"My wife and I have been married for less than a year, and now both of them want to change their roles through sex-change surgery. My wife can provide organ replacement for Yiyi. " A slightly nervous male voice expressed a somewhat incomprehensible idea.
On the morning of August 13, Chen Li (pseudonym) and his wife Ling Chiang (pseudonym) at the other end of the phone rushed to Changsha from their hometown in Jiangyong County and appeared in Wang Hong's office building. It is hard to imagine that this pair of middle-aged newlyweds with simple clothes, simple appearance and indistinguishable manners want to change their sex through surgery at the same time.
Why do they want to change sex?
Husband: He is shy and likes to be taken care of by his wife.
Li Chen, who was born in 1975, didn't marry Ling Chiang, her age, because of her introverted personality. Until recently, she was arranged by a matchmaker. The previous two failed love experiences not only made Chen Li feel a little anxious, but also made him more afraid of communicating with strangers. Jiang Ling answered more questions for him in the interview.
"I grew up in front of my parents and didn't leave home until high school. Suddenly, I was at a loss, which made me realize my female psychology. " With the help of Ling Jiang, Li Chen told a story off and on. "When I was in the first grade, the school adopted a boarding management system. Leaving my parents suddenly made me feel so unaccustomed that I couldn't even sleep well. It was not until one day after the lights went out in the dormitory that a male classmate talked to me for a long time that I found the feeling of being loved. "
Chen Li said frankly that it was from that night that he had an inexplicable psychological dependence on the strong boy in the dormitory and began to like chatting and studying with that boy. It was not until she married Ling Chiang that she turned her psychological dependence to her wife.
"If I become a real woman, I can always be taken care of by her. Moreover, I also enjoy the feeling of being taken care of, which makes me find the warmth of being taken care of before. " Chen Li said.
Wife: If I were a man, I wouldn't be bullied by my mother-in-law.
Compared with Chen Li's feminine psychology since high school, his wife Jiang Ling's reason for wanting to change sex is very simple and straightforward. "If I can become a man through surgery, he will become a woman. I want to marry him again so that my mother-in-law will never bully me again. "
Before meeting Li Chen, Ling Jiang was married and had a child, but the child died unfortunately. Because of her past, Li Chen's mother thought it was too bad for her son to find a divorced woman, and never paid attention to their marriage.
"I feel very wronged. No matter how well I do, I can't get my mother-in-law's love. She scolds me several times a day before I feel comfortable. " Although Ling Jiang is outgoing, her eyes don't turn red when she talks about the contradiction with her mother-in-law. She said she was abused by her mother-in-law every day when she was at home. Sometimes it is true that housework is not done well, but more often it is the mother-in-law who is "unreasonable".
Until one day, Ling Chiang quarreled with her mother-in-law and said angrily to Li Chen, "If I were a man, you would be a woman. You don't have to be bullied by your mother-in-law every day. " Unexpectedly, this sentence gave Chen Li great inspiration. Just a few months after their marriage, the two discussed the issue of transsexuality many times.
"My body and spirit are better than Chen Liqiang's, so I am suitable to be a man to take care of him. Chen Li also hopes to be taken care of by me all the time. " Jiang Ling said firmly. Jerry Lee always smiled shyly and lowered his head.
After sex change, we will continue to live together.
Talking about the life after sex change, Ling Jiang said that she would continue to live with Li Chen. But the difference is that a few months ago, Li Chen married herself, but after the sex change, she married Li Chen herself.
However, considering that the child has died, Ling Chiang hopes to have another child with Chen Lisheng before the operation. At the same time, she is also worried about the cost of the operation and whether she can live a normal life after the operation.
Regarding Chen Li's view that Ling Chiang and Yiyi should have organ transplantation, Xie Yangchun, chief physician of the Plastic Surgery Hospital of China Academy of Medical Sciences, said that organ transplantation is not needed for general transsexual surgery now. Most surgical cases are consolidated by transplanting the surgeon's own body tissue and taking sex hormones for a period of time after surgery.
Reporter's Notes: The Absurdity of Family Conflicts
At first, when we got a call from Chen Li, the couple's idea surprised us. The idea that most transsexuals are unmarried men and women, but it is rare for married couples to want to change sex at the same time.
However, after the interview, the reporter felt that the biggest problem facing the couple was just ordinary family conflicts, which did not need to be solved in the extreme way of transsexuality, and could not solve their problems at all. If the past marriage history is unacceptable to her mother-in-law, if their husband and wife change sex at the same time, I am afraid that Chen's mother can't stand it even more, which may lead to a series of unexpected consequences.
As for Chen Li's shyness and dependence on his wife, it is not uncommon in real life. It is normal to have a certain sense of dependence on male wives, but the degree of dependence is different due to various factors of both men and women. Husband and wife should depend on each other and live together.
I hope you can help them after reading this report. What they need most now is the care and guidance of friends and neighbors, so that they can calm down and return to a normal life track.