life, warm each other's hearts and walk hand in hand for the rest of their lives.
Love is like a flame. If time flies, it will go out. A marriage without love is like a cold cellar, full of chill.
If a man wants to be happy in his later years, he must be kind to a woman, appreciate her efforts, and support his wife when he is young. Love always pays off. You will get as much in return as you give.