Some people's unhappiness reveals some information from the moment they get married.

Some time ago, a sister at home told me that her classmate was divorced. She got married during the Spring Festival last year. In less than a year, the two quickly got a divorce certificate.

Although I don't know this classmate of my sister's, I have heard her talk about it. Because last year, after she went to the wedding as a bridesmaid, she came back and told me that it was the most embarrassing wedding she had ever attended.

So that during most of the whole wedding, both of them were quarrelling and angry. Even at the wedding, the host asked the two newcomers to hug, and her classmates unconsciously took a step back. At this time, the groom's face changed.

My sister watched, and my heart was sweating, for fear that two people would quarrel on the table, and there were people coming to the wedding everywhere. If it does happen, it will be really ugly.

Fortunately, the groom held back and there was no conflict between them. They successfully completed the wedding, but they just went to a deserted place and continued to quarrel.

My sister said that since the wedding, the atmosphere of the two people was not right, and the wedding car has been noisy. She and the best man are at a loss and don't know how to persuade them.

The original contradiction was because of the red envelopes when picking up relatives.

Sister said, according to the habit of her classmate's family, if the man comes to pick up relatives, he needs to go through two customs. First, some relatives of her classmate's family will block the groom downstairs and need to give a red envelope to get there.

And she and several good friends of the bride will hide their shoes and block them at the door of the bride's room. Of course, we also need red envelopes here. She didn't expect that the groom was stuck downstairs for nearly forty minutes, because he never gave a red envelope and the bride's relatives wouldn't let anyone pass.

Standing in the upstairs window, she could only hear two sentences from beginning to end. The groom said, "Give a red envelope when you arrive."

A relative of her mother's family replied, "No, you take out the red envelope first." Then someone was counting, saying that there were six people here and took six red envelopes, but the groom didn't give them.

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Then, a voice came: "We don't want it, but the elder, the bride's grandmother, brought her up from childhood, and you have to give her a big red envelope."

My sister said she was a little embarrassed to see it, and she didn't know if the groom was ready or something. She really didn't take out a red envelope.

Finally, the best man said to build a WeChat group, and everyone went in to grab it.

At this time, the MC also said that he was worried about the traffic jam on the road and asked him to pick up the bride quickly, so everyone let the groom come up.

However, there are a group of friends of the bride on the second floor. They still want red envelopes, and they will give them when they open the door. The people inside said to give one first and insert it when you enter the door. The two sides talked for more than ten minutes, but they just didn't give red envelopes.

Finally, the groom said "open the door". The tone was a little bad, and the people inside opened the door. My sister said that the groom's face was a little ugly at this time.

Many people saw it and gave a hint directly, where the shoes were hidden, otherwise it was a red envelope. Followed by the host and camera atmosphere is active, but obviously a little embarrassed.

Especially the bride, I can see that she is very dissatisfied.

Sure enough, my sister said that they started quarreling as soon as they got on the wedding car. The groom said that her relatives had gone too far, which delayed the auspicious time. It's only two dollars for such a long time. Is there such bad money?

As soon as this was said, the bride choked, "Are you stingy?"

As the two men were talking, I quarreled in a word. Both sides thought that the other side was wrong, so that I was wronged here and started fighting. At that time, she was very worried: can this marriage still be married?

Although the wedding was barely held, it was obvious that the marriage was only a prelude to the marriage of two people, and the real test was yet to come. Neither of them lasted for a year.

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In a marriage without love, it is naturally impossible to achieve enough understanding and tolerance. Once you encounter something, you will only start from your own point of view and worry that you will suffer, but it is difficult to think of each other.

Such two people will certainly not last long.

My sister said that her classmate married her husband because it was suitable. She only knew that her classmates didn't like him, but from the wedding day, the other party should not like her classmates either.

If so, how can you be so perfunctory on the wedding day? My sister said that she has attended many weddings, and there is usually a link to block the door and ask for red envelopes, really just to enliven the atmosphere.

Red envelopes are small, ranging from 2 yuan to 20 yuan, and most of them are 2 yuan. In fact, there is not much money. It's just that everyone is happy, everyone is happy. They let people in as time was running out.

Like her classmate's husband, there is no red envelope. She really hasn't seen it once, and all the boys are angry about it.

Her classmate's husband was introduced by his family. The boy works outside all the year round, and the money he comes back is very small, but his income is not bad. But because there are too few girls in the place where he works, there is almost no possibility of falling in love.

Then they introduced each other, and both parents were satisfied. My sister's classmates originally disagreed, but the parents did all kinds of ideological work, saying that the boy was practical and reliable and had good family conditions. Later, she agreed in a daze.

From the beginning of their acquaintance, they have been in online love almost all the time, and sometimes they don't talk much for a week.

Only at that time, the man had to get engaged first, so the two adults had a lot of contact and were often called by their in-laws. As a result, they became a bond that would not alienate each other.

After talking about long-distance love and online love for more than a year, I met twice during the Chinese New Year, never really lived together, and then I walked into the marriage hall, and then what happened on the wedding day.

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My sister said that she had asked her classmates, since they didn't like it, why should they stay together?

Her classmate said that he sends himself 8000 yuan every month, which has been the case since his engagement.

Probably the other party also knew that she was away all the year round and needed some chips to stabilize the woman, so she sent her most of her monthly salary, saying that she would give her money after marriage and her parents had good conditions, and then she agreed.

Many people who have experienced it tell us a truth about marriage: the economic foundation is the most important. With a good economic foundation, you can save a lot of trouble.

However, judging only from the economic basis, it is really unreliable. Because marriage needs love, it doesn't necessarily mean how vigorous love is, but at least you can't choose to be together because you don't like each other at all.

This is unfair and irresponsible to both sides, because a marriage without love as the basis is just like a person who has lost his soul and only left a body without thoughts, which is also monotonous and useless.

If two people have no love, they will never be happy after marriage. The most common situation is to blame each other and then end in divorce, but this time it took a long time.

I have seen the fastest divorced couple. They divorced a month after they got married, but they got married in a flash. The wife said that she thought there were many problems that two people could solve. After marriage, if she finds that she doesn't love enough, she will become strong and won't compromise easily.

If two people are like this, naturally many things can't be solved. All roads are gaps in marriage. After finally splitting into a huge cliff, they only need a small fuse to go their separate ways.

I remember a friend said that she divorced because her husband snored after she got married. To put it bluntly, she doesn't love enough. If she loves, she can tolerate and accept. If she doesn't love enough, she will be stingy and haggle over every ounce.

Therefore, don't believe that marriage and love are not important, and don't choose a person who doesn't love at all because of practical problems. It's better to wait and choose than to get married and then divorce. The person you marry must be the other half you really want to spend the rest of your life with.