You said that many gynecologists are male doctors now. If your wife is seriously ill, you won't go to see a doctor just because the attending doctor is a man? Isn't this nonsense?
My wife is also in poor health. She always needs to see a doctor and sometimes meets a male doctor. There is nothing she can do. After all, it is important to treat diseases, and this kind of thing should be viewed from a correct angle. Just because your doctor friend has a low professional ethics does not mean that other doctors do the same (of course, it does not rule out that some behaviors are extremely bad). If you really encounter anything immoral, you can also ask someone to accompany you or stand in front of the window of the operating room to supervise the whole process. If the doctor really does something unbearable, you can stand up and defend your girlfriend's dignity. This is what you should do as a man. You can't affect your feelings because of the hearts of some small people. I don't think it's worth the candle. It's totally unnecessary.
In life, there will be many things you can't imagine and accept. So what would you do? Die? Unrealistic, right? What about the other way around? I can only force myself to bear the pain it brings. It is better to take the initiative to accept it than to passively accept it. These are two completely different psychology. If you have experienced it, you will understand that it will make you optimistic, even if it is a very bad thing. ...
Finally, I hope you can get along with your girlfriend for a hundred years, and I sincerely wish you all the best! ! ! !