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1962, Zhang, the first transgender in China, was born in a family in Dalian, Liaoning. Zhang is the youngest in the family and the seventh child of the Zhang family. In the 1980s, everyone's living standard was not too high, and there were many children in the Zhang family, so it was impossible to meet all the children's needs.
Boss Zhang is a girl. She wore the rest of her clothes, and her parents were reluctant to throw them away, so they gave them to the children below. But all the other children are boys. Because of face, they are reluctant to wear the rest of their sister's clothes, with the exception of Zhang.
Zhang not only doesn't dislike her sister's clothes, but also likes to wear them. Zhang is the youngest, so she is very popular at home. Mother raised Zhang as a girl and often dressed him up as a girl. Even the neighbors can't help asking when they see him: Are you a boy or a girl? Nannies will also joke: from boys to girls.
Unexpectedly, with the passage of time, Zhang really regarded himself as a girl. At school, he doesn't like to get in touch with boys, but he especially likes playing with girls. Zhang looks like a girl in many places except her sexual characteristics. For example, she likes embroidery, knitting sweaters and squatting in the toilet.
Going to the toilet has also become Zhang's biggest worry. He doesn't like going to the men's room, so he always waits until he gets home from school to solve it himself. Sometimes, when he can't help it, he will ask for leave to go home.
He even saved all the money for traveling and eating and bought cloth for clothes. She not only wore a long skirt at school, but also had long hair, just like a girl's dress. Many of Zhang's behaviors have caused widespread discussion in school. Boys bully and isolate him. Zhang's teacher doesn't understand him either, because Zhang behaves and sounds like a girl.
Zhang's teacher also found his parents specially for this matter and suggested that they take Zhang to the hospital for examination. Slowly, Zhang was besieged by various voices at school, and the high pressure of public opinion was undoubtedly a blow to his young mind.
In the 1980 s, this matter was not on the table. Zhang is still a cadre family, and his parents, brothers and sisters feel that they can't hold their heads in front of others. Even so, after Zhang dropped out of school for his own reasons, his family gave him a tolerant shelter.
Zhang himself recalled that during that time, his spirit was very chaotic and painful. But for the help of his parents, he might have ended his life long ago. Even if the outside world doesn't quite understand him, Zhang thinks that sex selection is his own business, and he is sure that he wants to be a woman.
People who have lost their "identity"
1979, Zhang heard the news that someone abroad had successfully performed sex-change surgery. After some consideration, he decided to drop out of school and join the army, with the goal of Guangzhou Military Region General Hospital.
I didn't expect that Zhang was only assigned to serve in a military hospital. During this period, he couldn't bear to live in a collective life with gay men and always stayed alone. And quietly injected himself with female hormones.
Later, he publicly wore long skirts and long hair. Zhang, who eventually retired early and dressed as a woman, refused to open an account for him because his gender could not be identified. Zhang has completely become a person without identity.
Successful degeneration
Zhang has no identity and no job. At that time, he did not lose heart. 1982, Zhang decided to work in Guangdong as a woman. Zhang thought very clearly at that time, he just wanted to make money desperately, and then saved money desperately to take the money saved for sex-change surgery.
It is for this reason that Zhang got great motivation. Finally, I worked in a foreign-funded factory in Guangdong. Zhang lives with girls while working. He himself said: I live face to face with girls and don't feel pressured. On the contrary, I feel like a duck to water. His identity is well hidden and no one doubts his identity.
At that time, Mr. Xiao, a rich man from a Hong Kong factory, fell in love with him and Mr. Xiao proposed to Zhang. Mr Xiao is thirty years older than himself. Zhang has no feelings for him, and he doesn't want to expose his identity easily.
It happened that he saw an article about homosexuality at that time, so he wrote to the author for help. After receiving a quick response, Zhang decided to go to Beijing for sex-change surgery with the encouragement of the author.
At that time, women disguised as men were considered hooligans, but there were moral problems. Zhang was the first person to have a sex-change operation, but fortunately, Zhang was specially approved by the senior leaders of Beijing Hospital, and the professor of plastic surgery personally operated on him.
The operation was finally a complete success. After Jackie Zhang was discharged from the hospital, his family was very excited. Her fifth brother even said that the whole person was pleasing to the eye after the operation. She used to feel uncomfortable. This time, she really became a woman.
Marry a rich man
After the operation, Zhang became a woman. At the end of 1983, she got her ID card and changed "Zhang" to "Zhang". She got a job in Changsha. However, after becoming a woman, everything is not so simple, and Zhang's happiness is too short. She stood in front of the counter, and some people knew that she was a transsexual, so they brought a bunch of people to the front desk to see her.
After that, Zhang developed several relationships, but in the end she was rejected by her parents because of her identity. After many emotional failures, Zhang's psychology was also hit, and she chose to leave. Finally, she promised to marry Mr. Xiao, who proposed to her at the beginning, on the condition that she would take her to Hong Kong as soon as possible.
Mr. Xiao and Zhang got married, although they had no love. However, Zhang is very grateful to Mr. Xiao for his tolerance and freedom, but he has never revealed his past to her. Therefore, Mr. Xiao did not know that Zhang was a transgender until his death. However, their marriage lasted 18 years, and their life was satisfactory.