Engagement: After both men and women are satisfied, they are ready to get engaged. The two families had dinner together to discuss marriage. After dinner, they brought four kinds of gifts to the woman, called four-color gifts. Mainly to discuss the issue of gift money. Generally, part of the money is added with three gold, and part of the money is also given to the daughter-in-law to pay for the sedan chair, that is, to buy new clothes or something. Some women will symbolically return one or two thousand yuan to their wives within a few days after receiving the gift money.

Before marriage: preparing for marriage means that the bride and groom try not to go out two days before marriage. There are two reasons: one is to accept congratulations from relatives and friends at home, and the other is that the couple is approaching a happy event, and going out at this time is easy to attract bad things. The day before the wedding, the groom will decorate the new house and banquet at home. The bride sits on the kang (with a mattress under her ass), next to her aunt and good sister, smiling, and wraps candy and lights cigarettes for everyone who comes in to congratulate ... When she gets married, her husband's family will bring two little boys to light lanterns.