In fact, there is no love that requires you to give up your dignity, bring disgrace to oneself. You have to believe that there will always be someone in this world who will come to you, and he will like your appearance, your dress and everything about you. A beautiful love needs mutual appreciation, not compromise.
This elder sister is a bit wild.
Jiang Dongmei, 52, divorced, pension 1200 yuan, two apartments. Sister Jiang looks a little big, with short hair and a pair of big earrings. She looks like a sister. If an ordinary person stands in front of her, she will probably be regarded as a big brother.
In this regard, sister Jiang is also very self-aware. She admitted that she still didn't wear good clothes, because my friend told me not to dress too foreign, or a man with better conditions would not be able to keep me, for fear that I would be too wild to keep me.
Actually, Sister Jiang is a gallery developer. She started doing it at the age of 17 and has been doing it for more than 30 years now. She also has her own views on her dress and style.
On the one hand, she doesn't want to have long hair, which is like getting sick. On the other hand, she must dress up in the hairdressing industry, or her clients will not come for a haircut if they look sloppy.
But Jiang Jie also said that she looks like this and can't change it. No matter what clothes she wears, it will make people feel a little wild, and even wearing rags will give people a feeling of being too wild.
People who know me think I'm fine, because I'm not the kind of woman who doesn't know me. If I introduce someone suddenly, men may feel that they don't want me when they see me.
At this time, a friend of Sister Jiang also said that she was just wild, but she was a good person. She will live a good life and be kind to men, so she will wait to enjoy it.
In Sister Jiang's mind, as a hairdresser, dressing up is a respect for this industry. As for aesthetics, it varies from person to person. Since she studied hairdressing, she has been very confident about her aesthetics.
At that time, at the age of 17, Sister Jiang gave haircuts to the old people at home and the ladies nearby. Of course, this is just to practice their hands, and the practice is almost over. Sister Jiang opened a shop directly and hasn't studied it for so many years. She just sees what hairstyles are popular in the street and can fix them when she comes back. In Jiang Jie's words, it is a gift from heaven.
In addition to the gift of heaven to enjoy food, the pressure of life in those days was also one of the reasons behind Sister Jiang's efforts.
It turns out that Sister Jiang got married earlier, 17 years old, and gave birth to two children after marriage. Speaking of this, sister Jiang regretted patting her thigh. If it weren't for fate, she wouldn't get married so early, let alone meet such a man and become poor.
Only after investigating the reason did I know that Sister Jiang had sprained her ankle. In addition, she met a quack who said that her ankle would be amputated. Sister Jiang feels like this, and her feet are gone. Can she still find a good partner? So she married someone she didn't love at all and got married in a muddle.
Jiang Jie wanted nothing from her ex-husband without father or mother, but after half a year of marriage, Jiang Jie wanted a divorce, because her ex-husband wanted everything to eat, drink and be merry, and he would beat Jiang Jie if he drank too much. However, Jiang Jie can't do anything about her ex-husband. She can only make money to support these two children.
At the age of 3 1, Sister Jiang could no longer stand her ex-husband's domestic violence, so she made up her mind to divorce and raise her two children. For so many years, my ex-husband never gave a penny. It is conceivable that it is not difficult for a person to take care of children and open a shop to earn money to support his family. How can he be a father and a mother?
After the divorce, Sister Jiang really wanted to find a good partner to share the pressure in life. Only her daughter told her she couldn't find it. If she wants to find it, she will have to wait until she and her brother grow up, get married and start a family. After all, her daughter is so old. Sister Jiang is busy getting a haircut every day and comes home late at night. What if something happens?
In this way, for the sake of children, sister Jiang has never remarried. Twenty years later, Sister Jiang is 52 years old, and all her children have married. Her daughter also agrees that she should look for another job. Sister Jiang just thought of her own business. She wanted to find someone with good quality. If the other person has never been married, that's best. In Sister Jiang's view, people who have no children will not miss their children and can live with her sincerely.
Knowing sister Jiang's request for a spouse, the matchmaker introduced Mr. Wang, 53 years old, unmarried, with a housing area of 55 square meters. Seeing this, we can guess that Mr. Wang is not a simple person.
This big brother is a little special.
Speaking of it, Mr. Wang is still a casual person, and at the same time he is a person who can't do it. Why? Today is not a blind date. At half past two in the afternoon, Mr. Wang was still sleeping at home, and his cell phone was turned off. The matchmaker called the door for a long time before waking him up. Mr. Wang was dressed casually and had no sense of ceremony.
But Mr. Wang said it would be nice to be so casual. If this is a blind date, she can do it anyway. If this doesn't work, it's no use putting your heart in her pocket.
But you can say whatever you want about Mr. Wang, and he is not easy to find a partner, so he has never been married and has no children for so many years, so he is single and the whole family is not hungry.
Of course, there is a reason for this. It turned out that Mr. Wang's father died early and there were many children at home, so it was very difficult to live by his mother alone. Because Mr. Wang is unmarried, he has lived with his mother since he was a child.
At that time, Mr. Wang was a lathe worker in the factory. Later, the unit was depressed, and the piece rate was only 7 yuan a month. He doesn't have a job, and even if he did, the factory wouldn't allow him to do it. The more he does, the more he loses.
Seeing that it was impossible to maintain his life, Mr. Wang left the unit with his mother, and the unit was yellow in less than two years. Mr. Wang was secretly glad that he had to leave early, so he had to stay in the factory and continue to make people play dumb.
Mr. Wang clearly remembers that he was only 28 years old at that time and was particularly eager to make money. After coming out of the factory, he sold vegetables, burned boilers and worked as a loader. Only stevedores earn more. Although tired, I am more motivated to see my income.
As for why not get married? Mr. Wang said that I was not like this when I was in my twenties, and my hair was very lush. I am not bald now. I'm not bragging to you. The introducer can fall in love with me, but I want to find a good one. Then you won't find anything bad. What's the point of making do with it? A person's life is only a few decades. This is not the life I want.
You say a poor boy, find a poor daughter-in-law to have a poor child, what can be left? Isn't that a generation of poverty, like leeks? What can we do?
I'm not bragging to you. I also had sex with the director's daughter. She is in good condition. I saw it later, and it didn't work. I can't do anything about eating eye food. I must make myself strong. I'm not hard, so I'm useless to anyone.
At that time, Mr. Wang's only dream was to make money, earn more money, and forget everything about finding a partner. From then on, he started selling furniture and then dealing in antiques. In this line, Mr. Wang finally got his wish and earned a lot of money.
As Mr. Wang said, if you do this, you will meet a noble person. When you meet people, you make some money. The biggest order is to earn a customer 100 yuan, which is not enough. Some people make millions of dollars at a time. As for the superfluous words, Mr. Wang is unwilling to say more. In his view, this is the secret of the industry. People who know naturally understand, and people who don't need it naturally understand.
Now Mr. Wang has fulfilled his dream when he was young, that is, to make himself work hard, but hard work is hard work, but he has never met the right person, so he has never been married.
With money and diabetes, he is afraid of heat, and when it is hot, he can't breathe. So Mr. Wang gave up his job and lived a life of providing for the aged. He watches football games at home every day to kill time. In his words, we are not short of money, and our health is the most important. We have been living up to ourselves for decades, even if we spend 8 thousand yuan a month, it will be enough for us to use for decades.
If it weren't for the epidemic, Mr. Wang would still like to be single. He admitted that his mind could be opened. If he is 60 years old and healthy, the whole nanny can cook. If he is in poor health, he will find a good nursing home to live there. The money is enough.
Now I want to find someone, and I think it's good to have someone to accompany me. I don't need her to be beautiful. After all, I've seen this kind of thing a lot. Beauty is fleeting. It's no use. It is true to find a practical one. If she dies first, I'll send her. If I don't want it, she will try it casually, find a small bag to put it in, or give me a handful of ashes to spill and return to the earth.
In Mr. Wang's view, many people can't understand and accept that he has never been married. He just wants to find someone who can understand and accept himself, and Jiang Jie is such a person. She especially understands and accepts Mr. Wang.
Don't be afraid, I can change myself for you.
Later, the matchmaker took Sister Jiang to Mr. Wang's house for a blind date. After the two sides met, Jiang Jie and his accompanying friends were very satisfied with Mr. Wang, honest, clean and kind, and they fell in love at first sight. Sister Jiang thinks that Mr. Wang is unmarried and has no children, which makes her very satisfied. It's hard to meet someone like Mr. Wang again, so she must take good care of it.
But after Mr. Wang saw Sister Jiang here, he looked blank and didn't have a smile on his face. The first time he saw Jiang Jie, he just couldn't accept it anywhere. There is nothing wrong with him, but he is not suitable for me.
After sitting down, Sister Jiang began to feel aggrieved for herself, and immediately made a wave of confession to Mr. Wang: I quite like your style, have a good personality, and it is good for a person to live like this. If I can find you, I will be very satisfied.
Mr. Wang will get goose bumps. Well, I'm in poor health and have diabetes. After that, the blood pressure was still high, and the lumbar intervertebral disc was still a little prominent. Seeing that Jiang Jie was unmoved, Mr. Wang added that my blood pressure was quite high due to diabetes. You see, my blood pressure is almost 200, so follow me halfway to flash. In a word, my health is not very good.
This Mr. Wang is trying his best to refuse Jiang Jie. Your blood pressure is 200. You can't explode. The matchmaker also saw that something was wrong. This blind date is very good. Why do you still have to say it?
Teacher Wang also told the truth that my blood pressure reached 140 when it was the highest. This is a white lie. Otherwise, people will feel uncomfortable. This is not a euphemism.
Actually, Jiang Jie couldn't see that Mr. Wang said that on purpose. Now she also tells Mr. Wang, are you afraid of the clothes I wear? Don't be afraid. I'm not like this. I just give people the feeling that I look wild, but you can look around with me and see if we are serious people.
Look, I don't have to be afraid. If you don't like me like this, if we succeed hand in hand, I can stop wearing makeup and such clothes, and even give up my hairdressing job for more than 30 years and change careers for you. It doesn't matter.
I have to say that Jiang Jie's courage to go forward is really admirable, but Mr. Wang can't accept it. He said, if you change it for me, it will be very tired. It has lived for more than 50 years. Without this, people have to live themselves. You don't have to change yourself for anyone. We are not suitable at all.
Jiang Jie was already dead when Mr. Wang refused again. If you don't agree with me directly, forget it. This blind date is not a strong twist. It's no use talking about it.
In this way, the blind date failed In fact, this is what Sister Jiang expected. She felt teacher Wang's indifference from the beginning, but she didn't want the dung beetle to encounter a thin and futile trip, so it ended at the beginning. How could she want to? It's just for herself.
After leaving Mr. Wang's house, Sister Jiang also regretted it. She admitted that she must have put on makeup to make Mr. Wang miss her. If she doesn't wear makeup and wears ordinary clothes, she can have a blind date. However, Jiang Jie also decided to live in his own way in the future and will not change for anyone. There must be people who like themselves, thinking about who to change for, and that will be a complete loss.
It seems that Sister Jiang did realize something, but she didn't seem to realize it. Actually, Mr. Wang doesn't like you. It's really not about dressing up. Mr. Wang is such a reluctant person that he wants to find a beautiful one, but he is embarrassed to say it.
Therefore, Sister Jiang had better be herself. Butterflies come when they are in full bloom, and marriage is a lifetime thing. It's really tiring to change yourself for one person, and living is not in vain. Mr. Wang can see this more clearly.
What do you think of this blind date? Everyone is welcome to express their opinions and give different voices. Thank you.