Jing He and Sun Zhe fell in love for more than a year and lived together, but in the end, Jing He found that they were not suitable. Jing He wants to find a husband to rely on, but Sun Zhe is more like a child and has no sense of responsibility. He said he loved her, but he didn't talk empty words.
But when I was thinking about how to break up in Jing He, I found that I was pregnant. Jing He was caught off guard by the arrival of the child, but Sun Zhe was so happy that he immediately told his parents. When Sun Zhe's parents know this, they will go to Jing He's parents and urge them to get married quickly.
Jing He, still in a daze, was persuaded by her parents. Sun Zhe touched his belly when he proposed, and reached out and agreed to Sun Zhe's proposal.
Until the wedding, I could still see the uncertainty and hesitation in Jing He's eyes, but she always stroked her stomach with her hands, gritted her teeth and said nothing.
I thought Jing He would improve Sun Zhe after having children, and Sun Zhe would be more mature after becoming a father. The result is still the same. Jing He and Sun Zhe are divorced, and neither side wants to give up their children. It seems that they will even go to court, and it will be a situation in which the larger foe breaks the net.
Alas, I don't sigh. Why do couples do this? In fact, it can be said that this is all Sun Zhe's fault. I don't think so. Jing He is dissatisfied with Sun Zhe and has reached the point of breaking up. I'm sure Sun Zhe won't be ignorant, but the appearance of this child made Sun Zhe know his responsibility, so he decided to propose marriage, hoping to give her and her children a complete home.
Jing He didn't want to get married, but finally decided to get married. This reluctant marriage ended in divorce.
So what is unmarried pregnancy? Baidu explains it this way:
Unmarried pregnancy refers to the phenomenon that men and women who have not fulfilled the marriage registration procedures have sexual relations, which leads to the woman's pregnancy, which is one of the consequences of unmarried pregnancy. The "men and women" mentioned here usually refers to people who have no legal spouse, especially young people who are going to get married, but they can also be men and women who have a legal spouse, including people who have legal spouses on both sides.
In addition to Jing He Sun Zhe's premarital sexual intercourse and cohabitation, the reasons also include "impulsive sex" leading to pregnancy, "trial marriage" leading to pregnancy, and illegal services leading to pregnancy.
However, among these unmarried pregnant women, because they were pregnant, they immediately agreed to marry the man if the other party accepted it. How do you think?
First, to save face.
It is a shame for women to get pregnant before marriage. I believe most women are embarrassed about this, especially friends and family. If they don't get married and have children, children will often be labeled as illegitimate children, which is a word that women don't want to hear anyway.
Women are naturally introverted. Women who are pregnant before marriage can easily be regarded as shameless. They can do anything for men. Moreover, after pregnancy, their stomachs will get bigger every day. If family and friends ask, if a woman can't tell her husband's name, it will be the most shameful thing in her life.
Second, for the children.
There is a doctor who benefits the people in the TV series "Emergency Doctor". She once described pregnancy like this: "When I knew that I was pregnant before marriage, I only had fear and fear in my heart. As my belly grows bigger every day, my fear is increasing. However, when I felt the fetal movement, I suddenly felt full of strength. At that moment, I decided to give birth to this child. In any case, I can't lose my child. "
This is a kind of mother's happiness, and a man can't feel it even if he knows he is his father. Because this child was born in a woman's body and felt his changes for 24 hours, the baby's growth bit by bit can be felt as a mother, and this feeling makes the mother full of expectation and strength.
Therefore, I dare to do anything for my children, even if I don't like that man, I am willing to give each other a chance. This is the most sincere love for the baby in the belly. I hope the baby can have a complete family.
Third, share the economic pressure
Xiao Jing is a girl who loves to play, but she had a one-time relationship with her boyfriend without any measures, and then she got pregnant. When her boyfriend learned that Xiao Jing was pregnant, she ran away in horror at once. No matter what Xiao Jing called, Xiao Jing was helpless, but because of her system, the child could not be aborted, otherwise she would be infertile for life. So Xiao Jing decided to marry her former suitor, Zhuo Wang, when she was still very young, but she didn't tell him the truth. I hope he can.
Although Xiaojing was very sorry for Zhuo Wang, she vowed to be doubly kind to Wang Zhuo after marriage.
In fact, unmarried pregnancy is not only harmful to women, but also unfair to children. After a lot of research and investigation, it shows that it is difficult for children born to unmarried pregnant people to resist social discrimination and exclusion. They are often the reserve forces of illegal and criminal acts, which can easily lead to criminal acts and bring harmful consequences to society. This is a picture that every mother doesn't want to see.
Therefore, as a woman, we must know how to protect ourselves. No matter how deep your feelings are, never cross that line before you get married. Even if you cross it, don't take any chances. You should take measures and take medicine, because only you can protect yourself in this world.
And even if you are unfortunately pregnant before marriage, you should consider it clearly. There are usually three ways:
The first is to abort the fetus, but this is extremely harmful to the woman's body and mind.
Secondly, it is raised alone, but the economic pressure and social moral criticism are beyond the ordinary people's endurance.
The third is to marry the father of the child. If the relationship is good, it is also possible. If the relationship is average, the woman must consider it clearly.
Marriage is not a matter for one person. If the life of husband and wife is full of contradictions, it will do harm to the growth of children. Therefore, this marriage must be considered from its own perspective. If it is inappropriate, you must not be impulsive, so even if you make the first two choices, it will be a hundred times stronger than impulsive marriage.
For women, getting pregnant before marriage is already a mistake. Why do you want to marry someone you don't like? It's foolish to make a mistake once, but it's foolish to be responsible for yourself and the baby in your belly. Ask women to open their eyes and see if the man in front of them is right.
Marriage only chooses what you love, not the right one. Marriage is not a cabbage market. The rotten other half is rotten after marriage, so the marriage will also rot.