Have you ever had concerns about your appearance?

Are you satisfied with your appearance? Whenever we face ourselves in the mirror, we can always find all kinds of small flaws, "It would be nice if I had double eyelids", "It would be nice if the pores on my face were smaller", "It would be nice if the bridge of my nose was higher. "It would be great if I could stop getting acne."

Why do we have appearance anxiety?

1. Appearance anxiety under the influence of social media

Most celebrities and Internet celebrities frequently post beautiful photos of themselves on social media. With the help of careful photo editing and layers of filters, they all have "beautiful faces" and "sexy figures." We can't help but compare ourselves with these beauties, and appearance anxiety was born.

2. Anxiety about external appearance caused by capitalism

In order to be able to sell their products, businesses continue to create anxiety in consumers. "A yellow-faced woman who is reluctant to spend money on skin care will have her husband cheat on her." "Obviously she is only 25 years old, but she is called an aunt by others because she does not take care of herself." There are also advertisements from plastic surgery hospitals that "A woman's life will be complete only when she is in good health." "Catalyzed by capitalism, appearance anxiety has further intensified.

3. Appearance anxiety caused by single aesthetics

When there is a unified standard for beauty, people who do not meet the standard will naturally be labeled "not beautiful". Many people in East Asia There is a deep obsession with "white, young and thin", resulting in girls who do not meet this standard being considered "unbeautiful". If you look at Western countries, it is not difficult to find that many white people regard wheat-colored skin as a symbol of health, and thus the "tanning" medical beauty project was born.

How to get rid of appearance anxiety?

1. Don’t compare your own disadvantages with others’ advantages

In fact, many glamorous Internet celebrities still have acne, dark circles, enlarged pores, and poor skin color after removing makeup. Problems such as dullness. Everyone has their own imperfections, so there is no need for us to dwell on our shortcomings. It is better to focus on the advantages of our appearance. For example, "Oil skin is less prone to wrinkles", "Dry skin does not feel greasy", "A round face looks younger", "Single eyelids are more recognizable", "People who are thinner than you may not have as big breasts as you" etc.

2. Don’t let appearance become the only source of self-affirmation

For example, Dong Mingzhu, the chairman of Gree Electric Appliances, others will only see her career achievements and use her appearance. Do you use standards to evaluate her? Everyone ages, and no one can stay young and beautiful forever. Time can take away your appearance, but it cannot take away your talent and strength. Instead of just focusing on appearance, it's better to spend more time improving your knowledge base.

3. Don’t care too much about other people’s opinions

Everyone has their own aesthetics, and others will evaluate your appearance according to their own aesthetics. People who like big breasts will feel that You are too thin and not plump enough; people who pursue skinny will think you are not thin enough. No matter what you do, there will always be people who are dissatisfied with you.

So why bother with yourself?