I have always believed that the bride price is only the man's mind in marriage, which represents the man's attitude and care for women, rather than selling marriage as a commodity, full of money.

Although most men hate the word "bride price" and complain that it is disgusting, marriage needs a sense of ceremony and the woman needs a sense of belonging.

If men don't want to face the bride price, but think about how to avoid it and how to talk about it, then marriage will lose its meaning, because women have not been valued by men from the beginning.

Of course, everything has two sides. Some people will take the bride price too seriously, while others will take it lightly. But in this case, the premise is what attitude you have towards the woman and whether this attitude has been accepted by her parents.

There is a saying: it's none of your business, it's out of the question. Some men feel that it has nothing to do with themselves anyway, saying that the tradition left by the older generation cannot be lost, whether it is their own intention or not, but when it is their turn, they complain that the bride price is the dross in traditional culture and have to be abandoned.

Marriage is the life of two people, and the ups and downs are also experienced by two people together. If you only care about your feelings from the beginning, it will be difficult to get rid of this selfish bad habit in later life.

02

After graduating from college, under the arrangement of his parents, Chen went to work in his hometown company with a monthly salary of more than 3,000 points. His job is very easy, and he has normal holidays on holidays and weekends.

Chen's parents are both workers in this factory. He is the only son in the family, and he is the only one when they are busy.

Therefore, since childhood, Chen Yizhi has been spoiled by children, lacking everything, and he has never experienced the hardships experienced by other children.

After graduating from college, Kaiser's daily life is going to work, getting off work, eating, playing games and sleeping. He never thinks about planning his future in his mind, and he doesn't even have a basic career plan.

In his words, life is too short, there is no need to suffer for yourself, and it is best to live in the present. Simply put, it is to eat, drink and be merry in time.

Everyone hopes to experience the life of a monk banging a bell one day, but for a young man, it is time to make efforts to contribute to his future. How can he eat and die?

Such a man, rather than seeing clearly and living freely, is not self-motivated and irresponsible, and it is difficult for such a man to win the hearts of women.

At the age of 28, it must be false to say that he has never been in love. When studying, Chen Ye talked about love more than once, but each time she fell in love, she broke up after failing to maintain it for half a year.

The reason for breaking up is basically that girls say that they can't see the future hope of two people from him, but every time after breaking up, Chen Dou doesn't look for problems from himself, and puts the blame on girls, saying that people are materialistic and money-hungry, and they get just the right share.

After several times of endless love, Chen lost interest in feelings. Even if he met a girl he liked later, he couldn't bear to pursue each other.

In a blink of an eye, Chen is 3 1 year old.

03

It turns out that Chen hasn't brought a date back at such a big age, which makes his parents anxious. Seeing his younger colleague holding his grandson, he became more and more anxious.

As the saying goes: the emperor is not in a hurry, he is anxious. Parents are anxious like ants on hot bricks. Chen is still idle and continues to live a life of "monks banging bells every day".

Later, a colleague of his parents introduced him to a girl. The girl has a college degree and a monthly salary of nearly 3,000 yuan. She has a medium-sized brother at home, so she helped arrange for them to meet and look around first.

Not long after the meeting, Chen offered a bride price. With the feeling of previous failures, Chen has a steelyard in his heart: he must not find a girl who worships money, such as a girl who mentions bride price as soon as she opens her mouth.

In Chen's view, marriage is for two people to live, and there is no need to ask for a bride price. This is a custom, saying that the bride price is not a way to ask others for money and should be discarded.

Chen didn't say much about the topic of bride price when she was interrupted by the girl.

"Before answering your question, I will ask you two questions. If you can answer them, I will agree with you. "

"No, just two questions, you ask."

"The first question is: If I marry you, can the child take my surname?

The second question is: If I marry you, can I share the housework equally? "

Originally, he was confident. After the girls answered two questions, he became speechless.

"Since you can't do it, why should I say that the bride price is money worship? Why do I say that bride price is the dross of traditional culture? If you are good, you will agree with both hands, and if you are not good, you will oppose it with both hands? "

After the girl said this, she left the blind date, leaving Chen who had not recovered.

Back home, Chen vented all his anger on his parents, scolded them for introducing such people to him, and said that even if he was single all his life, he would never marry such a woman.

04

I thought that after a failed relationship, Chen would realize his mistake and correct his attitude when he was in love. I didn't expect that he still didn't make progress and put the mistake on the girl. Such a man really can't blame others for not getting a wife.

Although there is no age for marriage, there is only love for marriage, but this does not mean that you can make trouble without reason and take your feelings seriously. You know, if you miss the right age, it will not be so easy to have love again.

Marriage is a kind of cooperation, in other words, an exchange of interests. A woman who is willing to wronged herself for a man, separated from her biological parents, went to a strange place and gave birth to a child with a man's surname should have a matching return.

It is no exaggeration to say that the bride price is an exchange of interests. The basis of marriage is love, but it is life and reality. Two people can not only rely on mutual love, but also rely on material wealth for a lifetime.

If a man doesn't even have the ability to give a bride price at first, why should a woman marry a man like you?

Marriage is much more important to women than to men. If a woman takes a wrong step, it may be a wrong step. Men can wait, but women can't. If they miss their best age, it is really difficult to marry love. Therefore, what women need in marriage is the sense of security and belonging given by men.

Writer Li Youyi said: "Aspiring young people never expect marriage to bring a turning point in life, but Phoenix Man hopes to rely on a woman to contribute his life."

A man who really dotes on his woman will definitely think of giving the best to each other. A truly responsible man will definitely think of holding a grand wedding for his beloved woman.