The old lady talked about how her daughter-in-law told her to get out in front of her 40-year-old father, but the old lady’s own son didn’t say a sensible word...

This is absolutely true What's going on? Let's hear what the old lady has to say.

The old lady mentioned that the daughter-in-law said: Mom, the money you gave us (we refer to the daughter-in-law and the old lady’s son) for the wedding banquet was paid back to my second aunt for you. Don’t you have to pay me back? "

When the old lady heard that this was wrong, she said: "

I will give you the money for the wedding banquet. After the banquet, I will give all the red envelopes received from relatives and neighbors. You guys, I’ll let you do the math. If it’s not enough, I’ll add some more to your second aunt to pay back. It makes sense.

I have no money now, no farming, and I am over 70 years old. The money your third sister gave me was shared equally between the four of you siblings when your father died for the funeral. She gave me the share of the money she owed. I had a heart attack and had to spend money. How can I give you this money?

If your father’s (father’s role is compared to son)’s sister (sister’s role is compared to third sister) gives money to your grandma (grandma’s role is compared to old lady herself), this is also used for retirement. Is it possible for your mother (compared to your daughter-in-law) to ask for the money? "

The daughter-in-law changed her face completely, pointed at the door and yelled: "Get out, get out now."

Why do you live here, eat my food, and spend my money? ”

The old lady said: “I live in my son’s house, which is my home”.

Daughter-in-law: “If you don’t leave, I will leave, I will leave now”… said Just go pull the suitcase and start packing clothes."

The old lady came again: "I didn't eat what you spent. When I came here, your uncle gave you 10,000 yuan. My son saved it. In the past four months, how can I, an old woman, not do anything?" There’s no end to the flowers.”

From the beginning to the end, neither the old lady’s son nor the daughter-in-law’s father said anything about the daughter-in-law’s fault.

No one stood up and said something fair...no...nothing. This is obviously the old lady's fault.

The old lady said: "At 6 o'clock the next morning, my son actually bought her a high-speed rail ticket and prepared things to send her away.

My daughter-in-law came over again. I took her arm and said that I was wrong, there was only one mother like this, I shouldn’t get angry, and told me not to leave, is it okay?”

The old lady is illiterate, but she understands the subtlety of "a weasel paying New Year greetings to a chicken". My son's high-speed rail ticket was also bought, and his attitude chilled the old lady's heart.

In this way, the old lady was driven back to rural Shaanxi from distant Shenzhen by her son.

As the saying goes: "To raise children to protect them from old age, filial piety is the first priority."

The old lady and her husband have worked hard all their lives, and the older partner has lived frugally and endured painful illnesses all his life. In order to support his son in college, he hopes that his son will be proud and proud and honor his ancestors.

However, the current situation is not easy for the old lady!

My son originally worked hard to get into college and got a well-paying job in the big city of Shenzhen after graduation.

After the death of his wife, the old lady was alone in the northern countryside. She often suffered from recurrence of heart disease due to overwork.

My son took me to Shenzhen to take care of the old lady in her old age. But why is the daughter-in-law’s attitude so extreme?

People really have to reconsider the issue of "education" from the highest point of morality.

This really has nothing to do with academic qualifications. From this, we also get this point of view: "College students who forget their roots." If you forget your roots, you are nothing.

Quality suddenly has nothing to do with academic qualifications.

Using the word "morality" on your lips, ridiculing, slandering, and looking down on the mother who gave you life;

Feeling that raising an elderly person is just a deal, and if you don't pay, you are not qualified. Talk about family ties where blood is thicker than water.

For the 70-year-old rural elderly, the poverty of their time was not something that individuals could control. There were also some social factors that affected rural people who had a hard time surviving.

Coupled with all the difficulties brought about by the disease, sometimes it doesn’t take just one mouth to express a sympathetic message about life.

The routine is about an old man who is dying and drives him away decisively after failing to achieve his goal.

The old man is old, and he may have done something to make you angry

but not to the extent of committing a heinous crime.

I lost my conscience and drove my mother away.

How should you raise your children?

How should we deal with ourselves a hundred years later?

How will your children treat you if they know that your parents drove your grandma away for money?

Let’s listen to another memory of the old lady:

“At the very beginning, my son said that they would not let me and I talk about their marriage, and they planned to travel and get married.

< p>The daughter-in-law said she didn’t want a bride price, so her father was organizing the wedding for them.

I thought this was wrong. It’s not easy for her father to raise a girl, so he had to prepare some kind of gift.

< p>My family is poor, so we prepared 30,000 yuan by ourselves and saved money through farming for several years.

Fortunately, my wife has a monthly retirement salary of nearly 2,000 yuan, so we can make enough by living frugally.

Later, the price of the betrothal gift also increased, so we prepared 68,000 yuan for it, just for good luck.

In order to earn face for my family, I gave 10,000 yuan to my natal family when I got married. My daughter-in-law is from the Tujia family, so I gave her natal family travel expenses because I didn’t want people to look down on us.

Even though I gave all my pension money to my son, I will be poor all my life.

I don’t want to owe my son anything, and I hope my children can live a good life after marriage. ”

The only regret is that Lao Bian passed away early. The cancer cells were infected by viruses throughout the body. He passed away just after he was 70 years old and did not see his son get married.

However, the old lady still said I came across a sad thing: “One year before my wife died of a serious illness, she cut her wrists and committed suicide because she could not bear the pain.

I used to eat water from the mountains. I got rheumatism when I was very young. My legs were deformed. I walked in an O-shaped shape and my knees were thick and pointed outward, like protruding old tree roots.

I belong to a poor household in the village. In the past, the county-level Poverty Alleviation Office gave me free contact with Xianyang Hospital for a bone spur treatment. Later, I got a new one and it still hurt.

If the corn-breaking season comes, the corn is broken half-lying on the ground. The person is so thin that both sides of the crotch are crushed. It was even more painful to sleep at night.

Once a person is infected with the disease, he will encounter obstacles everywhere, and other parts of the body will also break down one after another.

As I get older, my waist also hurts, my stomach is not good even if I take medicine for a long time, and I was hospitalized once for gastric ulcer.

Later, the suicide was discovered early. After being rescued, he suffered from neurological problems. He often suffered from vertigo and saw a large number of snakes crawling on the walls, ground and roof of the house.

Either it was flooded everywhere, shouting. Insomnia is worse.

Later, the daughters decided to hold a simple wedding first, which fulfilled the old man’s wish.

The daughter-in-law there said: "Life-long events cannot be dealt with carelessly."

In the end, Lao Bian’s wish came true. One time, my son and the others decided to hold a happy event, and they all sent invitations to the seventh aunt, eighth aunt, etc. from the countryside. All the relatives sent invitations.

To hold their wedding during the Chinese New Year, the daughters agreed to choose one brother. They must spread the red carpet from the entrance of the village to the door of their house for their only brother.

But later, the son called back and said that there was no way to do it anymore, so don’t worry, they broke up.

This cold water has made us two feel cold in our hearts, and we are disappointed and tired.

In the end, my wife passed away, so I used my savings to hold their wedding.

My son said that the new house built at home was built by us to provide for our retirement, but he didn’t want it. I should have told you to clear up the relationship a long time ago."

It seems to be a matter of course, but if you think about it carefully, what this old lady did is completely wrong.

She is right The son is full of guilt, blaming himself for the poverty of his family, and has an attitude of not being able to give his son a good life.

And he does everything for his son. This son does not understand the meaning of responsibility. < /p>

The old lady was so vain of herself, she was so strong all her life, always wanting to take care of everything for her son, but she didn’t realize that her actions deprived her son of the right to grow up and mature.

The old lady. Taisan’s daughter also had such a memory. Her growth experience from the age of 8 to 20 was considered dark.

She said: “I was born in the 1980s, and I didn’t go to school until I was 10 because of my mother’s illness. .

When other kids my age were going to school, I was taking care of my younger brother at home. I looked for grass for the pigs every day, chopped it all up when I got home, and fed the pigs three times a day on time.

The mud house my family lived in at that time was full of dust. I burn the kang every night, which makes me feel very sad. I envy the children in Murakami who don’t have to burn the kang. I always long for someone to burn the kang for me!

In this way, I could play happily with my friends. However, my wish did not come true. It was not until I graduated from junior high school that I finally ended my fate of feeding pigs and burning the kang.

Because my brother is the youngest, my mother always feels sorry for him and rarely does this.

The sixth grade of elementary school and the third grade of junior high school were the darkest days when I was most stressed.

The sixth grade is the graduating class of primary school. It only has one day off on Sundays, and sometimes there is no holiday. When I finally get a holiday, my mother always arranges a lot of things for herself the night before.

Children who are sleepy often oversleep the next morning.

My mother got up at around 5 o'clock in the morning and went to work in the fields. She came back around 8 o'clock and saw that I was still awake.

With anger and thunder, he pushed aside the quilt on my body and opened the curtains with a swipe.

He scolded in a reproachful tone: "I asked you to get up early, what time is it? The pig grass has not been chopped, the pigs have not been fed, I don't know how to get up to cook, the weather for working, just fall asleep like this, let me Who has raised you all your life?

You have studied so much, but you have not helped your family at all...you are opening your mouth and not eating, right?

So you are? With tears in my eyes, I got up with my sleepy body and finished the things my mother told me. There was not much time left to wash my clothes, hair and feet, and continue in the afternoon. Riding a bicycle back to school, I returned to school exhausted and finished my homework for the day during self-study.

Sometimes I would be punished by the teacher for copying long texts because I was sleepy.

The teacher will question: "On a day off, I just let you go home and sleep. Why is it still like this?

If you really feel stressed, you should just put on your schoolbag and go home. Don't waste your parents' hard-earned money to find other ways out early...

The mother's blame...the teacher's accusation...the heart has nowhere to rest, and the pressure is really bigger and heavier than the mountain.

My mother is here. I had a lumbar spine surgery before I was 10 years old, which cost a lot of money.

Sometimes I took out my anger on our family because of my illness.

Exceptionally, eat when you should, play when you should, go to bed when it gets dark, get up when the meal is ready, and leave the delicious food at home to your younger brother first.

My mother will protect my brother because he is young. I need to work, but I don’t know that this is obviously due to my mother’s mentality of favoring boys over girls.

My brother is 2 years younger than me. After he is 10 years old, he can do whatever he can. Before I was 10 years old, I swept the floor, Cleaning the table, washing the family's clothes, and cooking simple meals are no problem.

The two sisters are no problem. One is better than the other. The eldest sister can step on a small bench and roll dough at the age of six. Noodles...

The second sister works the fastest and best, and everyone in the village praises her for her quick movements.

When I was in junior high school, I was further away from home. At this time, the eldest sister and the second sister. They all went out to work.

My mother had a second operation, which was successful. However, while she was recovering in bed, the conditions at home were poor and the wound became thicker.

< p>Later on, I would pull a cart like the one I used to have and go to the town where I was in junior high school every week to change my mother’s medicine.

I don’t know how long it took. I just remember that it was 8 kilometers away from home, and it was very hard to go back and forth. . I also did some farm work at home, which had a great impact on my studies.

After graduating from junior high school, I was 4 points short of being admitted to high school, so I entered the society to work. The living conditions at home were poor and my physical condition was not good. Not so good. The road to working is not smooth.

Some research shows that it is not family background that affects children’s lifelong performance. It is easier for parents to face the transfer of survival pressure, parents have less patience and lingering guilt, which has a profound impact on children.

Parenting experts say: "Poverty, It is never the weapon that will cause the most harm to a child.

It is the feeling of deprivation caused by poverty.

I believe that the old lady’s son can ask for his parents’ contributions so confidently, and his inner feeling of lack is relatively strong.

Children are not raised by their parents. It is not their parents who teach them how to grow, but the children themselves ‘capture what they need to grow’ from their parents. "

There is such a high-scoring college admissions student who said:

"I am very grateful to my mother for not letting me live in deep poverty like other mothers from poor families. Feeling guilty, I feel like a burden. ”

Life is hard.

But smart parents know that complaining and anxiety will not solve any problem except making their children feel suffocated and troubled.

Old Tai finally talked about one thing: I believed that I would never neglect myself when raising my son to be a talented person.

But I didn’t expect that things would turn out like this.

The reason why. , it is because of the old rural custom of the old lady that she favors boys over girls.

In addition, the old lady often said: "The daughter who gets married will make waves. No matter how many daughters she has, it will be difficult to marry her." "You can't hope for a queen."

Later, when the daughters saw their mother's attitude, they all married to other provinces and lived their own lives.

They also felt sorry for these two elders. Worry.

The eldest daughter said: My younger brother has graduated from college. When I was working in Shenzhen, I bought clothes for him and sent them to him.

My younger brother has been in college for four years. Later, he was poor in academic subjects and failed several exams. My father gritted his teeth and worked hard to save money to send living expenses to his younger brother, so he repeated his studies for another year.

Later, my younger brother went to work in Shenzhen, which was also a nightmare for the whole family. Start. Either the father or the mother was sent to the hospital for emergency treatment.

The travel expenses for these children alone were tens of thousands of dollars.

That’s why. The devilish tormenting experience and bitterness are full of tears.

According to rural customs, when the younger brother goes to work and enters the society, the second half of his life will be borne by the younger brother, but the kind-hearted sisters always feel that. My parents can't help my brother.

My mother has been living with her daughter in the city, but every time she doesn't stay long, she has to go home. It's like coaxing a child, not letting him go home.

When I go to my hometown in the countryside, the old lady always likes to do this and that. When she gets older, her daughters will get sick again soon after returning home. The old lady couldn't keep her with her words, so she later told her eldest daughter, the shop owner next door, "My daughter's home is not my own home after all."

So when it comes to family ties, we should be silent. It was all the old lady’s fault. She regarded her daughter as a tool to serve her.

The younger brother should have felt that he could not suffer a loss. After a head-on confrontation with the money, he decided to keep the baby for ten months. He grew up, supported himself in college, and blocked his old mother who had worked hard for her all her life without caring about her.

Because my mother is old, has many things to do, is prone to illness, and has no use value. What does the heart-to-heart family relationship mean?

The old lady’s son once told his sisters that his daughter-in-law is a very “kind” girl, but she has not had a mother since she was a child, and her stepmother is not good to her and is very protective. What do you think? Do you understand the "kindness" here?