She is a young mother. When she was a child, she especially liked small animals and children. Her favorite game is to treat the doll at home as her own child, dress her and feed her, just like a mother takes care of the child.

So, after she met him, she got married and had children soon.

During confinement, she had a quarrel with the old man at home. She has never been wronged since she was a child, and she can't swallow this tone. At that moment, she decided to take care of the children by herself without anyone's help.

From then on, the story of a mother's "past life" began.

During confinement, she held the child from midnight 12 to 5 am more than once, and her eyes didn't close once, just because the child purred as soon as it was put on the bed, and she couldn't sleep well. As soon as the family snatched the child from her hand, the child cried. She could not bear to let the child cry and silently put the child by the bed.

In the month when the child has teeth, he sleeps less than 3 hours a day; After children learn to crawl, they have to clean and disinfect three boxes full of toys and three sets of tableware every day, and they also need to wipe every corner of the house; When she sleeps with her child in her arms, she will also spare a hand to communicate with her mother on the Internet and learn to arrange her children's work and rest scientifically. Search for children's complementary food menu; Every day, the child has 4 hours of outdoor time, and she has been following the child; Holding a child in his chest and a plate in his hands, he climbed up the ninth floor step by step.

In addition to taking care of the children, she also needs to take care of the housework and handle the interpersonal relationship at home. Grandparents should send gifts home on their birthdays; Uncle uncle's family has a happy event, and she wants to call for blessing or something. The worldly wisdom with relatives and friends exhausted her physically and mentally.

For a novice mother, I never thought it could be so difficult to raise a child. Because, for a long time, the word "dad" was a noun, not a verb.

In the trivial life day after day, she feels unable to breathe, accompanied by sadness and parents' incomprehension: they feel that staying at home all the time will be out of touch with society. In the long run, there will be a crisis in family relations. You should go out to work, or have another heart to stabilize your husband.

Trapped by anxiety and pressure, she doesn't know where her way out is. I don't want to give my children to others, and I don't want to worry my family.

Where is the future?

The story of Past Lives ends here.

this life

The story of this life begins with a sentence: women are weak and mothers are strong.

She is a 38-year-old mother After several years of hard work, she finally had her first child.

Every time I think of my daughter's chubby little face, she will vaguely call her mother and open her hands to hug her. She can't wait to hang the child on her body in minutes.

Maternity leave ended in great disappointment and she began to continue working. everybody

It is said that breast milk can increase a child's body resistance, so she started a day of breast-feeding. There is no nursing room in the company, so she can only choose to suck milk in the toilet. Although this is a closed space, the sound of the breast pump still scares those unmarried female colleagues.

In the office, many people are talking about strange sounds coming from the toilet.

She's fine when she's not busy at work. She just needs to wait until the leader is away and slip away.

It was a disaster for her when she met the meeting. The box is already very heavy, and we have to deal with the questions of the leaders.

On one occasion, she thought of sneaking out the back door of the conference room to suck milk, but was criticized by the leader in public, telling her to pay attention to the influence and not to affect her work for personal reasons.

However, when she dragged her tired body and walked home with a full breast milk preservation bag in her hand every day, her heart was warm.

Breastfeeding is just an episode on her parenting road. The real test is when the child is sick.

My baby is 9 months old One day, she had a fever. Her family gave her antipyretics several times, but it didn't work. She had to tell her to go home quickly. And because she just took over a key project, she can't leave immediately, so she can only call home every half hour.

She has never felt that time is so tormented. Her mind is full of children's red-hot faces, but she can't stop working, thinking and thinking. Her nose is sour and her eyes are full of tears.

She was afraid to stop. As long as one of the nanny's salary, the child's early education expenses and the high monthly mortgage is cut off, her life will be turned upside down.

She wants to go home to see the sick child and tell her mother is here. Don't be afraid, but she dare not.

At home, looking at the sleeping child, she gently touched the child's face, and the voice of family complaining floated in her ear: The baby's fever has gone down, you don't know, what she said afterwards can't be heard clearly ... Today, her guilt drowned her.

The bitterness in her heart, at that moment, turned into a tear in her eyes, crossed her tired face, dripped on her tender hands and melted on her children's clothes.

The story of mother's "past life" and "present life" ends here.

When you become a mother, will you choose to be a mother in a previous life or a mother in this life?

We are always defined by the world: as a mother, you should be responsible for the daily care of your children, you should bring up your children, you should do a good job and reduce the burden on your family. You can only do what is defined, and nothing else is allowed.

We never seem to think about whether our life can be different from the agreed customs after giving birth to children.

There is more than one way to go after becoming a mother.

When you are immersed in housework, have you ever thought about asking your husband for help instead of complaining to him after he made a mess at home? The most terrible thing is that after complaining, it's still you who cleans up the mess.

When you were striving for success, did you try to ask the company leaders for help, so that you could have two hours to go home and see the sick children? Have you communicated with your family, explained your difficulties and sought their support?

Maybe, you think, what I said is an armchair strategist and useless.

But you haven't tried, who knows?

When someone tells you what to do, ask what you want. Maybe you will find your own answer.