Han Xiao said that being a bridesmaid is not only thankless, but also dangerous, because she went through all this as a bridesmaid last month. After she became a bridesmaid, she was not only particularly angry, but also completely broke off relations with her best friend.
Han Xiao said that when she heard her best friend say that she wanted to be a bridesmaid, she was very happy and thought she could be happier, but she didn't know that everything was different from her imagination.
At the wedding ceremony, the master of ceremonies said that the best man and bridesmaid wanted to play a game to enliven the atmosphere. At that time, Han provided honestly looked at the best man opposite, and there would be no refusal. But I know that the best man across the street kissed her while playing games, which made her very angry, so she slapped the best man hard on the spot and then called him disrespectful. Because all eyes were on the stage, she slapped him.
Han Xiao said that at that time, she felt particularly wronged. She wants to ask her best friend for help and make her apologize. But when I saw her, I didn't comfort her or speak for her. Instead, he said to her angrily, "Don't ruin my wedding. Please bear with it first and talk about it later. "
After hearing this from his girlfriend, Han provided anger on the spot. He directly hit the best man on the head with something next to him, and then ran away crying.
It is also because of this that my best friend called to scold her that day, saying that she had ruined her perfect marriage and wanted to hate Han provided for life. There are even many people who say that Xiao Han is too impulsive. Even if something big happens, you can't make a fuss at someone else's wedding, because it is a big event in someone else's life.
It was also after hearing these words that Han Xiao felt particularly wronged, so she asked me: Did she really do something wrong?
Bian Xiao has something to say:
In my opinion, I don't think there is anything wrong with Han provided. Everything she does is just to protect herself, and no one is qualified to make irresponsible remarks.
As for Han Xiao ruining his best friend's wedding, I don't think it's Han Xiao's fault at all, because all this is caused by the unruly best man and the selfishness of Han Xiao's best friend, so it's not Han Xiao's fault at all, and it's all Han Xiao's best friend's culpable of punishment.
In addition, for Han Xiao, it is a good thing that his best friend broke up with her, because a selfish woman like his best friend is not worth making friends at all and is not a good person at all.
Those who say that Han Xiao shouldn't make a scene at other people's weddings are actually saying that it is easy to stand up, because things didn't happen to them, so they can say those sarcastic words. If this happened to their daughter, I don't think they would say these words.
I think Han Xiao's practice is correct. As a woman, she should protect herself like this. Otherwise, she will only get hurt more and more, because people are good at being bullied and Mashan is ridden.
In fact, there are many things in marriage, not only bridesmaids are vulnerable, but even some brides can't escape. I still remember the little video of "Father-in-law kissing his daughter-in-law at the drunken wedding scene", with the caption saying: "At the wedding scene of an international hotel in Yancheng, Jiangsu, the groom's father drank too much and kissed the bride"!
When I first saw this video, I was particularly surprised. I thought it was definitely impossible, because it was too ridiculous.
But I don't know, it wasn't long before the groom said, "It's a local custom to kiss your face without fighting."
In other words, this kind of thing is actually very common, and our own people think it's nothing, but your netizens make a fuss and even send them a lawyer's letter at last. And then this thing, it will go away.
In my opinion, there are more and more such vicious marriages. The main reason is that women's self-protection consciousness is too poor, and they always roll with the punches and roll with the punches. This is the reason for their arrogance.
In recent years, there have been more and more malicious "marriage fights" and disrespect for women among the people. As for why these things happen, it is because many women lack safety awareness to protect themselves and have no bottom line tolerance in the face of injury, which makes those abusers worse and more and more victims.
There are even many men who label these harassment as "lively". In their words: "Women don't cooperate with them, they can't afford to play or make trouble if they resist to protect themselves."
To tell the truth, whenever I hear these words, I am particularly angry, and even want to pull these people out and beat and scold them, and then teach them the shame of being a human being.
We can understand that the wedding should be lively, but lively is by no means vulgar The wedding was originally a lively event, but it was precisely because of these malicious events that everyone failed to be happy.
In the past, getting married was a happy event. Active participation can make you feel a little happy, and everyone is willing to participate. But now because of more and more malicious incidents such as "marital quarrels", more and more women are afraid of being invited as bridesmaids.
Many women around me once asked me, "Can women still be bridesmaids?" ?
My answer to this question is yes, because malicious marriage is rare, most weddings are normal, and it is ok to be a bridesmaid.
But before being a bridesmaid, I hope all women should know these three things first.
1. Are there any malicious customs in the hometown of the bride and groom? If so, just refuse. Never think that this will hurt your feelings, because such a choice can not only guarantee your feelings, but also protect your own safety.
2. Know the friends around the groom, birds of a feather flock together, and people are divided into groups. If the groom's friends are not serious people, they have to refuse to be bridesmaids directly.
Before being a bridesmaid, you must have a sense of security, have people who can guarantee your own safety, and confess acceptable standards and principles to them. If they can't do it, then directly refusing to be a bridesmaid is the most correct decision.
In my opinion, for women who are good friends and bridesmaids, it is most important to protect themselves from harm at the wedding scene. Therefore, in the face of the coming injury, we should bravely protect ourselves. You know, blind tolerance will only make each other worse.