Speaking of it, there are countless love stories in a dream of red mansions. The first thing to push is Baodai's infatuation with pink. In a dream of red mansions, the love between these two people is the purest. Growing up, falling in love when you grow up. Cao Gong simply pushed the boat with the tide, making readers feel that another love story spread all over the world was born. Its appearance is so natural that few people doubt that it is so pure. But untimely love is synonymous with pain. Daiyu's unique rebellious and withdrawn personality and disdain for the secular make her stand out from the crowd everywhere. Reading the West Chamber before the flowers, there is nothing taboo; I don't like rhetoric, and I will do what I say; Advocating the truth, indifferent to fame and fortune ... all these make her like a lotus, always clinging to her purity, purity and cleanliness, as clear as jasper. Looking at her from an ordinary person's point of view, what I appreciate most is Dai Yu's poetry and humor. Daiyu often opposes her sisters by drinking, enjoying flowers and reciting poems. She is always brilliant and full of artistic sense. Whether it is a teenager listening to the poems on the rain song building, I want to be immortal; Or the desolation of plants and the return of wild geese to the south, the tenderness of flowers can solve the affair of language; All of them reflect her elegant and refined poet temperament. The most sighing thing is Daiyu's sentimentality. Her beauty is unlucky. Daiyu's life experience doomed her to be lonely and helpless, and her personality doomed her to be lonely and sad. Even though the people in the Grand View Garden are very busy, there is no relative she can rely on, no confidant she can confide in, and only the romantic and affectionate Baoyu makes her secretly promise, but she always suffers from considerations of gain and loss. So she said helplessly, "Where is Xiangshan?" She lamented that "the fragrant nest has been built in March, and the swallow nest between beams is ruthless." She lamented that "flowers are flying all over the sky, and the red fragrance is broken." Finally, she ended up with a sad ending of "a wisp of fragrant soul dispersed with the wind and stayed up all night".
It is not so much Lin Daiyu's position in Jiafu and her own background that caused the tragedy, but rather that the feudal group headed by Yuan Chun ruthlessly killed the love between Baoyu and Daiyu, a feudal society with a vicious circle of responsibility. If A Dream of Red Mansions is really a description of Cao Xueqin's personal experience, then I can feel the pain of a man losing his beloved. The fire of hell is burning around me, which is terrible and makes my mind stagnate. This is not painful pain, but painful love. When Cao Gong, who had shed all his blood and tears, turned to face that unbearable history, how could he not sigh "full of absurd words and bitter tears"!
There is also the love tragedy of Xue Baochai. It's still so sad to see Daiyu die of depression. But after reading it, when I heard Zhen talking about "Gui Lan", I couldn't help feeling sad. Should a character like Xue Baochai be buried in this cold garden all his life like Li Wan? What does she need in the face of a man who doesn't love himself at all, regardless of his marriage? In fact, I knew it was Grandma Bao Er's throne without asking. But I can't help asking, is there really a woman who likes loneliness in the world? I always thought she was a cold and selfish person. But now, I can't help feeling sorry for her. What she needs most is not the irrigation of love, but freedom. Xue Baochai's family is rich and she has read poetry since she was a child. Received an extremely comprehensive and orthodox education. Jia Mu always praised her as "quiet and generous". Yes, this is exactly the way she was educated since she was a child, and it is also the virtue that ancient women should have. Even sorrow and joy should not have color, otherwise it is "disrespect." Throughout the book, her behavior almost never goes beyond these constraints. Only once did Baoyu compare her to Yang Fei, which made her furious, but it was just a cold irony. In fact, she is the saddest person, who has been influenced by other people's opinions and education all her life. I never know what I want. I'm not happy and I'm not happy. I just follow the path of nature. I have never loved wholeheartedly, and I dare not pursue love bravely. As for herself, she thinks the world is so much. She believes that the relationship between husband and wife is not sincere feelings, but the respect of "quoting Qi Mei". Such a cold rule turned out to be that she abided by the principles of her own life, and she was numb and unconscious.
In fact, what she did was not a free choice. She is just a typical obedient. She is smart and talented, but she was educated that it is useless for women to study. Xiangling and Xiangyun talk about poetry. She said, "A girl's family takes poetry as a serious matter, so that learned people can listen to it and laugh at her for not doing her duty." She is also familiar with drama and traditional Chinese opera, but she thinks that these obscene words and clever sentences can't be known to dignified ladies, so she gently criticized Baoqin's poems. She wanted to have a better life like everyone else, but when her mother married Baoyu, who was stupid for the Jia family, she had to accept it with tears because her mother told her that she had promised. It was not until Baoyu finally became a monk that her tragedy reached its climax. Even so, she still can't let her nature do it. Lady Wang said, "It's rare to see Baochai cry, but he left with no dignity." Think about Baochai's character and being so young, and think about how her life will end.
Compared with Lin, her life may be more miserable. Lin at least pursued his own happiness, got sincere feelings, and finally died, getting rid of all the pain. But Baochai has been "ignorant" all her life. According to her personality, she can only let the blunt knife of life cut her life bit by bit! It is a pity to stop the machine, but it is a pity to praise talents. "Jade belt hangs on the forest, gold hairpin buries snow" doomed Xue to be one of several tragedies in the Red Chamber. For her life, the author Cao Xueqin should also sigh!
Then there are Miaoyu, Qingwen and so on. Miaoyu claimed to be an outsider, but in her youth, it was difficult for her to be a monk, heartless and totally honest. On Baoyu's birthday, she will send pink stationery, which reads "Wonderful jade outside the sill wishes Chen Fang", and Baoyu is instructed by the smoke to reply "Baoyu smokes and worships in the sill". This "outside" and "inside" seem ridiculous, but in fact they also contain some affection. It's a pity that Baoyu has a lot of respect for Miaoyu even if he has feelings. Occasionally, the worldly feelings that pass by will be regarded as a sin, for fear of desecrating the holy and noble beautiful girl. This is Miaoyu's sorrow. ...
"Ji month is hard to meet, the clouds are easy to disperse, and the heart is higher than the sky, which is base. Romantic dexterity makes people complain. Shouduo was born of slander, and his affectionate son was empty. " Does Qingwen really not love Baoyu? Personally, I think she is loving. You see, she always quarrels with xiren. Although a large part of it is that she doesn't like attacking people, isn't there jealousy in it? Aaron said "we", but she clung to it and made a lot of cynicism. She also satirized the musk moon. When she got two clothes from her wife, she couldn't see Musk Moon's smile. However, after several times, she rushed to send something, saying that she would "show her good looks." Baoyu combs Musk Moon's hair, and Musk Moon hides at the door to eavesdrop. In fact, she has been paying attention to this Baoyu, paying attention to the girls who are close to Baoyu, such as Xiaohong and Baoyu, and they are rudely interrupted by her. She once said with a smile, "There is nothing I don't know" because she has been paying attention! But Qingwen is a slave with bones. She doesn't want to love someone humbly. She always wants to be an equal with Baoyu. She can't love someone as lowly as xiren. She has her own characteristics, a bit like a savage girlfriend, beautiful but not gentle. Xiren once laughed at Baoyu, "I can't live without her hard words every day." Obviously, Qingwen's playing hard to get is still useful. However, her personality is rare, aboveboard and upright. In the environment of the Grand View Garden, there is always no place. To tell you the truth, I like the role of Qingwen very much. I don't want to say that the reason why I like her is that the attraction of love is not a person, but a person. When choosing a spouse, I want to find someone like Qingwen. Hehe, under consideration ...
Look at a dream of red mansions. This stone has a lot of rouge flavor. There are a thousand beginnings of love, but only two endings. The beauty of Cao Xueqin is that there are 1000 kinds of love beginnings, and the endings are all Xian Yi, young and old. To tell you the truth, I'm a little gloating. On the other hand, it is a tragedy. I have carefully read some Chinese and foreign literary masterpieces, almost all of which are tragedies. From quasimodo to Baoyu, from boule de suif to Ah Q, even Jack and Ruth in Titanic today are tragic figures. Justice over evil can only exist in comics, and there are no chants handed down from generation to generation. In particular, the Water Margin, the Three Kingdoms and the Red Mansion in China all follow the principle of a strong rise after a difficult start, then a stable situation, and finally a sharp decline. This is the same as the general product development law described in the MBA course. There is no such thing as a banquet that must come to an end, and the law of life seems to be closely linked with it. When a civilization leaps to its peak, it will inevitably decline. Indeed, according to the current environmental development, mankind will eventually have an end. Is this the eternal theorem of the universe? Is this another new mode after Plato's "the spiritual mode or abstract mode of things is certain"? Therefore, diamonds last forever, and lasting love is the real castle in the air. Out of reach, after gloating, it is left to repent alone. Hehe, an elderly teacher once said that life is an accidental accumulation. What we pursue is not necessarily what we can really get. Therefore, Su Dongpo's life attitude of "preparing for a rainy day" really deserves our serious consideration.