It is not uncommon for ten years of feelings to break up because the bride price has not come to an end, and it is not uncommon for eight years of deep feelings to part ways because of a name of the real estate license. Some people say that love and marriage always involve money. But some people say that money is the touchstone, and it can be seen whether this relationship is true love.
Indeed, today, when most people say that emotion is higher than material, there are still many people who think that material is higher than emotion. It is irresponsible to talk about feelings without materials. For different people and different voices, we can't judge who is right or wrong, but today, when people's hearts are more and more complicated, I am more eager for pure feelings.
Like me, my good friend Duan Peng once thought so. In his emotional world, he has had a couple all his life. He is willing to try his best to give his future lover a perfect wedding. He is also self-motivated and eager to give his partner a stable and high-quality life.
He also hopes that his partner will always put his feelings first, as he thinks, because only when there is love between them will he be willing to fight for each other and his family.
After he met Miaomiao, he felt that he had met such a woman. Duan Peng, who talks about love seriously, is a passionate man who can only warm Miaomiao. For the sake of Miaomiao, he even pays more attention to his friends and often stands me up. Watching Duan Peng fall into the whirlpool of happiness, I feel happy for him. Only when you find the feeling of love in your life can you know how beautiful it is.
Soon, two people who have been in love for two years are ready to get married. Miaomiao didn't ask for a bride price, but that doesn't mean Miaomiao's parents didn't. When Duan Peng went to Miaomiao's house for the first time, Miaomiao's parents made their demands.
I hope Duan Peng will pay 654.38 million+bride price, and they will give Miaomiao 60,000.
Duan Peng's house before marriage and their desire to move to Miaomiao after marriage were all gifts. And put forward the wedding day "get off the bus money" 80 thousand, will not be refunded.
In Duan Peng's view, compared with hundreds of thousands or even hundreds of thousands of bride price, Miaomiao's parents are not so embarrassed. He can accept it. As for the house, he likes Miaomiao. If this is what Miaomiao wants, he is willing to give Miaomiao a sense of security. So, this is not a problem. "Get off" 80 thousand, he can accept it. Although the money in hand is almost the same, as long as I work hard before marriage, I still hope that I can make up for it without borrowing foreign debts.
Everything went well, but the problem appeared on the wedding day. Duan Peng had enough money to get off the bus, but one month before he got married, he lent the money to a close friend, who promised to return it before he got married, but he didn't return it until the wedding day.
This caught Duan Peng off guard. In fact, the money at home has been spent almost, and it is not enough to make up for 70 thousand, because it seems that this is not the case and it is urgent to borrow it from relatives and friends.
Duan Peng's mother simply said, "I can't take 8000 first. Just make up the money when you get married. It's time to get married. I believe my in-laws will not disagree or understand. "
But Miaomiao's parents are not happy. On the wedding day, Miaomiao was forced not to get off the bus, saying, "It is said that 80,000 people got off the bus, but now there are only 8,000 people. Is it a renege? "
No matter how Duan Peng's parents explained it, Miaomiao's parents didn't want to. Miaomiao was at a loss and afraid of disobeying his parents.
In desperation, Duan Peng had to call every relative, borrowed seven relatives, and collected 80,000 yuan, and the wedding went on as usual. Although it was an episode, it was finally solved, but in Duan Peng's heart, it became a thorn. Every time I go to Miaomiao's house, I think of my father-in-law that day.
For my friends, I really admire Duan Peng's good temper. If he didn't love Miaomiao so much, I'm afraid his marriage was ruined. But for the sake of Miaomiao, Duan Peng suddenly put up with all this.
On this matter, from a neutral point of view, I really disagree with Miaomiao's parents. 65438+ million bride price, from Duan Peng. Duan Peng also gave away the house for free, full of sincerity. There are still 80 thousand yuan to get off, and their family didn't say no. How did they make up afterwards?
In addition, I have never seen the woman's parents embarrass the man's parents and relatives on the spot and expose the changes of 80 thousand to 8 thousand in person. Is there anything that family members can't discuss behind closed doors?
Of course, Duan Peng's parents didn't do their job well, so they should explain to the woman's parents in advance. Maybe they won't. It can be estimated that they never thought that the woman's parents would open the red envelope for inspection and make it public.
Besides, I don't think Miaomiao loves Duan Peng so much. In that case, Miaomiao not only didn't stand up to help her lover calm the whole thing, but also didn't dissuade her parents, saying nothing and letting the two families quarrel, as if she were not the bride of the wedding, but an outsider.
But at this point, we can only hope that Duan Peng's love for Miaomiao can be futile and their marriage can be truly happy.
Through this matter, I want to talk to you. Material things and emotional things are more important to marriage? For me personally, it is natural that feelings are more important.
Putting aside feelings and talking about material marriage is just a transaction. If one party threatens the other with so-called feelings, hoping that the other party will materially satisfy himself and his family, this behavior is undoubtedly a blasphemy against marriage and feelings.
No matter how much the bride price, dowry and house are, they must be based on the wishes of both parties, and the premise of the wishes is nothing more than pure love for each other.
Because of love, I am willing to pay, because of love, I am willing to give you everything. Not because of your efforts, but because you have given me everything, I am willing to love you and think you are worthy of love. The relationship between the two cannot be reversed, otherwise there will be no love.
The so-called bargaining before marriage is actually laying the foundation for future feelings. People who value feelings more naturally feel that they are the strongest, while people who value things more often feel that their feelings are fragile and can't stand the wind and rain. So for the sake of privacy, I hope to get the protection of the other party before marriage.
But this kind of person who takes feelings as a bargaining chip should be prepared to suffer losses when doing this. You didn't give your heart. You always doubt each other's hearts. How can we really get each other's hearts?
Just like Duan Peng, his strange feelings for his father-in-law will accompany him all his life. We don't know what effect this will have on his marriage with Miaomiao.
The reason why lovers can attract each other is not because of material things, but because of affection and love. Only by cherishing each other and giving sincerity to each other can the marriage last. Material is important, but it must not be above love and marriage. Only in this way can we have a chance to experience that unforgettable and timeless love.