I have no experience of not going to work for a long time, so I have no experience. Before my company went bankrupt, I learned a skill of making money in my spare time to solve problems for others and increase my income. I have a great sense of accomplishment. Even now that I'm retired, I'm not idle. It takes about six hours every day to prepare for the realization of the ideal, and I feel that the days pass quickly.
If you don't go to work for a long time, you will become more and more unwilling to go to work and become lazy. If others have something to do and stay at home, you will become lonely and have less interpersonal communication. You will also be rejected by your family, making people close to you worry. You still have to find yourself something to do. No matter how much you earn, at least you earn it by your own efforts.
The experience of not going to work all the time is not very good, especially when I first started not going to work.
You have classes now. Congratulations, you are happier than many people.
Why would I say that? Because it reminds me of my stay-at-home wife. She hasn't been to work for several years and feels unhappy.
Of course, it's not that she doesn't want to work.
Sometimes when it comes to work and income at home, I say that the living expenses are high now, so be careful. The speaker is not interested in listening. When she heard this, she was very sensitive and uncomfortable: "You mean I don't have a job."
I have a problem with this man. I don't know how to speak politely at this time. Instead, I turned around and said, "I didn't say that, and you think so yourself." One to two, escalate a small matter, which in turn leads to a quarrel.
My unintentional expression didn't give her a good feeling. In fact, before this, there was a problem that had been bothering me, and that was: "Why can others take care of their families and go to work at the same time, and others are pregnant and still work, but she just can't?"
Whenever I put this question on the table and tell her that family and work can balance and make me feel more fulfilled, my wife always replies directly: "I can't do it." When I tried to convince her with more cases and reasons, it caused a bigger rebound, or a deeper misunderstanding: "Why do you always want me to go to work?" Do you want to kill me? "
Later, I gradually realized this. In fact, the problem is still on myself: all my expectations for her are actually unrealistic wishful thinking. I always want to change each other, but I don't know what kind of person she is: she will be very focused on what she thinks and doesn't like being disturbed. She is not good at self-coordination and it is difficult to write and speak at the same time. Especially when faced with many things, she is good at doing only one thing at a time. You can't have your cake and eat it, so she can't take care of her family and work, which will make her very miserable and she has to choose not to work. This is her, imperfect, with many shortcomings, but I must accept this imperfect her!
Thinking of this, the root of my quarrel with her is that I didn't accept her in my heart.
Back to the issue of work and income, when I expressed the view that "I don't know how expensive rice is" and wanted to prove that it was not easy for me, in fact, in her feelings, I felt that I was accusing her of spending money indiscriminately, so she felt very wronged and thought that she didn't create income and had no right to speak at home. Naturally, she thought that I was forcing her to work. This has caused the dislocation of understanding!
In fact, many times, I can also change a better expression and give more specific suggestions to achieve the purpose of speaking. How to say it well really needs practice. Not only in life, but also in work, so communication is an art and it is not so easy to do it well.
Getting along with my wife has made me think a lot, and two of them need to be thought deeply.
First, many times, we only focus on what we don't have, but we don't know how to manage what we already have. This is the root cause of many dissatisfaction. Work will bring income, but it is not just income. When you only look at your income, you will feel that you get less money, so you should find the "point" in your work to make you feel tall. For life, how to make the limited income interesting and how to get the life we want is also a subject that each of us has to face.
Secondly, frankly speaking, women often pay more for their families, so they have made great sacrifices in their careers. This is an unavoidable problem. Getting married and having children is very bad for women's career development. With the liberalization of the second child policy, women's careers are facing new difficulties, which means that their careers have been cut off and even some opportunities for promotion have been lost. I have a classmate who is very capable and serves as the president of a bank branch. Because of her excellent work, she is about to be transferred to the branch office. Unfortunately, she was pregnant and gave birth to a second child. She discussed with her husband to abort the child. However, under the repeated discouragement of both parents, she resolutely gave up this good opportunity, which is a pity.
It is very hard to have children and bring them up, regardless of day and night, often not recognized, and there is no wage income. Isn't this a heavy job?
So from this perspective, behind every successful man, there is indeed a solid rear area. Ma Yun is a man of the hour, but Ma Yun's wife is also great. At the beginning, it was not easy to quit Alibaba for the sake of children and taking care of the family, but we can't see that many women choose obscurity for their families, but that doesn't mean they are worthless.
There is a talk on TED, which means that work drives out three evils: boredom, depravity and poverty. It is very important for office workers that work is work. (In Ode to Joy, Fan said: "We girls from other places, work is the only reliance." ) not only bears the heavy responsibility of supporting the family, but also spends the most time and energy every day. Whether you can grow up at work and bring happiness to your family is very important.
Compared with office workers, for a full-time wife, family life is a job. Many people can't do this job well, not only lack a sense of value, but also often have great frustration. What we need is more tolerance and understanding.
Some workers don't understand the pain without workers, and they can better reflect their sense of value and have a higher happiness index at work, because work itself is a kind of "feedback", even if there is no economic return.
On the other hand, you should be happy to have a job now.
First, go out for a walk, don't worry about not having time.
Where you usually need to work, you can't go out to play at all. Let's have a free and in-depth tour. You don't need to worry about not getting a call, you don't need to calculate the time, and you can buy a ticket directly when you want to return. It's not the peak tourist season. Tickets are easy to buy.
Second, you can use these three months to sort out the direction of progress.
So use this time to plan your career.
Third, clean up the room, wash it, and meet the future days cleanly.
How to sweep the world without sweeping the house!
Kitchen and bathroom are the places where bacteria are most likely to breed and have the highest utilization rate. Rare leisure, completely clean.
Fourth, filial piety to parents. You don't have time at ordinary times, and you certainly don't have time for work in the future.
After going to work, my parents are empty nesters and they are getting older and older. Old people need more care. Children don't care about them. Should those who promote health care products "take care of" them?
Care, care, care about the money in their pockets.
Fifth, give your body a general cleaning. For example, do a micro-plastic surgery, or a minor operation that needs to be done.
For example, your face needs a little adjustment. If you want to make the face that is too plastic surgery look less big, you must have a face-lifting needle.
For example, in places that should not grow, such as stones and small sarcomas, they should be removed as soon as possible to avoid occupying space.
The house is tens of thousands of square meters, and the body is only that big. There is no room for those things that don't belong to my body to occupy.
Sixth, you can read some books.
I don't know how many books I can finish in my life. I don't know. I can't count. The author's life experience and the life of the ancients can be understood through books.
Knowing more about other people's experiences can save you a lot of detours.
Seven, you can enjoy movies that you don't usually watch.
Movies can realize what we usually can't. Let us feel other people's lives through our eyes and ears, which we will never understand.
Eight, pick up your hobbies and start over.
Hobbies, love is good.
Hobbies can make people calm down, stop thinking, kill boring time and make money.
Maybe one day suddenly, through hobbies, you don't have to worry about having no food.
Visit the city where you are staying and find the beauty of this city in the corner where you usually don't have time to look.
Most people don't care about the beauty around them, just like the city we live in. Although there are many problems, such as traffic jams and dirty places, in this city, our blood and meat are connected.
When you are tired, discover the beauty of the city where you live!
Write about the past and look forward to the future.
Make plans year after year, and you can't finish them year after year.
It doesn't matter. Every year's new life begins with a plan, and the end of each year is a summary of the unfinished plan.