Communication is an important part of interpersonal communication, and good communication can bring people closer. An idea, a message, is often expressed through one's own habits in the process of transmission, explanation and understanding. How to make the other person and you accept each other, truly reflect your feelings, and achieve the purpose of compromise or agreement? This is the art of communication. Interpersonal communication is interactive, and the reaction of two participants to information is a process of information transmission and feedback, which will be disturbed by factors such as environment, individuals, transmission channels, information itself and understanding.
In the two weddings, the surname Qi should first get closer to the surname Lin and express his blessing to Lin's wedding through language exchange. Good language communication is enough to make a foothold and achieve something. As the saying goes: "Illness comes from the mouth, and disaster comes from the mouth", "A good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June". People who can talk have strong affinity, can quickly become one with others, and often achieve their goals in a few words, thus obtaining the pleasure of success. In order to achieve this goal, let's not talk about substantive topics first, but change some topics that can restore the other person's mood to a calm state, such as lesbians, and say something praising her. When the other party is sad or frustrated, don't ask too complicated and blunt questions that may cause the other party unhappiness; When we find that the other person is in trouble and we can't help him, it's best not to say anything and let him think calmly. Therefore, the Qi family should greet the Lins more, communicate more and understand the contradictions and conflicts between the two sides. From the perspective of happy events, today is a big day for both sides. We should put peace first and do more work for each other.
Communicate with Lin again. Today is the "happy event" of the two families, and we must make money by harmony. If you pass the colored door built by the forest side, you can add joy to your happiness. It is a double happiness and a good color. They are all villagers in the village and count as a family. If a family doesn't talk about two things, it's double happiness. When communicating with Lin, Qi must take this as the premise. Of course, the first thing to do is to stay calm. When the other person is angry, disgusted or fanatical, the first task is to calm him down first, so that the other person can return to a calm state from a passionate state, so that the other person's reason can continue normal activities and further communication and exchanges are possible. The process of communication is interactive and gradual, that is, both parties should transmit information, at the same time, they should accept each other's feedback information, adjust their strategies according to the feedback information, and then transmit information, and so on until the end. In short, knowing other people's mood can infer their thinking activities, and our words will be more targeted and convincing. Therefore, the Qi family should communicate patiently and calmly, find a balance point and seek a solution to the problem.
Finally, from the perspective of the elders of both sides, parents have worked hard all their lives, hoping that their children can find a good home and a happy home, and everyone wants to have a good mood and welcome their families happily. If both sides are polite to each other, it can make the happy event happier. Why not! The Qi family can really impress the Lins. It's unlucky to cross the painted gate. Being able to pass the same painted door shows that the two families are destined to move around and communicate more in the future. Moving people with emotion, according to each other's psychology, starting from each other's concerns, we have a heart-to-heart communication with Lin in language communication.
The communicator's language expression ability is poor, the language is not fluent or there are some involuntary body movements, expressions and eyes that interfere with the other party's attention, all of which are unintentional interference. Sometimes, in order to achieve their own goals, one communication party will deliberately create communication obstacles for other communication parties. If both sides of the conflict show sensitive reactions to the conflict, they will not only be aware of the conflict, but also have more emotional reactions to it, such as feeling nervous, angry, worried or energetic. Moreover, both sides of the conflict have clearly defined the object, content and purpose of the conflict, clearly drawn a clear line with each other, and made various preparations for their own response to the conflict.
Compromise means that both parties to a conflict make concessions to each other in order to reach an agreement. When using the compromise method, we should pay attention to timely use, and pay special attention not to adopt this method too early.
If communication with Lin still doesn't work, compromise and negotiation will be adopted, and one party will give a red envelope and some bride price, which is a good lottery. Through this lottery, the two sides will happily greet each other. In the process of compromise negotiation, we should not be too weak, which will lead to more gifts on Lin's side, and the words are still tough, which is easy to ignite conflicts. In the process of negotiation, we should be polite and well-founded, be emotional, and combine various communication methods to try our best to avoid conflicts from developing into uncontrollable situations.
In this case, the key to the coordination between the Qi Party and the Lin Party is sincere communication. In interpersonal communication, honesty is "gold", respect is "silver", correct attitude is the key, clear purpose is the premise, and moderate way is the strategy. Strive to improve their humanistic quality, irrigate and fertilize for improving their communicative ability, and cultivate the foundation for building high-rise buildings. "In expression and communication, we should create an atmosphere, influence others, handle conflicts and disputes in an appropriate way such as sincerity, emotion, discussion and tolerance, and constantly improve our interpersonal communication skills and skills.