We all expect marriage to be the sum of a lifetime of piano and harp, that is, we will never get tired of eating at the same table and sharing the same bed without kicking down. From a big perspective, this requires us to have almost the same three views, almost the same passion, almost the same sense of proportion, and almost the same expectations of each other. In a small room, one can't just eat sweet and spicy food, nor can one have a nervous breakdown. You just snore like thunder in the middle of the night.
What is the food that you basically eat every meal without getting tired? Is it your favorite braised pork, boiled fish and cheesecake? No, it is a bowl of white rice. Marriage is like a bowl of white rice. Very dull, but not tired. How nutritious and delicious the next meal is has little to do with how much attention you pay to this pot of food, how much time you spend and how much love you have.
So it's great to doubt your boyfriend's sincerity to you, but don't ignore his panic about marriage. Your boyfriend's love for you is a bowl of braised pork, but is it appropriate to cook a pot of white rice every day? What if I accidentally want to eat fried powder? He hasn't found the answer yet.
In fact, you haven't found the answer yet, but women are generally more realistic than men. It's better to cook a pot of rice with someone who likes it than with a stranger.
You don't want your boyfriend, and you don't want this relationship to be unmarried. The first step, don't underestimate marriage, and don't overestimate marriage. When two lovers are together, marriage may not be happy, but it is not difficult to make two normal people crazy. As long as you don't regard marriage as the ultimate sublimation of love and the only means of happiness, you think it will be unfortunate to live with someone who has never loved you deeply for a few years-of course, if you have this idea, it is really easy to fall into the whirlpool of misfortune. People are people who are driven by just things and become just, and people also have the unfortunate idea that I am easy to become unfortunate.