Pyramus is the most handsome man in Babylon, and Tessie is the most beautiful beauty. They lived next door and played together since childhood. When they grew up, they fell in love for a long time. They all wanted to get married, but their parents opposed them. Due to the discord between the two families, they are increasingly becoming enemies. They not only opposed the young couple's oral contact, but also forbade them to meet. (Recommended reading: Zhu Jun/Middle-aged topic: Don't like contact with children? )
There was a small crack in the wall between two houses long ago because of the earthquake, which was so small that no one noticed it, but it was discovered by lovers in love. They snuggled up against the wall, whispered to each other, poured out their love back and forth, and their eager breathing and heartbeat merged through the wall. No matter how lingering and whispering, they still have to say goodbye at sunset. Pyramus will put his lips on one side of the wall, and Tess will stick it on the other side of the wall to kiss goodbye. This is when they are closest to each other.
Just like the shattered wall, your thin mobile phone also carries your blocked love. Greek mythology handed down a long time ago can actually tell you the helplessness of modern people.
But you don't like the ending. Pyramus and Debye, unable to stand the barrier of this wall, met and eloped, but mistakenly thought that each other was dead and ended in double suicide.
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How about Romeo and Juliet? The announcer of Shakespeare's great plays and operas told us that all stories have the same beginning. There is nothing new in the moonlight, the only thing that matters is love.
You frown and say, "It's all accidental deaths in the end, and the story ends the same. If there is nothing new in the moonlight, the only thing that matters to people in love is love.
Although Romeo and Juliet have become the symbols of lovers' obstruction and double suicide, you don't even have to tell stories anymore, but your little head is still somewhat different and not carried away by love.
"Is there any other way besides eloping?" You ask.
Just like the storyteller in Arabian Nights, I thought and thought that a boyfriend of modern Korean drama was still playing a popular TV series, which had a high audience rating in South Korea and spread to other Asian countries. Jin, the hero of the play, and Che Xiuxian, the heroine, were naturally opposed by their families because of their huge differences in backgrounds, but instead of eloping, they stayed behind to face the solution.
Hezhen was born in a wealthy family and worked in a big company called Fairy Tale Hotel on her own. Soo-hyun's father is the mayor of Seoul, with a prominent family background. He is the CEO of Fairy Tale Hotel, and his position is far beyond truth.
Therefore, Xiuxian's mother accused Hezhen of not being worthy of her daughter, while Hezhen's mother privately asked Xiuxian to leave her son. Both mothers are strongly opposed. What should the young couple do
Jin-hyuk, what do you say? A sunny boy is not only tall and handsome in appearance, but also strong in heart, confident and optimistic, gentle and kind. When Xiuxian's mother accused him of unworthiness and others laughed at his attachment to him, he clearly knew that he loved Xiuxian, not her position, so he really loved him and was not angry and depressed because of outsiders' criticism. On the contrary, we can observe the feelings of caring for Xiuxian and encouraging each other.
When Xiuxian's mother came to talk to her privately about the pain of motherhood, she didn't want Hezhen and his family to fall into the pressure and harm of public opinion, just like the pain she had been suffering, so she chose to leave Hezhen, but she was helpless and naturally puzzled and sad.
What the young couple did was to put themselves in each other's shoes and show empathy in love. (Recommended reading: Practicing empathy is as important as exercising)
More exciting is yet to come. When Hezhen knew that it was his mother's request that led to Xiuxian's departure, he immediately went to Xiuxian to find out the real reason why she decided to break up and how she felt. On the other hand, he returned to his mother and frankly expressed his love for Xiuxian. He also said that he could understand why his mother did this, instead of angry accusations.
As the warm man told his mother, he loves Xiuxian and his family. Xiuxian and his mother are his two favorite women in this world, and they are equally important to him.
Furthermore, he told his mother that what Xiuxian really cared about was that he didn't want to ruin the peaceful and happy life of his family, so he chose to leave. He warmly shook his mother's hand and said, "Mother's heart is love, and Xiuxian's heart is also love. I will cherish waiting for them until my mother can accept it and Xiuxian will no longer feel guilty. I can wait. 」
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Finally, the warm man really waited for the happiness he wanted.
This kind of waiting does not come out of thin air, but through hard work, to understand, to re-understand the deep understanding of our family and to re-communicate. Empathy is an important part of love. This is not only the case between husband and wife, but also the family members outside the small circle of two people. Especially when they strongly oppose it, they need to put themselves in each other's shoes, so that things can turn around and things can be solved.
Just like seeing the heart as a father and a mother, the last step is to solve the fear in her mother's heart. Her mother was afraid that he would get hurt and that he might not love them. It was not until she made a loving promise that her deepest fears were eliminated. Because of this, Hezhen's mother can go back to Xiang Xiu Xian to apologize, accept her completely, and reduce Xiuxian's guilt and worry. Only then can they have the courage and sincerity to go on, and everything will be fine.
Comparing the love tragedy of Romeo and Juliet, I can't help wondering whether Boyfriend was set as a love comedy from the beginning, or more accurately, a love reunion drama, because it is not funny, but also has joys and sorrows.
The first two love classics brought drama tension to the highest point, but eloped unfortunately. Then a Korean drama shows the delicate communication of modern people and the so-called empathy in emotional intelligence (EQ), so there is also a conflict between love and affection, and there is also a tug-of-war between happiness and fear, but it can replace opposition with empathy, resolve fear with love, and finally make love happy and reunited, instead of going to despair.