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Chat with H and talk about love. He said: I only look for looks and figure when looking for a girlfriend.
I asked back: Isn’t it difficult to find girls with good looks and figures?
H said: It’s okay if you have the same appearance and figure.
I was surprised by what H said, but when I think about it carefully, there is nothing wrong with what he said. After all, it is a kind of honesty to dare to speak your true thoughts.
Frankness is, after all, much better than those who say that love is enough, don’t care about anything, don’t look at anything, but are actually making all kinds of small calculations in their hearts and acting uninhibitedly. .
I don’t think any girl would want to marry a man who can only talk but has no actual actions. On the contrary, boys like H do not mince words and say what they say, but their words and deeds are always consistent and they can do what they say.
Perhaps many people think that people who only look at appearance and figure are too superficial. But ask yourself, faced with a sloppy appearance, are you really willing to put in the effort to understand his/her inner self? Even if he has a rich soul.
02
Chatting with H reminded me of Doudou’s ex-boyfriend Dagua.
Dagua is a typical duplicity type. In his place, a straw can be blown up into the sky and become the stars and moon in the sky.
When Doudou and Dagua first met, Doudou fainted at Dagua's sweet words.
As for Da Gua’s mouth, all I have to do is use the words from Qiong Yao’s drama: You are the wind and I am the sand, lingering to the end of the world... The mountains have no edges, the heaven and the earth are harmonious, so I dare to...
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In just one month, Doudou was deceived by Dagua's all-talk-no-acts trick. Of course, Doudou really fell in love with Dagua at that time. She was blinded by love and didn't know that Dagua was just a smooth talker.
What then? Once you get it, Dagua won’t cherish it anymore. They were once said to be a lavish couple, but after they got together, they seemed like a different person. He no longer cares about Doudou, and even treats her badly. Isn't this the wolf in sheep's clothing sung in that song?
Doudou fell ill and went to the hospital, while Daguawo played games in the dormitory. The two made an appointment to go to the park on the weekend, but Dagua overslept and made Doudou wait at the park gate for two hours. The two quarreled, and Dagua actually hit Doudou...
A man who can hit a woman is really not a good thing.
While crying, Doudou blamed herself for being blind and falling in love with such a scumbag.
In the end, Doudou handsomely splashed water on Dagua’s face and broke up with him decisively.
Of course, not all men are as bad as big melons. There are indeed good men who can talk and do what they say.
The reason why I share the experiences of Doudou and Dagua is just to illustrate one point: those who can talk to make girls happy are not necessarily good men, and those who speak straightforwardly and disagreeably are not all bad men.
Whether a man is good or bad, whether he should marry or not, should be understood deeply through a certain amount of time and getting along with him. Never judge a person casually based on a few words.
03
I asked a few girls around me if they only look for looks and figure when looking for a girlfriend. Would you dare to marry such a boy?
The answers are basically divided into two categories:
Category A: Just looking at appearance and figure will still make people feel a little superficial, insecure, and unwilling to marry.
Category B: If you have similar interests and like each other, then you are definitely willing to marry. The premise is that this man is worth trusting for life. Boys who only look at their looks and figure are not necessarily bad, at least they are real.
I think the two answers, A and B, are probably the girls’ 18 and 25 years old!
At the age of 18, we are not disappointed in love yet. Even if you have lost love and been heartbroken, you still believe in love. I hold a burning heart in my arms, hoping that that person can be as handsome as in the idol drama, can say nice things, will do everything possible to make you happy, will accompany you until you grow old, and even love you as much as life. .
Only when you have gone through the temper of time, been stabbed several times in love, bled, been injured, and scabbed, can you finally escape from the dream of love and relieve your ideals. The spell of love.
You are finally willing to admit: good love does not mean that he fulfills all your fantasies about love. It's about adding up the trivial beauty of ordinary life one by one. It doesn't need to be grand or earth-shattering. You are independent of each other in your own world and treat each other tenderly in each other's world.
Because I met you, I became a better version of myself. It's simple, as long as it's you, everything is enough.
Zhang Jiajia once said that all strength is a cocoon born of gentleness.
I would like to say that the current sanity is just the scab formed by the recklessness of the past.
So, for those of us who are 25 years old, even if he says: I only look for looks and figure when looking for a girlfriend, you will not be scared away immediately. The key is whether he is the right person. If it happens to be that person, but he just says something you don't like to hear, what does it matter.
Do you still expect the other person to say to you: I don’t care about appearance, let alone body, I only care about what’s inside.
If you meet such a person, then you ask him: How can you see clearly what is inside me, with a magnifying glass or a microscope?
I like him because of his appearance, talent and loyalty to his character.
Before getting caught up in talent and loyalty to character, don’t forget that the beginning is still about good looks.
Those so-called love at first sight, to put it bluntly, isn’t it just that you fall in love with the other person’s face or figure? It is still a fact if you don’t admit it. Anyway, you can’t see a sparkling heart through perspective, no way!
Therefore, there is no need to assume that a boy is superficial as soon as he says that he only looks for looks and figure when looking for a girl.
Maybe he was just being honest!