Parents speak softly: 10 words that hurt their children the most.

Idiot, useless thing.

Tell your children: You are not stupid.

Who labels children as "idiots"? If you don't want your child to be a "dumb". Please appreciate your child's thumbs up and say a simple sentence in normal times, which may affect the child's life.

"It won't work if I say no."

Don't act "because I am your father/mother".

"Being arbitrary" is not the best way to educate. Fear does not mean belief. Respect your child's choice, learn to discuss with your child, and listen to your child's suggestions.

"I don't care about you anymore, just do whatever you want."

Don't say anything without strength!

Don’t impose your parents’ wishes on your children. Stop giving empty lectures. Respect is the best way. When criticizing your children, be careful not to hurt your children. Tolerate your children’s “irrelevant work” and don’t force them to do things they don’t like temporarily. thing.

"Shut up! Why are you disobedient!"

Don't just ask your children to obey you, give your children the right to argue, cultivate independent children, learn to talk to your children, and be When a child talks back to a parent, silence can be more powerful.

"If you get 100 points in the test, I will buy it for you..."

If you...we will...condition it on the child's performance As parents, rather than children, have the final say in goals and plans, the goals set for their children should be within reach.

Let your children know what makes them cute. Let your children know that learning is their own business. Don’t take your child’s grades too seriously.

"You are too timid, there is nothing to be afraid of."

Fear is actually a normal manifestation of childhood.

To deny a child’s fear is to deny the child’s self, making him feel powerless and frustrated.

At this time, it is better for parents to show timidity like their children, let their children know how normal it is to feel fear, and quietly eliminate the feeling of powerlessness in their children's hearts.

"You made a mistake again, why are you so stupid?"

"Oh, why did you..." It is easy to blurt out words full of complaints or helplessness, allowing children to make mistakes, Give children the opportunity to grow themselves.

Children after failure need more affirmative education. Children are sparse rather than blocked. Don't label children randomly and tell them to do one thing well every day.

"You won't have much potential at first glance. In the future..."

Set the balance of expectations and never say to your children: You can't do it. Be a confident parent.

Children need appreciation and desire to be recognized. Give the child a chance to exercise and get rid of the shadow of inferiority in the child's heart.

"We are all children, why are you not as good as others."

Every child has his or her own uniqueness. Tell children that success does not lie in the size of the role. What is the key to making children outstanding?

Let your children learn to compete with themselves and grow at their own speed.

“I just know how to play! I lose my energy when I mention studying!”

It is a child’s nature to like to play. Let the child focus on playing and let the child learn in a relaxed environment. In middle school, let children play games appropriately and do not deprive children of their right to play.