However, the reality is that not every woman can have love and a happy life in marriage. With the development of women's views on marriage and love, more and more older women have appeared.
Although anxious, eager to love and be loved, envious of lovers kissing on street corners, few older women are willing to put down their bodies and lower their mate selection conditions.
I met a female client at work, 45 years old, unmarried. She is quite capable herself. There are two e-commerce companies, three high-end apartments and one villa under her name. She said that she was busy every day. She started her business at the age of 30. She didn't have time to fall in love and missed best age for marriage, so she is still single.
She said she was lonely after busy every day. She was very envious when she saw others walk into a family of three. Seeing that her parents are worried about getting married, she is very anxious, but it is really difficult to find someone who can get married now. Because the average man looks down on her, she is no worse than her, but she won't find a 40-year-old woman to like her, which is really a dead end in life.
Indeed, whether men with poor conditions or men with good conditions in all aspects, whether they are 20, 30, 40 or 50 years old, they all prefer young girls in their twenties from the heart. If not, if they have no choice, how can they bring an older woman in her thirties?
Few elderly women are willing to put down their bodies and lower their mate selection conditions.
As an older woman, if she has a good attitude, is not afraid of loneliness, and has a good quality of single life, she thinks it doesn't matter whether she is married or not, and it is understandable to choose to stick to her own mate selection conditions.
But if it is the kind of person who is afraid of loneliness and eager to get married, it is better to face the reality and find a suitable man to get married.
Don't be a little girl who always wants to marry Gao Fushuai, which is unrealistic. Otherwise, you can only delay your youth and regret yourself in the end.
CoCo Lee, 37, is still unmarried. To be exact, she doesn't have a boyfriend. In fact, her own conditions are not good at all, and she looks average. She works as customer service in a wedding company, and her salary is less than 4000. However, CoCo Lee said that because of her poor conditions, she didn't want to live a miserable life after marriage, so she had to marry a man with good conditions.
Especially in recent years, she worked in a wedding company. Seeing that many girls are well married, she kept telling herself that I want to marry a rich one.
Therefore, for many years, CoCo Lee has been willing to lower her standards of mate selection, and she is always very picky. Even if some men are really nice to her and she has feelings, when she feels that men's economic conditions are "not up to standard", she immediately "returns to reason" and resolutely rejects men's pursuit. In this way, we have been dating and have been failing. Either she despises each other or men with good conditions are not interested in her.
"I was rejected by the second married man when I was dating, and I realized that I was really wrong. No man wants to date me now, so I regret it! "
This is CoCo Lee's deepest regret for his past. CoCo Lee said that last month, under the introduction of menstruation, she lowered her standards and went on a blind date with a man with poor economic conditions. However, when she told the man that she planned to attend the wedding at Dr. Mar's house in the future, the man actually said to her, "Don't you think it's ridiculous that a woman who is almost forty still wants to grow so tall?"
This sarcastic remark stabbed CoCo Lee's heart like a dagger. She was angry and sad, and felt unprecedented humiliation. However, CoCo Lee said that this blind date experience really made her reflect a lot, and she felt that her past ideas were too unrealistic, which led to her being dumped and being laughed at by the second married man.
Without gold, no one is perfect, and excessive pursuit of perfection in blind date is an imperfection. The problem of some leftover women is not that they have not found the right person, but that they are not so good. Xiu wants to find a man with good conditions. The so-called heart is higher than the sky and life is thinner than paper. For leftover women, it's not reality that beats you, but your own stubbornness that finally beats you. From beginning to end, if you refuse to "tailor-made", it is fantasy.
Therefore, if a woman wants not to be left behind, what she has to do is to recognize herself. In the best youth, she will have a beautiful love. Colleagues who are looking for love will study hard in their spare time to improve themselves and make themselves more attractive. There will always be a beautiful love waiting for you in the future. As the saying goes, when bloom is in full bloom, butterflies are coming!