People in China are always reserved.

The most intuitive performance is never to openly discuss explicit topics.

Breast, a term related to the body, is taboo in public, as if it would be labeled negatively when mentioned.

A documentary "Looking for Breasts" broke this tradition.

In the old inn being demolished, the interview lens was aimed at 30 women and recorded their understanding of their bodies:

I hate big breasts that affect running, don't want ovaries, and feel that my body doesn't belong to me when I give birth.

From these 30 people, the president found some answers to the breast and body problems that plague countless women.

It's not your fault that thousands of people are ashamed to say this.

Many women have bad memories about breasts.

When chatting with the president, a reader said: I have been painfully correcting my posture recently, and I wrote it on the back of my hand; Keep your back straight; Remind yourself to always pay attention.

Speaking of reasons: actually, I did it myself. When I was in junior high school, all the girls in my class were just developing, and I was the only one who was particularly obvious.

Although I have taken a biology class, I can't expect male students of that age to understand what respect for women is, so I feel that people everywhere look at me differently, and even some boys will implicitly tell me that they usually discuss my breasts in private conversations.

The whole person has been used to it since the second day of junior high school. Atrophy; Dare not run or jump, even if you dare not jump, bow your back and shrink your chest when sitting. Over time, I can't get rid of my hunchback.

The strange eyes of others make many imperfect girls feel disgusted with their bodies.

Before looking for a shot of breasts, a woman admitted that she didn't like wearing bras and rims.

Another woman was distressed because she didn't wear lovely clothes after puberty.

People around you will always whisper that her mother has not done her duty, and should urge her daughter to buy a cute cover as soon as possible.

Before high school, I want to be born a boy. I don't like the fact that I have breasts.

They never mentioned the hidden pain of being pointed at and laughed at at at the chest meeting.

In addition to breasts, some women also deliberately ignore menstruation.

AditiGupta, a TED speaker, recalled her painful adolescence and said:

When I first got my period, I was told not to tell anyone about it, even my father and brother.

Later, there was a chapter on menstruation in the textbook, and the biology teacher skipped the content directly.

This once made her feel very ashamed when she was young. In order to keep her dignity, she had to pretend that she didn't know how to do it.

Obviously it is your own body, but because of the attitude of others, you should deliberately ignore some changes.

Breast and menstruation always seem to be accompanied by curious and suggestive eyes and topics.

The president can't help asking: breasts, menstruation, fertility, figure, fat and thin.

Why do these normal words become a shame for women?

Those disappearing gender education

Talking about breast color changes or physical advantages is related to our gender education.

In the documentary, a woman said: In fact, before I graduated from high school, I was a person without gender (consciousness).

The survey data of Beijing Women's Federation and China Education Research Institute are even more worrying: 74% parents avoid talking about sex with their children;

More than one tenth of junior high school students are still in the stage of fully understanding what sex is.

Sexual knowledge depends on your own experience, and parents have never popularized it. This is the status quo of many families.

When children have ideas about this knowledge, parents will often be embarrassed, reprimanded, avoided, or make up endless lies that you picked up from the garbage.

These answers will not solve children's doubts, but will only make children more and more troubled by their own physical changes:

Unclear gender consciousness, inferiority because of development, fear of menstruation and the use of sanitary napkins, and ridicule because of imperfect appearance.

The lack of guidance education makes many girls naturally think that these things should not be mentioned and not accepted by others.

Singing Chen, the director of Looking for Breasts, said that she is also a woman. She was taught to sit, stand, walk and how to dress up to conform to the image of women since she was a child.

But about beauty and ugliness, about body, about physiology, these things that are closest to a child are rarely mentioned.

In the final analysis, this is a deficiency.

She hopes that the self-awakening of these 30 women can make those girls who can't accept themselves accept themselves and let those girls who deliberately ignore their bodies see themselves:

Your body, after all, belongs only to yourself.

Beauty and ugliness are up to you.

I don't live for others. If one day I lose weight, it's because I want to fly and do something that fat people can't do.

This is what the fat girl Wang Qi said in the documentary Looking for Breasts.

In the eyes of most people, Wang Qi is overweight, which is seriously out of touch with mainstream aesthetics.

She works hard at her favorite job, but netizens still regard her with special respect:

Does your mother know that you are so fat?

Many people are used to denying everything about a girl by her appearance, so it is easy to destroy it.

A blogger once started a collection. When asked if he was bothered by weight problems, the comments were unexpected.

No matter how much the golden girl weighs, almost everyone thinks she is too fat.

In order to achieve the so-called ideal figure, many people try their best to lose weight.

Once a girl shared her beauty experience with a video. In order to get rid of the shadow of the ugly duckling in high school, she finally became the champion of summer dance after plastic surgery and dieting.

However, she found that she missed several months of menstruation, hair loss and molting, and suffered from anorexia.

Stars active on the big screen are getting thinner and thinner, online celebrities turn photos into chopsticks legs without radian, and clothing stores are becoming less and less.

So many people began to agree that girls should be like this.

It is not only teenage girls who are troubled by weight, but also pregnant women who have given birth are an important group of anxiety.

Big and small S are entertainment stars in the name of thinness, and they are also mothers who have given birth to children.

After the production of Big S, we customized the recipe of only eating brunch, halving each meal and not eating staple food at noon.

Many stars will take photos of slim waist and smiling faces after giving birth, which proves that they have recovered well.

However, during pregnancy, the pregnant woman's whole body is swollen, her stomach is covered with stretch marks, and she is naive and weak after giving birth. At this time, it is a problem to restore health, not to mention losing a few pounds in a short time.

Sometimes, it is not really fat that makes girls dissatisfied with their bodies, but the harsh criticism of girls' appearance by society.

The collarbone should be able to hold coins, the chest should not be too big or too small, the waist should be A4, and the ant legs should be thin and straight.

The beautiful standard of pattern renovation has ruined the confidence of many girls.

But the president wants to say that no matter how tall or thin, every girl is unique and belongs to her own individual.

Just here, a plus-size girl looking for breasts, she finally stood in the light of the studio with a proud attitude.

She held her head high with confidence, straightened her chest, and accepted this chubby self calmly.

She sang in live webcasts, shared her life, performed plays and even went to an art school as a model.

Outside ridicule, blame, Wang Qi not care:

I am not afraid of other people's eyes. I don't live for others.

Even under criticism and prejudice, she will fight for the beautiful rights of fat girls.

Wang Qi is not only not ashamed of her obesity, but also regrets the ideas of many fat girls.

Not only handsome men and beautiful women with standard figure can enjoy beauty. Why do fat people have no right to enjoy beauty?

Accepting your body is the first step to getting better.

What kind of attitude should I use to face everyone?

The documentary gives the answer: accept yourself.

If you are ashamed to say it, it will become a weapon for others to attack you;

And when you can take it lightly, everyone else's pointing fingers is no big deal.

Amber, a girl who hasn't worn a suspender skirt for many years, envied the coolness and fatness of Japanese artist Naomami Watanabe, so last summer, she decided to challenge a suspender skirt.

When my best friend helped her choose a bright yellow dress with suspenders, Amber's first reaction was:

This is too exposed. I have meat on my stomach.

Finally, she couldn't help being persuaded by her best friend. Amber tried on this very revealing skirt.

From the moment she walked out of the fitting room, she looked at herself in the mirror. Amber froze: Is this still me?

Wearing a sexy dress, I am completely different from usual. I am surprised to find myself looking good.

Walking on the road, Amber was a little embarrassed: I felt that everyone was watching me.

At the moment of entering the subway, in the closed space, she once again felt that she had become the object of scrutiny, and all the negative emotions were unobstructed at that moment. When she returned to the company, she changed her clothes.

Fortunately, with the encouragement of colleagues, Amber finally put on a new dress with suspenders.

But when she walked into the office, she was still standing behind her best friend, trying to hide herself.

Imaginary criticism and questioning didn't come, and she was greeted by her colleagues' glowing eyes and sincere praise.

It turns out that not so many people care about your fleshy body. In their eyes, you are showing unique beauty in clothes that fit you.

There will never be a 100% perfect figure, and that imperfect you are you.

In other words, there is no standard for beauty.

Accepting your body is not as difficult as you think.

You can start by looking directly at yourself in the mirror and praising yourself, tolerating your own shortcomings and accepting imperfections.

On the basis of keeping healthy, eat and exercise reasonably, and keep a relaxed and happy mind.

Let every exercise be not only for the numbers in weighing scale, but also for having more energy to face life.

A woman's body is not an ornament that needs constant repair and carving, nor is it a forbidden area that is ashamed to speak, but a weapon that takes us to perceive the world, accept ourselves and conquer discipline.

As mentioned in the short film: The less confident you are, the more you have to control and overcome it.