I always feel in my heart that our environment and education are similar. Why is the difference so big? I still feel unbalanced. But it is still a long process for me to have the consciousness of wanting to change and really make up my mind to change.
First of all, in the second grade of junior high school, a girl borrowed from school was transferred to the class. Big eyes, fair skin, slim figure and soft voice instantly won the love of all the boys in the class and even outside the class. Even the female students at school can't help but pay attention to her behavior and dress.
This incident touched me a lot, and I felt that this girl was like an ideal girl in her prime. And those of us who have mushroom heads and are constantly encouraged by our parents to eat more on the grounds of long body are completely tomboys and have no sense of beauty at all. Even if you can pick out a few good ones, you will lose a lot in temperament and figure.
Later, I began to save pocket money and went to the bookstore to buy some books and magazines about fashion and clothing. I felt like I was secretly practicing immortality. Although the change is not big, but the heart is happy.
However, after entering the intense high school life, I relaxed my requirements again.
Third, pay attention to your image, all the way to college. Universities are much more open than middle schools, and many girls begin to learn makeup and wear women's clothes with obvious gender characteristics. With the foundation laid by reading magazines before, my appearance and clothes have gradually changed.
Later, it was found that only paying attention to the beauty of appearance and fashionable dress was superficial, giving people a feeling of no connotation. It is often said that people embroider pillows and vases. Obviously, such people are not my type.
Later, I began to consciously read more classic books to increase my personal knowledge, which also helped to improve my personal temperament.
Changing yourself is not a one-off event, it is based on mature thinking and self-awareness awakening. In other words, at the very least, you have to understand what you really want in your heart. Only in this way can we have the direction and motivation to change.
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