Love and marriage are really two different things;
No matter how long you have been in love, it is not enough to know a person deeply. Because even if we spend a long time together, most of the time is dealing with the problems between you two, friends and a few family problems;
Everyone has never been exposed to the real life of daily necessities, and the problems encountered in love will not be too big a test for both sides.
The closer a relationship is to marriage, the more problems there will be. At this time, it is often easy to produce contradictions.
Marriage itself is the biggest thing in life. There are too many issues involved, from bride price, house to wedding, which are all important and complicated events. This is also a major event that couples have faced since they fell in love, testing the communication and feelings of two people.
Marriage is not just a matter of two people, but the running-in of two families. Before getting married, you all stood in the position of your two families. Two families need contact, and many things will be promoted to the family level. With more family members, there will be more differences and contradictions. In real life, we often hear people say that my husband is completely different before and after marriage, and his attitude has completely changed.
On the one hand, these people lack a deeper understanding and have personality problems; On the other hand, they may have traditional or abnormal ideas about marriage, which needs their attention.
How to deal with these problems?
Don't take yourself too seriously as a bride. Many people think that marriage is when a man marries a woman. Men are like debtors to her and should please her. He is inferior. As a "bride", he should be self-centered and pay attention to my emotions, and Tik Tok should please me. Actually, it's not necessary The concept now is different from before. Both sides want to live a better life in the future, so why care too much about these problems. We should keep a good attitude and think more about each other, so as to avoid more contradictions.
Maintain good communication and coordination. Good communication must be the most critical, and many problems are caused by poor communication. Small problems become big problems, resulting in contradictions. You must express your thoughts and emotions in time, don't bury them in your heart. Psychologically speaking, depressed emotions will erupt when they shouldn't, which is a bad factor for the development of things. Especially when the other person is in a bad mood and his attitude changes, he must ask in time, find out what is wrong or think too much, and communicate and coordinate in time to solve it.
Understand each other. In many things, we must stand in each other's position and think more about each other. Instead of asking for it. Because we will be a family in the future, we should do it decently, not for ourselves, which will hurt our feelings. Sometimes, even if the other party compromises, these problems will lay a curse for the future relationship.
Observe carefully, deepen understanding and act cautiously. If the other person's attitude has really changed a lot and emotional problems have been ruled out, then pay attention to observation. Is it because you think that things have been settled that you will expose the essence and analyze your feelings, whether the other party has taken off the mask of disguise, and whether there is any problem with the other party's character or concept? The next step here is to be cautious. Marriage is a major event in life, so we must be cautious. There is a saying that no matter how good a couple is, they have the urge to divorce at least 200 times. Everyone has shortcomings, and more tolerance, understanding and running-in are needed between two people. When something goes wrong, both sides should calm down, find the problem and solve it. Love can resolve all contradictions.