In a residential area, a young man under the age of 30 is divorcing his wife. The two sides have been entangled for a long time and almost went to court. The problem lies in the bride price and dowry.
The two met on a blind date at first. To tell the truth, they got married six months after they met. According to the normal custom, the man bought a house and a car and gave hundreds of thousands of bride price. Because there is a local tradition of women giving dowry, her mother-in-law told the man in advance that the man bought almost everything and could not think of anything valuable to buy, so she gave money directly.
Hearing this, the man felt that it was not bad, and things could not be converted into money. Giving money is very welcome. At the wedding of the young couple, her mother-in-law announced on the stage, in front of many relatives and friends, that she would give the groom, that is, the son-in-law 654.38 million yuan as a dowry. The password was written on the back of the bank card, and then she solemnly handed the bank card to the groom in the spotlight.
After the wedding, out of love for his wife, the husband took the initiative to tell his wife where the bank card at home was stored. However, due to the lack of in-depth understanding before marriage, contradictions and conflicts often break out after marriage, and the remaining feelings are gradually exhausted in the quarrel. Finally, after two years, this marriage came to an end.
Divorce is not only a dead letter, but also the division of property. Both the house and the car were bought by the man before marriage. Undoubtedly, the biggest controversy comes from the bank card, because when the man gave the woman hundreds of thousands of bride price, the man thought he would lose some money, so he took this bank card for 65,438+10,000 yuan.
One day, my husband took the bank card without authorization, and when he was ready to withdraw money, he found that the password written on the back of the bank card was incorrect. I even lost it a few times and almost got locked. He called his wife and mother-in-law angrily and asked them if they had changed their bank card password. The other party readily admitted that the money had been taken.
This made the man very angry and asked him loudly on the phone. At the beginning, hundreds of thousands of bride price were paid, and now it is not an exaggeration to use this 654.38+ 10,000 yuan as compensation. The other party is really cheating, asking the other party to give himself 6.5438+10,000 yuan.
However, the other party played a rogue and said that he wanted a divorce. This dowry of 6.5438 million lost the premise of the original gift. As for the bride price, no man will not give it to his wife. I haven't heard that the bride price will be returned when divorced, and even accused the man of ignoring the old relationship between husband and wife. When I got divorced, I began to become cold-blooded and heartless, and the abacus rang.
For this matter, the two sides fell into a mode of fighting each other. Later, I heard that the property problem was solved under the mediation of the outside world, and the woman returned part of the bride price money.
From the daily dispute of this matter, two problems are exposed: first, the trust between husband and wife is very poor, and every move is calculating each other; Second, marriage between men and women should follow the basis of equality and win-win, but the appearance of bride price and dowry sometimes becomes the fuse to intensify contradictions.
Let's start with the first question. The woman gives the man a dowry in the form of a bank card. When the two families had a good relationship, they naturally wouldn't be embarrassed to doubt each other's motives. But as the saying goes, if you harm others, you can't harm others, and you can't prevent them. But that woman is a villain. After all, she just gave her bank card. As long as you deliberately set the wrong password or don't say it, then this so-called luxury dowry of 654.38+ 10,000 just sticks sugar on the man's nose.
Behind this is actually the clever calculation of the woman, which also reflects the extreme distrust of the man. This situation exists in many couples who don't have deep feelings, especially many men and women who know each other on blind dates, and get married in a hurry without getting to know each other well before marriage. This mode of getting married first and then falling in love is actually tantamount to two strangers living together, so it is normal for couples who get married in this form to calculate and take precautions everywhere in their lives.
In fact, the second question has been criticized for a long time. Many couples are stuck in the bride price. It turns out that the original intention of the bride price in ancient times was to show the man's recognition of the woman, and a certain amount of bride price was used to express his mind, regardless of the number, mainly to express his mind. But now the bride price has evolved into a means to compare or collect money in many places, and so has the dowry.
So many people envy the freedom and freedom of marriage abroad, and don't want any bride price and dowry. As long as they say "I do" to each other, marriage is formed. This simple style is sought after by many young people. After all, the most important thing in marriage is internal, and superficial vanity is just a layer of formalism.
This simplicity not only brings convenience to marriage, but also makes divorce unsalable. There is no economic entanglement between the two sides. How relaxed they were together at the beginning, now they will turn around and leave gracefully. Although we can't completely copy the foreign model, it also gives us some enlightenment, so that the bride price and dowry can return to their original sources and prevent them from becoming obstacles to marriage, which naturally avoids the troubles and troubles caused by divorce.