In fact, women and men usually have opposite views on whether a wedding should be big or simple. Among them, most women think that marriage is a once-in-a-lifetime event, and it is natural to get attention, so it is natural to let people around dozens of kilometers know about it.

Being big means spending a lot of money, if conditions permit. If you are short of money, as the main party to pay the bill, most men feel that it is good to follow the custom and simply take it. At the same time, some men think that marriage is a private matter, and friends and relatives can know it. There's really no need for everyone to know.

Of course, there are also many young couples who have new ideas or are forced by some real pressure to simply choose naked marriage or hidden marriage.

So, which way is better in modern society?

First: respect tradition, but not limited to tradition.

Getting married is a traditional culture of the Chinese nation for thousands of years. Up to now, China people still keep this tradition. As a part of traditional culture, it should be respected. But there is no need to be too tightly restricted by these traditional customs. What's more, tradition does not mean that everything is good, but that there should be a spirit of sublation.

The most important point is that the wedding is just a form, it is just a grand and gorgeous moment. Whether a marriage is happy or not requires years of hard work.

Second, respect each other's views and conduct friendly internal consultations.

Marriage is a big event, and both men and women, or both family members, will participate. As the saying goes, there must be differences and even diametrically opposite opinions. At this time, we should respect each other's opinions and conduct internal friendly consultations. You must not get angry, quarrel or even fight because of different opinions. In the end, it is not worth the loss to let the happy things hang on.

Third: respect your own economic strength and do not increase your burden after marriage.

Marriage is a happy event, whether it is a big event or not depends on one's own economic conditions. Don't say how much money the wedding earned, at least keep the balance between related expenses and income. One of the most basic principles is not to increase the burden of life after marriage. Some people borrow money for the sake of so-called face. It's worthless to eat vegetables in rice porridge every day after marriage.

In short, today, with the soaring housing prices and unprecedented economic pressure, young people should correct their concepts and turn "affordable" into "affordable" in order to be happy.