Not only do young people not live with their in-laws, but many mothers-in-law also propose to live separately and eat at their in-laws' homes. However, life is separate and will not interfere too much in the lives of two people. Why is there a contradiction in this situation? In fact, whether together or not, if there is such a relationship, there will be contradictions.
A friend's cousin didn't live with her parents after she got married. My friend's aunt is a very open-minded person and seldom asks about the life of husband and wife. After having a child, she only cares about the child, and others seldom care. My mother-in-law seems to be easy to get along with and my daughter-in-law is strict. What should I say? I won't ask my mother-in-law when this matter is over. This seemingly harmonious relationship, the details can't stand scrutiny.
My cousin is an only child. She was not pampered, but she didn't do any housework either. The mother-in-law wants her daughter-in-law to take care of her son and cook for him. Usually when he is tired from work, he will not be allowed to do housework at home and let him earn money. These will be said intentionally or unintentionally in normal times.
Daughter-in-law has been very independent since childhood. Don't go to work after marriage, get pregnant and have children, and never go to work. She hopes that her husband can help her look after the children or clean the house for a while when he comes home from work, instead of lying and playing games when he gets home.
Whenever the mother-in-law says that her son is tired, the daughter-in-law retorts that the child is tired. When things happen, the mother-in-law thinks of her son first, and the daughter-in-law thinks of what her husband should do to make herself comfortable. In this way, even if they do not live together, the problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law still exist.
First, don't interfere too much to make the two families more independent.
The so-called distance produces beauty, and so does the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Mother-in-law should not interfere too much in the lives of young couples, so as to make the two small families more independent, make them comfortable and make their daughter-in-law happy.
As a son and daughter-in-law, we should always care about the health of our elders, but other things don't need too much interference. After all, you will always be a child in their eyes, and adults don't want children to interfere in their own affairs.
Second, praise more and understand more.
No one doesn't like being praised. Daughter-in-law can praise her mother-in-law more in her life, such as the beautiful clothes she bought, the delicious food she cooked today and the care for her baby. My mother-in-law is very happy, and the happiness index of this family will increase a lot.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should understand each other. It is not easy for a mother-in-law to understand her daughter-in-law. She left home, married to your family and helped you take care of your son. She used to be a princess in her hands. Daughter-in-law should also understand the difficulties of her mother-in-law for so many years and cultivate an excellent husband.