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The knife mouth and the bean curd heart have always said that the words are sharp, but the heart is very kind.

In life, there are many such people, and mother is the most representative.

Mothers sometimes scold their children with very mean words, but later they will show gentleness, which makes many people have an illusion that their mothers have always been "malicious."

Therefore, even after marriage, I have been instilling in my lover the idea that "my mother is a knife mouth and a tofu heart".

Colleague Xiao is an outspoken person. She can't hide anything in her heart Every day when we chat at lunch, she will share some things about her family with us, both happy and sad.

Gradually, we learned from her that she has a very mean mother-in-law and a husband who always defends her mother. Because my father-in-law died early, it is not good to leave her mother-in-law to live outside alone, so Xiaoxi lives with her mother-in-law.

Xiaoxi said that every time her mother-in-law scolded her with very mean words, she felt unbearable. She will complain to her husband about her mother-in-law's behavior, hoping to get comfort, and hope that her husband will enlighten her and not use such mean words in the future.

But the husband always replied, "Oh, don't worry too much. My mother is a knife with a heart. She often scolds me like this. It will be fine after a while. "

"knife mouth and tofu heart" is the standard description of Xiaoxi's husband to his mother. Many times, after Xiaoxi is scolded by her mother-in-law, her husband will always be: my mother is a knife mouth and a tofu heart.

At first, Xiao Xi felt the same way, thinking that her mother-in-law was not bad, but a little mean. However, in later years, Xiao Xi discovered that her mother-in-law treats her loved ones with a knife mouth and a bean curd heart, while others with a knife mouth and a knife heart.

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Once, her husband came home late and was very drunk. The mother-in-law scolded her husband and helped him to bed.

Early the next morning, she still scolded her son for not being sensible, but gave him honey water to show off to the stream. Look, that's what my mother is.

But the same thing happened to the little one, but it was a different result.

That day, at her parents' party, Xiao Xi was drunk and dizzy, and her husband took her home. When her mother-in-law knew that Xiao Xi was ugly when drinking, she even used the words that women were too open to drink and were not afraid of accidents.

This makes Xiao feel wronged. She drinks at her parents' house, let alone at her husband's company. What will happen?

The next day, Xiao Xi was still awake, and her mother-in-law shouted to her husband that she must let him take care of it and not let it go.

In the next few days, my mother-in-law will take this matter to the stream. Xiaoxi seems to have committed a big crime by drinking here.

Xiaoxi apologized and finally turned things around.

On another occasion, Xiao Xi upset her mother-in-law because she didn't turn off the light. Mother-in-law thinks she wastes electricity, but Xiao Xi disagrees and quarrels with her mother-in-law.

My husband fell asleep at night, and Xiaoxi had to work overtime to catch up with the copy, so she tapped the keyboard in front of the computer and cut off the internet halfway.

I checked the computer and found nothing wrong, so I thought there might be something wrong with the router. The router is in her mother-in-law's room. Xiaoxi was a little suspicious that her mother-in-law had unplugged the network cable, so she got up to check whether the router was normal.

As a result, I walked to the door of my mother-in-law's house, only to find that her door was locked from the inside, so Xiaoxi knocked on the door and called her mother-in-law to open the door. As a result, my mother-in-law said that she was asleep, so I will talk about it tomorrow.

No matter how Xiaoxi explained the importance of copywriting, her mother-in-law wouldn't open the door.

The next day, Xiaoxi went to check the router. There was no problem, but it was turned off.

There are many things that make Xiao Xi suddenly realize. Every time I don't see the tofu heart behind the knife mouth, it is one problem after another that is deliberately targeted.

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Maybe, sometimes, a woman will be cruel to her children, but it may be a little difficult for her daughter-in-law.

Because in the eyes of some mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law is not one of our own, and everyone will instinctively pay attention to their words and deeds when treating a person who is not one of their own.

Therefore, it is not necessarily a tofu heart for a mother-in-law to speak with a knife, because a person with a tofu heart will not hurt people even if she speaks with a knife.

I went to Menstruation House a few days ago, and Menstruation was very gentle to her daughter-in-law and friendly every time. She is not very kind to her cousin.

When I buy food, I will have a friendly chat with my daughter-in-law about some interesting things, and I will enter her room with her consent. My words and actions are polite and kind.

I asked why you haven't whispered to your son and daughter-in-law during menstruation.

Menstruation says, "I know my own son. It is polite to talk to him. On the contrary, my wife is somebody else's daughter-in-law. If she doesn't talk well, she will misunderstand what to do. She doesn't mean anything. Why does she speak hurtful words? "

I was impressed by the words of menstruation, and I didn't have malicious thoughts. There was no need to say hurtful words.

Menstruation once revealed that when the daughter-in-law made herself unhappy, she couldn't say anything nice, and sometimes she vented her emotions and made a few sarcastic remarks.

Of course, menstruation can't satirize him with words when he is in a good mood. According to the words of menstruation, when he is in a good mood, he will not say harsh words and hurt others.

Therefore, the mother-in-law of menstruation writes all the good and bad things on her face. She was really angry when she scolded her daughter-in-law. She scolded her when she was angry. She made a big mistake by complaining casually about trifles. Menstruation is also very vicious.

But in normal times, menstruation will never be mean, and kind words always coexist between her and her wife.

Menstruation has never said that she is a malicious person. In her world, what is mood and what is speech.

"The Little Prince" said: "The most conquering weapon in the world is language. A word can make a person's mood fall into a trough, and a word can also make a person regain strength. "

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Some experts have said: people who have a knife mouth may really have a knife heart.

Because there are few choices in human nature that are duplicity and duplicity, sometimes, some languages are instinct, and the language expressed is nature.

Therefore, I advise those men who think their mother is cruel and heartless not to be stubborn.

There is a sense of boundary between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law When your mother really speaks ill of her daughter-in-law, she may really have resentment in her heart.

At this time, try to balance the relationship between mother-in-law and mother, treat it correctly and deal with it accordingly. Instead of blaming all the problems on "my mother is a knife mouth and a tofu heart", and then let the situation develop regardless of my wife's emotions.

Such a thing is likely to be in a dilemma or lose-lose in the end.

In fact, I've never been very optimistic about those people who are mean and heartless. I have read such a sentence: since tofu heart, why knife mouth?

Even the closest child can't stand the torture of the knife mouth.

The influence of hearing and feeling is equally important. Some mothers think that it is enough for them to feel my love, so they think that language is not important. As everyone knows, the damage caused by hearing is close to the soul, which really makes children sad.

When mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along, it's best to be customer-oriented, not too close, not deliberately alienated, and keep a friendly attitude, so that the distance between them is appropriate.

The mouth of the knife, whether it is a mother-in-law or an ordinary person, had better be corrected. Language violence is cruel. The knife mouth really has nothing to show off. It is best to stay away from it and let good words become a way of life.