The wedding process in Nanchang, Jiangxi Province is like this: when young men and women have the intention to get married, the boys will communicate with their parents, and the men's parents will ask for the consent of the women's parents, choose a date, meet for dinner, and talk about the form and requirements of marriage at the dinner table.
At the dinner table, 80% of the woman's parents will ask how much the bride price is. Now there are young people everywhere, because of the bride price.
So, does the married man need to give a bride price? Personally, I think the bride price is definitely important, because it can not only reflect the sincerity of the man's parents, but also reflect the importance of the girl in the man's family in the future.
My friend Xiao Ai and her husband Xiao He are in free love. They are the same age. At the age of 20, they met for the first time under the introduction of friends.
At that time, the other party left each other a phone number and went home. Xiao He took the initiative to pursue Xiao Ai. At that time, Xiao Ai disagreed, saying that she didn't want to fall in love now.
Half a year after Xiao He, he received the parcel, sent it out, and greeted it every day. Six months later, Xiao Ai agreed to be Xiao He's girlfriend.
Xiao He and Xiao Ai have been in love for 2 years. Xiao Ai learned that Xiao He's parents are both workers and their families are average. There are three brothers at home. He is the boss of the family, and there are two younger brothers below.
Two years later, Xiao Ai suddenly became pregnant. Xiao Ai urged Xiao He to hold a wedding. Xiao He told his parents the reason.
Two weeks later, after the parents greeted each other, Xiao Ai's parents directly said that the bride price needed 1.88 million. Xiao Ai thinks her parents are lions, and suddenly thinks she is not her own.
Xiao He's parents thought she was pregnant before marriage, so she paid 30,000 yuan. It's not their daughter who suffers anyway.
The opinions of the two parents are completely different, so there is no need to talk more.
Later, they went home to find their mother. Xiao Ai told her father that she and Xiaohe really loved each other. It doesn't matter whether you are poor or not now, you can still work hard together, what's more, Xiaohe is especially good to her.
Father said he wouldn't ask for their bride price, but he would. Bridal gifts can show the importance your family attaches to you.
Xiao He has been calling Xiao Ai to let her communicate with his father about the bride price. Moreover, they are still young and have the opportunity to make a fortune in the future. Xiao Ai responded to Xiao He, but his father's ideological work could not be done.
Two young people have been parents for half a month, and nothing has come of it. They made a bold decision and borrowed 654.38 million yuan from their friends as a bride price.
The two pieced together and borrowed 60 thousand. Xiao He put 60,000 yuan into his mother's hand and told her that it was a bride price. The two sides did parental work again and organized a second interview.
Xiao Ai's father recently saw his daughter haggard a lot, and he felt sorry for her. Finally, the bride price168,000 was determined.
The father put the money into a passbook that day, and the password was his daughter's birthday. The money can only be used when he is in trouble.
They started their married life, and soon Xiao Ai gave birth to a daughter. His mother-in-law said that she was too busy to see the children at all. Xiao Ai's husband has been taking care of him all month.
Under the care of her husband, Xiao Ai was comforted.
However, the good times did not last long. Xiao Ai's husband Xiao He is addicted to gambling because of his strong desire to make money. After half a year, the savings at home are gone.
From then on, I punched and kicked Xiao Ai and forced him to go to her parents' house to get the bride price money. When Xiao Ai saw it, he hid.
During that time, Xiao Ai felt abdominal pain for several days in a row, so he went to the hospital for an examination.
The doctor told me that there is a uterine tumor that needs to be removed, otherwise it will be life-threatening.
Xiao Ai doesn't know how she got home, and she doesn't know where Xiao He, who used to be very kind to herself, went. At the beginning, the basic condition for choosing a spouse was to be good to himself, but now he can't even be good to himself. What a failure she was in this marriage.
She even committed suicide for a year, and her father called her home for dinner.
When she took her daughter home, her parents cooked his favorite braised pork, and she burst into tears.
Then she told her parents about her illness. Her father gave his daughter the passbook. If she is ill, she can get treatment. If she makes the wrong marriage choice, she can start all over again. But your life is given by your parents, so you must cherish it.
The parents accompanied their daughter to the operation, which was very successful. Xiao Ai recovered quickly. Through illness, Xiao Ai understood her father's initial decision.
Xiao Ai also understood a truth. When women are materialistic, don't call us vulgar. Money is the touchstone to measure feelings. Marriage without money is too empty, and all aspects of life don't need money.
Therefore, when talking about marriage, advise all girls. When talking about bride price, we must stand with our parents, who are more experienced than us.
Can ask for a reasonable bride price. After all, this money can sometimes be our lifeline.