A 35-year-old female plastic surgeon tells you: It's not that my parents think I should get married, that my friends and colleagues think I should get married, or that my best friend thinks I should get married, but that I have been single for too long, and I think I should get married! !
Mei Ran is a female surgeon. At the age of 35, apart from a pair of double eyelids many years ago, she has been silly to tell the difference between nature and nurture. Her bloated figure, including her simple or even slightly sloppy dress, always makes people unable to associate her with a "female plastic surgeon", and even makes people wonder: Does she shape the beauty of others because her own figure and appearance have caught up?
Sleep until about eight o'clock every day, get up lazily, and often go out to work without washing and dressing up.
Take a 20-minute walk and lose weight! Passing the convenience store on the corner, she always remembers to buy herself ham and bread for breakfast. Which brand of bread strawberry jam is the most authentic, and what kind of ham tastes best with less starch and more meat, she will know as soon as she smells it.
There will be an early meeting at nine o'clock, but whenever she goes out, she will always be a few minutes late and sneak in through the back door. The dean has long been used to her behavior.
From this point of view, she is very much like a company executive who doesn't follow the routine in the movie, is unruly and has unkempt hair. After all, not everyone can do whatever they want! !
The morning meeting is over and the day's work begins normally!
Receiving consultation, face-to-face consultation, arranging surgery, entering the operating room, and ending the operation ... hair removal, tattoo, thread carving, botulinum toxin, double eyelid breast augmentation, buttocks augmentation ... Sometimes I have to be busy from morning to work, and I don't even have time to have lunch. I almost fainted when I walked out of the operating room!
However. What makes her feel tired recently is that Cory has a dinner party. When her colleagues helped her back to the rental house when she was drunk, their so-called "it's not easy for me to be alone" made her cry like a man. Seeing that all the female colleagues who worked overtime were picked up, she could only take a taxi home alone. She said, "I don't want to be alone, I want to get married!" " "
If this is the reason for marriage, and it is indeed a legitimate reason for marriage, then she is lucky. At least in this era when there are many reasons not to get married, she is willing to find a stable life.
Maybe I can comfort myself when I am in doubt: Why do people get married? Not so much. Why?
When I first saw this problem, I thought about countless reasons, even I couldn't sleep in the toilet. However, when I finally couldn't give an idea and behavior that was in line with most people, I gave up.
Maybe you don't need a reason to get married at all?
In the eyes of parents, men should marry and women should marry. Older men and women are always laughed at by their neighbors. If you don't get married, you can't live a lifetime alone! What's more, "raising children to prevent old age" has long been deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.
Back to modern times, women's economic independence and growing strength make them increasingly refuse to enter the marriage hall. Among them, the most specious reason is that a person enjoys himself, waits on his husband when he is married, and depends on his mother-in-law's face when he gives birth to a child. What should I do if no one cares about postpartum depression? The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is more difficult! Still want to get married? Ha ha, that's stupid woman's behavior!
This statement successfully hit the face: "Marriage, men have been legally married for a long time, and women have long-term meal tickets."
In addition, the call for "equality between men and women" for more than half a century is still just a slogan, and the ratio of men and women is seriously unbalanced. Not long ago, Huang Youguang, a professor at Fudan University, even suggested "polygamy" to alleviate the imbalance between men and women.
Patriarchal society has ruled China for thousands of years instead of matriarchal society. Now the matriarchal society is back. Is history going backwards?
Some netizens even ridiculed: Polygamy is better than starting with a wife!
For a woman like me, when a system is born, let alone a system that once existed in people's lives and has been eliminated, who will be willing to accept it except a few beneficiaries?
I think this is really not a good suggestion!
Zhang Xiaoxian's View on Marriage —— Marrying for Love.
It is also mentioned in the Book of Songs that marriage is the sublimation of love.
However, who and whose love can always be fresh? As a result, the divorce rate is getting higher and higher, which has become the status quo that two people have to face in marriage. If you want a divorce in the future, there is no need to get married today!
This is really a nerve-racking problem, but if you are afraid of divorce and don't get married, it's like a hunger strike and you are always afraid of choking for yourself.
Conversely, ask: Do you need a reason to eat? Do you need a reason to drink water? No need! No need!
What about getting married? Need a reason? No need! !
What is Murphy's Law?
Some people define it as one of the three major discoveries of western culture in the twentieth century. The more people worry, the more things will happen.
Have you ever had such an experience?
The company will hold an annual meeting tomorrow, and all the materials must be prepared today, and there must be no omissions.
So, you were too busy to climb into bed late. Because I didn't sleep well, my mental state was not as good as usual the next day. When you are ready to go on stage to make a department summary report, you find that some materials prepared last night have been forgotten to copy on your home computer! !
The same is true of marriage. If you are always worried about all kinds of problems, it is likely to appear in your psychological hints.
Murphy's law exists objectively. It's never too late to mend. When we are worried about the possible bad events in marriage, we can only try to change and avoid them from both psychological and behavioral aspects.
At this time, a normal heart is precious. Let us always be vigilant and learn to reflect: only with a positive attitude, positive language and correct behavior can we be full of strength and forge ahead.
People always say: marriage is not easy, and it is done and cherished.
However, if a few people can sit down and chat, which determines the marriage view of most people in contemporary times, then marriage is really vulnerable, and such marriage is not worth mentioning.
Practice is the only criterion for testing truth. If you refuse to move forward because you are worried or afraid, you will probably have to stand still!
Written at the end—
Under the introduction of matchmaking agencies, friends and colleagues, Mei Ran finally got a fairly satisfactory blind date. Although the other person is far from the prince charming in her heart in appearance and interior, she said: he is actually very good, but my previous requirements are too high.
Whether they can grow old together or not, for Mei Ran, at least she is willing to take off the bill, fall in love and find someone to marry, which is enough!
Back to reality, assuming that a person can live to 80 years old, according to social laws, he is likely to get married and have children before 30 years old. No accident, until the end of his life, he will be married for at least 50 years, accounting for more than half of his life.
At this point, people probably want to get married for the most straightforward reason: to live, to survive!
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Hello, I'm Xiang Le. I like reading, writing, walking and staring blankly. May it become a landscape and a story in your life ~ ~