People can be poor and ugly, but they should have aristocratic temperament. Although we are not rich or even heavily in debt, we should be aristocratic and not timid. Let me look at the relevant information, people who can be poor or ugly but have aristocratic temperament.
People can be poor and ugly, but they must have noble temperament. We will always face material shocks, and poverty has changed the mentality of many people. And mentality determines behavior, behavior changes the future, and the future depends on you. Therefore, you can be poor, but you must have the temperament of "nobility": good-looking and imposing.
Youth: the vitality of youth has disappeared, and "opportunities" cannot be lost. I look tired every day, unable to sleep, decadent, enterprising and muddle along. This is my deep impression on this young man. The most brilliant thing is that it is now or never, and the mobile phone cannot be separated from the body. You walk, sleep and eat with your mobile phone. It's a small world.
People are not as good as dogs in middle age. Middle-aged status: I can tolerate anything as long as I am not unemployed. The feeling that you are too old to go anywhere. When you start doing things, you can't help yourself. They used to be full of life, thank you, sir. Years, life, economy, let them slowly present a very tired, rarely speak, very forbearing state.
The external image of aristocratic temperament is also very important, people with hair like a chicken nest. For such a person, no matter how beautiful, there is no temperament. If his hair is neatly combed. Girls generally feel more elegant. Boy, with that kind of short hair, I think he looks very energetic. In this case, it is more temperament.
Dressing doesn't mean how fancy you are. But you have to dress appropriately. If you wear a dress covered with oil and dirt on yourself. I'm sure you will have a different view. People don't even want to get close to him. Do you think she will have temperament under such circumstances? But he is neatly dressed. Clean. Then I believe that the temperament there came out.
People can be poor and ugly, but they should have aristocratic temperament. Men can be poor, but not "happy".
I once saw a movie, Men Can't Be Poor, starring Bosco Wong, William Chan and Xie Tianhua. It tells the story of the loss of two brothers in the face of money, and finally understands that men in today's society are really "poor" and advocates the spirit of "people are poor and ambitious".
In this society, the role of money is becoming more and more important, and there is a saying circulating on the Internet:
"There is no money, what do you take to maintain your affection, stabilize your love, contact your friendship, and rely on your mouth? Stop it, everyone is busy. "
Therefore, "poverty" has become a hurdle that many men can't get around, and even formed a sense of inferiority. Especially for middle-aged men, it is an unspeakable life, and sometimes even the family will look down upon it.
In the high-scoring drama "I am Yu Huanshui" some time ago, Yu Huanshui is such a man with no money and a "loser" in the eyes of a wife. After a long time, his wife has long since stopped loving him.
In him, I saw a middle-aged image of "the more I live, the less human I am". All I know is to apologize to others and say I'm sorry. However, the more such a man is, the more he is looked down upon. Can't you do anything but apologize?
"People are not as good as dogs in middle age" is the most practical interpretation for Yu Huanshui who is afraid of losing his job and not being able to pay the mortgage. He is afraid of losing his wife and children. As a result, he lived like a grandson, pleasing his superiors and enjoying it. He was even afraid that the borrowed money would not come back, and he did not dare to clash with his friends.
How terrible this life is!
Statistics from the National Bureau of Statistics show that the unemployment rate was 6.2% in February 2020, and the number of unemployed people among the 700 million working people reached 43.4 million. The unemployment rate has actually reached more than 15%, setting a new high since statistics. Under such circumstances, it has a greater impact on middle-aged people over 35 years old.
In fact, every middle-aged person who can't move is often passive when he is young, so that the more he struggles, the more tired he becomes. Some people even muddle along all day when they reach middle age. For example, Yu Huanshui in "I am Yu Huanshui" loves to lie all day and is not self-motivated at work. How can this attitude make life better?
Therefore, men can be poor, but they can't feel inferior.
02. Women can be ugly, but they can't give up.
A Korean reality show tells a chilling and heavy story: a woman is ugly. Since she was pregnant for three months after marriage, her husband always beat her, called her ugly and smelly, and finally divorced. In desperation, the woman participated in a variety show of plastic surgery. After more than a dozen plastic surgery, she saw her ex-husband who was equally shocked and said that if his ex-wife had been like this at first, he would definitely not have divorced.
Seeing this news, we can't help but sigh the role of "beauty": giving priority to having a partner; Work is more convenient; Wherever you go, you will quickly integrate into this group. This is a privilege that "ugliness" does not have, and it also makes some ordinary-looking women willing to pay for beauty. Beauty, weight loss, plastic surgery and cosmetics are always hot, because there are too many ordinary-looking women, where are there so many natural beauties?
The film "Ugly Woman Turning Over" tells the story of a 200-pound fat girl who was attacked by a Jedi after undergoing full-body plastic surgery. At the same time, it also discusses the significance of plastic surgery: Hannah in the film was originally an ugly and fat woman, which doomed her to be discriminated and rejected by others wherever she went. Later, Hannah really couldn't bear it anymore and had a full-body plastic surgery. Then her world was lit up and everything became better.
However, in order not to be recognized by others, Hannah bid farewell to her past, which also made her very painful. In the end, Hannah bravely chose to confess, but also profoundly pointed out that she just wanted to be beautiful and make the world better for herself, but she didn't want to give up her kind and honest self.
After watching this movie, the whole person was uncomfortable. People are really cruel to these ordinary and ugly people. They just want the world to be kind to themselves. Is there something wrong? Although Hannah has become beautiful, she also knows that it is best to be kind and honest and fat.
We often don't understand the combination of a handsome boy and an ordinary or even ugly girl. I think the main reason is that their inner beauty attracts others, which is a kind of love beyond looks, although it may be difficult.
Women can be ugly, but they can't give up on themselves. The external appearance cannot be changed, but the internal appearance can be obtained through self-cultivation. There are also many handsome guys around, always with ordinary-looking partners. According to their words:
"The society is so complicated that I suddenly met a woman with inner beauty. It's really hard to meet. Although reason tells me that they are not a good match, I still can't help but be attracted by their charm, which has nothing to do with looks! ! "
Therefore, women can be ugly, but don't give up on themselves. Once you give up, you will have nothing. If you want to make life full of beauty, then life will give you some hope.
03. Men can be poor and women can be ugly, but they must have aristocratic temperament: good-looking and imposing.
There is a person in the company whose family background is not very good, but his walking posture is very straight and powerful. He is the first person to go to work. His shirt is always clean and he speaks confidently. Finally, he actually hugged the beauty, and the iceberg beauty in the company couldn't help but be attracted by him and live happily.
The reason why I wrote this article was also influenced by this person, and I didn't belittle ugliness or poverty. I just want to say:
We live in this heavily burdened society, and we can't do without self-improvement. We can't decide whether we are poor or ugly. We can only change our hearts and improve ourselves. Because we don't have much background and economy, we can only rely on ourselves. There are only three things we can do.
(1), buy a better set of clothes, don't be expensive, suitable and decent, people always rely on clothes, giving people the best first impression; 2. Read more books. Although books can see the effect in a short time, people who study for a long time will certainly be able to change their ideas. Once their thoughts are changed, their eyes will become higher, their behavior will change, and the future is infinite. 3. Expand your interpersonal circle, and be with excellent people, and you will become excellent. Interpersonal relationship is the most precious wealth, and it is something that everyone must attach importance to.
The first young man in the village has no money and no background. Through his own struggle, he has a car and a house and a bright future. He even married a goddess-level wife and became a proper winner in life. However, I'm not tall and average-looking. I was deeply impressed at first sight, full of inexplicable charm, mature and steady, and with a different temperament. I think this is the first step of his success, and he has an innate aristocratic temperament: good looks and momentum.
In foreign countries, or in circles, rich people pay great attention to first impressions. They think that the first impression is to add points to their success. Good looks and momentum will give others a strong aura and self-confidence. Not only refers to the external, internal temperament is equally important. Such people are often attracted by the breeze and attract others' attention. If you don't have love, career and success, you must leave the first and best impression, because impression is the best word of mouth, attracting the opposite sex to get love and attracting businessmen to invest and succeed.
Maybe men can be poor, maybe women can be ugly, but they must have noble temperament: good-looking and imposing. Whether it is love, life or work, people with this temperament will always be attracted at first sight, and then they will have the capital for success.